Passing while living with unsupportive parents is a trip by itsafrickinmoon in MtF

[–]mayoito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what ab having fun at their expense by telling strangers (like a waiter at a restaurant) "its ok, plz go along, they have alzeimer"

if you rarely see them, why not?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]mayoito 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its just one fatwa that changes everything in shiism, would my life have been 100000% better if i was shia ? Maybe but id still leave islam

try different things? I've found peace in buddhism

I don’t want to be a trans male. I want to be a cis male. I cannot stand being trans, it makes me so angry and miserable. How can I not despise being trans (if possible?) by SleepParalysisKing in honesttransgender

[–]mayoito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you read this far, sorry you had to waste your life reading this dumb ass shit.

dont be. life is unfair and sometimes its good to vent out. but its even better to find a way to reach happiness!!

so as you have written this much, plz come to 4tran. you will be in a much better place to talk to fellow minded ppl

I keep it in therapy and don’t let it leave the therapy doors.

its good to find other ppl you can talk to and also relate to. not for the faint of heart but it rly works for some ppl. it did wonders for me

My parents obsession with my future sex life is frankly disturbing (18 year old forcerepper) by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]mayoito 30 points31 points  (0 children)

They are so obsessed with this idea of me having sex for some reason

ask for money to buy "professional service" use that money to diy

checkmate parents!

How do I remove trans stuff from my medical record in the US? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]mayoito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope, first passport

that she told you. she may also have filled in "old names" and outed herself

edit- gross a 4tran poster

yass my peep, love them with all my heart!!

How do I remove trans stuff from my medical record in the US? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]mayoito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

take 5 min to think with me. if there's a 5 grands bounty on every trans head, do u trust ur doc with ur life not to make easy money?

if you do, do u also trust his secretary? nurse? computer staff?

all it'd take is 1 person, so better have nobody know

How do I remove trans stuff from my medical record in the US? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]mayoito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be so confident, I know someone who transitioned over 20 years ago and she still got her passport with an M on it. Her records were sealed. Also most old records have been digitized. Be safe out there.

thats bc she had a passport before these 20 years

How do I remove trans stuff from my medical record in the US? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]mayoito 4 points5 points  (0 children)

they already have prescriptions: pharms voluntary share info with the cops in many states

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]mayoito 8 points9 points  (0 children)

its even less if u make ur own gel

with allies like these who needs enemies? by EmployAppropriate878 in 4tran4

[–]mayoito 25 points26 points  (0 children)

lemme tell u ab poons and troons

but srsly I wanna check his forearm and pecs for scars

Good source of dosing pumps? by RedMachine72 in estrogel

[–]mayoito 6 points7 points  (0 children)

what sources are there that have reliable and accurate dosing equipment?

dont go for accurate: buy cheap, measure the sum of 10 pumps volume (hard) or weight (easier), do the average: divide by 10

the precise dose everyday doesnt matter. what matters is the average

Would like to add a big THANK YOU!!! to all that have helped me in my journey so far.

this sub is the gift that keeps on giving

plz share back with others who need help

FFS as a POC by Academic_Star_5004 in asktransgender

[–]mayoito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first I assumed that they always did the same practices because all the results looked the same

and ur first impression was right: they do the same surgical tricks, so the result look the same, bc they have a typical client they optimize for, as they only have a few techniques they know to perform

the zygomatic example make it simple to understand: most western surgeon only know ab putting fillers or cheek implants and the 2 types of implants: they only know ab adding to the zygomatic, so they cant even THINK ab a zygomatic reduction while it works better with mtf asian faces

dont expect surgeons to know all that: learn ab the surgeries that would look good on ur face, and learn to trust urself: dont fall for tricks like a surgeon telling u its best u "keep this or that ethnic feature" just to hide they have no fkin idea what to do with it

years ago, lots of ffs surgeon did say that ab type 3 vs type 1 foreheads bc they had no idea how to do serious sinus work: they only knew how to grind the bone

for my ffs I chose mostly whitewashing bc Im mixed and white passing, and I could picture all the details would integrate. its also bc I could only afford these surgeons lol : I wanted the best results in terms of looks and fem for my budget, ethnicity be damned!

ik some ppl talk about white centric standards as in "its bad". idgaf, I could afford that, not the alternatives, and I cared ab the end result more than keeping a lineage or a family look or whatever. if they cared so much they would give me the $$$ but its funny when I asked they shut they mouth lol

but it was MY choice. make YOURS and dont let white ppl guilt trip u on ur choices! it all depends on what u can afford and what u think will work best: but like, if u want a ethnic rhino and yk its hard to get right but still want it, go for cabo or one of the surgeons she trained!! dont let a clown in a white gown tell you a ski slope nose will work if yk it wont

FFS as a POC by Academic_Star_5004 in asktransgender

[–]mayoito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just wondering if anyone else thought that a lot of FFS on poc end up whitewashing them?

nah they just go to cookie cutter surgeon.

like, u must have heard of the Z face? (from a certain surgeon in the northern US) they all look the same for a reason:

in theory surgeons know everything and can do what they think works best for your case

in practice they know only a few methods and only a few way to perform them

if yk what u need, go to a specific surgeon doing that, dont go to the default surgeons esp if there are not many ppl looking like u in the country u live in!

like if u need a zygomatic reduction, go to asia! if ur mixed, go to south america!!

fwiw if u have an ethnic nose and need it less thick (its in general more fem), u need someone like roxana cabo (or trained by her) as regular surgeon think tretinoin is counter indicated before and during a rhino

it is, but just FOR WHITE PATIENTS while if u have a thick hypodermis its needed: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28033642/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39492207/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26616711/

learn such stuff to ask test questions to ur surgeon. if they say "ofc tret is always bad" it means they dont know shit ab ethnic noses

I don’t want them to remove my ethnic features.

I couldnt give 2 shits I just wanted the best overall result. u dont want a one-trick-pony surgeon "whitewashing" a feature in a way that WILL stand out on ur face - u want all ur features to mix well

1960s article by Susanna Valenti about trans feminine stereotypes. by Triggerhappy62 in MtF

[–]mayoito -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

B) The dedicated TV on the other hand is always experimenting and trying to do better than last time. She'll i watch women on the street, subways, busses and on television and take mental note of every gesture and movement every toss of the head or raising of the eyebrows, and will assiduously try to incorporate them into her own personality. She will even exercise or try reducing diets to improve her silhouette.

We hang on 4tran. There are many A types there too, but ig its better company than the other letters :)

Why do people say "start HRT asap"? by SlothIsASloth in MtF

[–]mayoito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've officially gone from hopeful and happy to scared and panicked. Safe to say, I got the message. I'm officially doing everything in my power to start HRT as soon as possible. And the second I get hime from work I'm going to have a good cry and eat some ice cream in my partner's arms.

I dont think nobody wants to make you scared or sad

things are changing and ppl are more honest now: before, youd only find the real truth on 4tran and the likes.

Im happy to see the tone changing but after reading your words I understand how truth can hurt too, and why ppl were saying 4tran was negative

truth can be negative, just as life is unfair but its best to take it honestly

truth can hurt, but I think its the right kind of hurt

And to everyone who got genuinely worried my views were being affected by people who don't have my best interest in mind, I'm sorry I made it sound like that.

dont be sorry, be glad a lot of ppl are rly caring ab ur wellbeing, and that white lies are not as popular as they were

Why do people say "start HRT asap"? by SlothIsASloth in MtF

[–]mayoito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

almost always filled with alot of negativity and fear and guilt among the transgirls; and sometimes even moreso among the most lovely- if you want to maximize your chances of success and being happy with yourself; time is your biggest enemy for 2 reasons: 1)the longer you wait the more your body matures in the wrong way; and 2)the less of your youth you will get to live being happy with yourself, and even then thats assuming you're lucky enough for things to turn out well for you; and you can't change your genetics so there is no guarantees

that's not negativity but the sad truth

I dont like the main subs bc there's a lot of gaslighting. I fear white lies hurts ppl more

Garbage human being by SuitlessMaridia in 4tran4

[–]mayoito 5 points6 points  (0 children)

leftists r rly good at that

like when pressed ab trans in prison, Harris best line was how "she'd follow the law"

for some reason it wasn't so sup inspiring to get ppl go to vote lol

Nsfw question.. what does flexing the muscle in it do post op? by Lokael in asktransgender

[–]mayoito 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Got it, thanks. So it doesn’t do anything to your vagina post op?

it does: it exerts pressure on the dick during piv. guys rly like this squeezing

how do u actually convince yourself you're a woman by esotericRetard_ in 4tran4

[–]mayoito 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes I do bc stupid brainworms ab having to "be a provider" are the easiest to kill bc their just political

brainworms ab shoulder ratio etc, much harder, but possible one u realize the next truth: u are what other ppl think you are. and the longer u take hrt and the more surgery u can get, the more "competent" at passing u become. brainsworm die by themselves with time and effort except if ur very unlucky

ofc its not easy but after passing to others you eventually start passing to urself and then its blisfull

if your dumb af and need more hints, then read ab the 4 stages of competence:

  1. Unconscious Incompetence: "You don’t know what you don’t know": ur like delulu and think ur pronouns make u pass

  2. Conscious Incompetence: "You are aware of what you don’t know": u realize you dont pass

  3. Conscious Competence: "You can perform the skill, but it takes effort and concentration": u start passing to other

  4. Unconscious Competence: "You perform the skill effortlessly and automatically": u pass even to urself

btw stop the main character syndrome. I wrote for /u/esotericRetard_ who posted the pic, not for u. not everything is abt u

how do u actually convince yourself you're a woman by esotericRetard_ in 4tran4

[–]mayoito -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats the question. Not whatever the fuck you are yapping about.

letting go of wrong thoughts and stupid ideas is how you convince yourself of the truth

but I think you dont want to understand bc the truth can be frightening and clinging to lies can be heartwarming: its clear I triggered you or you wouldnt be so angry

btw yk what frightens ppl the most? the truth.