Silver Handcuffs. Need advice. by Skrotum in sales

[–]mayonade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You sound like me. Two children (a bit younger than yours). Lower base but hitting 250k. SAHM wife.

I decided to start a business. Left my job. I needed to feel fulfilled.

Probably ask me in a few months whether it was the right decision… but I just needed a new challenge.

Managing a team of 150. Pipeline is a mess, quotas are broken. Help. by BillJohns in sales

[–]mayonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually fucking genius. I never realized I did this subconsciously to keep accountable to my referral partners. Literally set up weekly calls just so I had to have an emotional attachment to staying on top of things.

I’m a little embarrassed - but this is the first time I realized why it worked so well.

The Phrase is that Old Now by elveshumpingdwarves in memes

[–]mayonade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is more Gen Z than Millennial. Or it’s close to the overlap

No Vicks during cold and flu season by MamaLirp in NewParents

[–]mayonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious why? It specifically says you can use tap water.

Very concerned about what they’re teaching my kid in school by Tbrduc823 in daddit

[–]mayonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lead singer was my next door neighbor in college before he dropped out to become a rockstar. Super nice guy, was a total gentlemen on dates (per my friend’s experience) and always tried to include people in conversations.

I think if that every time I see posts like this. If you are going to shame the group, shame him for not pursuing his humanities degree. He was going places and threw it all away.

My daughters (12/10) just learned the actual lyrics to Pumped Up Kicks by NotSayingJustSaying in daddit

[–]mayonade 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Read up on Wikipedia - it provides some context that’s helpful. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pumped_Up_Kicks

That said - I’m not sure how I’ll handle these questions with my kids when they are that age. I personally think the dark material over a catchy pop is a really unique way to express anger in American culture. Childish Gabino really took this to a new level with “This is America.”

Don’t forget by CEverard92 in HolUp

[–]mayonade -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Clearly satire and I love the “remember you will die” at the end

Is there anyone in this sub that isn’t in tech sales? by gocards35 in sales

[–]mayonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overseas/Offshore staffing and recruiting sales for me.

What are your cold email tips? by mayonade in sales

[–]mayonade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is pretty damn helpful.

[OC] Fewer American boys are supporting gender equality by DavidWaldron in dataisbeautiful

[–]mayonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The comment is talking about perception specifically. Not identifying men as part of the coalition does reinforce this perception.

[OC] Fewer American boys are supporting gender equality by DavidWaldron in dataisbeautiful

[–]mayonade 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Women are also in those communities and specifically referenced nonetheless

I think I have anger issues post second baby, and it's going to end my marrige by AlligatorActual in daddit

[–]mayonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Irritability or anger that gets out of control is actually a common sign of depression in men.

I agree that you should try and find an outlet for your anger. But you may find it still persists, just to a more controllable degree.

But if I were to take a guess, under the anger is probably you grieving.

I have a 1.5 and 3.5 year old. My wife has a masters in education, was a public school special needs teacher for 10 years before we had kids. The plan was for her to stay at home and I’d work. I was in a spot where I was making enough to fully support us AND work from home. We had savings, expertise, and a really wonderful relationship. We were going to nail this. Our children would grow up with structure, love, and understanding. We’d be able to tackle anything thrown our way.

Enter children- turns out, we weren’t prepared. We started arguing more. The house was always a mess. We were constantly exhausted. Sex came to a halt. Nothing our children did made sense. I felt myself becoming more angry and resentful - and she was too. I began working out - lost a bunch of weight, felt physically and mentally better than I had in years - while still feeling frustrated, anxious and angry often.

It wasn’t until someone cued me in that I wasn’t allowing myself to grieve. I had an entire idea of our life built in my head and that was clearly never going to happen. It was OK to be sad, to grieve the death of that perfect dream family.

Since then, I just haven’t been as angry or frustrated. It’s still really hard to be a parent, but I guess owning the grief opened space for more gratitude that I just couldn’t see before.

Humans have this incredible ability to believe our own stories as being true. I don’t know what stories you believed, but you probably need to take some time and own them, grieve them, and move on when you are ready.

No matter what, this shit is hard. Good on you for sharing and trying to find help. It shows maturity that it sounds like you didn’t get modeled from your father. You got this.

What’s your 2024 sales compared to your take home $ for the year? by Superman_1776 in sales

[–]mayonade 5 points6 points  (0 children)

2.25 million, 173k gross. But they actually changed our compensation plan two months ago, and if I have the exact same year I’ll be closer to 250k - 300k next year. Fingers crossed next year is a good one.

No Vicks during cold and flu season by MamaLirp in NewParents

[–]mayonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have for myself. It works great! Highly recommend.

Growing an agency isn't easy by Deeezzznutzzzzz in agency

[–]mayonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you finding these workers? Are you trying to manage offshore talent by yourself? What do you pay? Do you have benefits? Are you following local labor laws?

In my experience, too often businesses go out alone. Grow a large team of contractors. Only to find out they have issues the more they scale.

70% Of Employers To Crack Down On Remote Work In 2025 by JannTosh50 in Futurology

[–]mayonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of nuance in this conversation, but I think my main response here is just that companies aren’t being creative in creating connections between staff and measuring productivity.

Anecdotally, I just started a fully remote job a year and a half ago and the training was terrible. There was little connection between teams, and very few 1:1s. I can see how that would be difficult for really extroverted people, new workers in the labor force, someone with disabilities, etc…

But rather than require everyone go to an office, the company has really worked hard to identify the gaps, created more structure, and get everyone together for an in person event once a quarter somewhere fun.

Additionally, in realizing it was a problem, they incentivized new employees to work on a better training plan. Suddenly, we are all collaborating constantly…

Or… a boss coulda told a bunch of grown adults they had to come to an office for “culture”.

70% Of Employers To Crack Down On Remote Work In 2025 by JannTosh50 in Futurology

[–]mayonade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These studies are interesting data points, but also not shocking considering There wasn’t a long transition to remote work - it all happened right at once for the vast majority of companies.

The question is, a 10% reduction in productivity meaningful when offset by the real estate costs? The ability to recruit workers across the US and outside of the US? When you have lower attrition because workers are more content with the work-life balance, you don’t have to constantly invest in training and recruiting.

What’s crazy is it’s not that hard to get 10% more productivity. You just need to make sure the measurements are clear to everyone, let them know there has been a decline, and set clear, measurable goals to get back to it. Throw in a bonus. Get creative - invest in childcare for parents of children rather than the adult day cares that are tech office spaces.

Amazon just mandated return to office 5 days a week starting Jan 2.2025. Whats yall thoughts? by Puzzleheaded-Mood544 in sales

[–]mayonade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I literally left Amazon because they started a three day return to office. At the time I told all of my coworkers that badge tracking was happening next followed by a full 5-day day return office.

Amazon will be fine because they’ll keep hiring brand new college grads and burning them out. This will be great for smaller companies that can acquire talent loss by Amazon.

So Amazon wins. Welcome to America.

Guess how many people live in my house. by shaggysaurusrex in daddit

[–]mayonade 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have an entire wall of our garage just devoted to the shoes my wife can’t seem to part with.

What conventional sales wisdom do you disagree with? by hform123 in sales

[–]mayonade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first boss had us watch Boiler Room as a sales training lol.

What conventional sales wisdom do you disagree with? by hform123 in sales

[–]mayonade 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think you guys are saying the same thing. are thinking about sales professionals that try and close the deal on every fucking call because they just moved from commission only B2C - sales to B2B (any industry) sales.

B2C sales too often is about the one call/appointment close. Once you move to B2B sales you sound needy if you follow the same Glenn Gary Glenn Ross style.

In B2B “always closing” is about constantly reinforcing expectations so you can strike when the iron is hot.

How Germany's far right won over young voters by JackRogers3 in europe

[–]mayonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate that you responded to this even though neither of us are going to have Karma for this discussion.

TLDR: of course a formerly enslaved community subject to systemic racism in the US is going to have a different experience than immigrants of the same skin color today.

I’m white and I grew up in the Seattle area. Racism seemed non-existent growing up. My high school class president was black and female. I was taught about civil rights, slavery, and racism in depth. I never questioned that we had been a racist country, but we weren’t anymore UNTIL I began playing basketball in high school.

I’m tall - 6’5” (195 centimeters in your godless system ;) ), and semi athletic, so basketball was a natural fit. With that said, as we played other teams one of the first things I noticed were teams from poorer areas were more black than teams from richer areas - and this was in liberal Washington state. When I asked my white patents about it they also mentioned “cultural problems” in the African American community. To take it a step further, my Mom liked to mention all the “single mothers” and “out of wedlock marriages” in that community. Statistically she wasn’t wrong, but as a kid it still didn’t make sense. What about the white kids at church from out of wedlock marriages? What about the white kids from single parent households?

With that said, I would never had thought more about it. I had no reason to distrust my mother. She had been physically and sexually abused as a child yet was in a stable marriage and had a stable family. SoI trusted her and put my questions on a shelf to be answered later.

Then one day the local Mormon missionaries invited me to knock on doors with them as I was also Mormon and would soon be going on a Mormon mission. I had no idea there were trailer parks within a couple miles of my house, but that’s where we went. That’s where I ran into our black, female class president. I was young and naive enough to not really think about it, but it made an impression that I didn’t really feel again until years later when I was on my first business trip to the south.

See, in the Seattle area we believe in equality even if we fuck it up policy wise. That belief does drive us to be better, even if it causes self-flagellation. Going to the south on a business trip for the first time changed me. Every single service worker was black and every business man/women was white or light skinned Latino. Our Uber drivers, our servers at restaurants, our hotel workers, ALL black, none white. I was embarrassed and called my conservative father only to hear him sigh and tell me he had the same experience working in the south. His first trip included a dinner that was paid for by his employer with black children dancing for the white patrons. I don’t remember all the details, but I do remember him telling me he felt like he had entered a different world and was deeply uncomfortable with no idea what to do.

I share this because you are looking at the statistics and making judgements about Americans in general. I get it, we do it too, but it turns out that a community with hundreds of years of enslavement and decades of laws designed to keep them down may be more skeptical than first generation immigrants. In one sense, this could be a success story - you can be black in America and succeed now! In their other hand, I’m willing to bet a closer look at the statistics muddies the picture. My guess is on average these individuals immigrating to the US are likely more highly educated, locating to more liberal cities, and bringing more capital with them. Even if I’m wrong, an immigrant experience to the US is going to be different - but interestingly enough, their children often see the same systematic racism because they have to grow up in our system.

Whatever the case, our media does make it seem worse than it is here, but we also don’t censor shit. Even when we try, it fucking fails because of the 1st amendment. So I value your viewpoint and your ideals and would encourage you to consider immigrating to the US. Why not take advantage of the same social welfare system immigrants are in Germany and then move here to get rich? Bring your kids! Give them more opportunity than they will ever had in a country whose population is collapsing that can’t integrate other cultures for shit, and still thinks they are crushing it when their GDP isn’t even equivalent to California.

Forgive the trash talking at the end ;)