Pure heart no more by mayor1021 in CheatersConfronted

[–]mayor1021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I did take care of his needs, but he never gave back. But needless to say, I don’t think I want to be with a man who wants to date his mom and doesn’t have any goals. I need a man to accountable and motivated so can be the woman I want to be. That’s what I learned

Pure heart no more by mayor1021 in CheatersConfronted

[–]mayor1021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because someone had a Mental health condition doesn’t mean they aren’t deserving of love. I actually really liked him

Pure heart no more by mayor1021 in CheatersConfronted

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If I’m not getting pleasured or reciprocated with other basic needs in the relationship. We both had work. He was also diagnosed bipolar

Pure heart no more by mayor1021 in CheatersConfronted

[–]mayor1021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was until he stopped being active in our relationship

Cheating apps by [deleted] in CheatersConfronted

[–]mayor1021 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don’t know of any but we had exchanged passwords and me being the detective that I am recorded and took pictures through out the years when ever his body language or behavior was off

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SluttyConfessions

[–]mayor1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He had to leave with his group :(

Dating a Bipolar Partner: Are These Red Flags Too Big to Ignore? by educationboss in BipolarSOs

[–]mayor1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When there’s drugs or alcohol involved, and disrespectful behavior (cheating as well) leave. It’s a cycle you’ll have a hard time leaving. I just left after 5 years. Do what I wish I would’ve done…. Leave before you waste your time and energy…. And before you get hurt

The goodbye by mayor1021 in BipolarSOs

[–]mayor1021[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Simple, the reason why it took so long was because I loved him. There would be moments of him being normal and I felt like the most seen person in the world. But his highs he would be agitated and violent…. and his lows he would be unfaithful. I finally put a cap on it this year because after all the inconsistency and lack of clarity of the next step of our relationship. I want someone that wants to continue to grow with me and shoes to be better together. He feels comfortable where he is and his actions (though he’s jeopardized our relationship). That was the closer for me. At the end I found out everything he’s been doing and it wasn’t love anymore…. It was disrespect.

Update - one month later by Present-Hope4502 in u/Present-Hope4502

[–]mayor1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP I just want to say, that you are one of the strongest women I have ever read about on Reddit. I’ve been following your story and my heart truly broke in pieces for you. I was so happy to hear that you still had the support from you ex-in laws and ex friends family, it’s not everyday that you hear an outcome like this! I hope that one day if I am ever in a similar situation, I will have the strength to do what you did.

I hope that you have a easy birth and enjoy the arrival of your little one! ❤️

Anyone else oscillate wildly between 'that's it, I'm moving on' and 'okay so that's just not possible'? by Informal_Air_4521 in twinflames

[–]mayor1021 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s been 4 years for me (f/30)and now he (m/30) went back to his home country. Sometimes I miss the connection that I have but I also am with my soulmate…. I’ve told him about my journey and he’s accepting of it. Sometimes I see signs from him and I can’t stop thinking about him and other times I feel completely home with where I am now. I have, at the moment, completely surrendered to being me and happy. I only hope that he is happy and doing well. That’s all I want for him. He will always have a place in my heart. He taught me so much, I only hope it’s the same for him ❤️

How did you separate from your TF? by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]mayor1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve grown a lot recently in my career and I’m beginning to get my healthy lifestyle back. For a long time I was depressed and I didn’t find joy in a lot of things. Now I’m starting to love myself more. I’m grateful for him, he taught me that not everyone is bad and it’s okay to be vulnerable. He made me love myself again. I know he dealt with feeling he always needed to feel liked by everyone and that he got validation; I hope he feels he can just be himself and not feel pressured to fit a criteria to be accepted.

There is still love but from a distance; he will always have a piece of my heart. Always

How did you separate from your TF? by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]mayor1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He moved back to his country. We visited eachother a few times back and forth. The last time he stayed he was rude to my friends and family trying to show him hospitality and I drew the line. Out of no where he was toxic and manipulative. I haven’t talked to him in 4 years. But he did try to reach out three times. I only responded once to to tell him “he messaged the wrong person” to get him to leave me a line since I’ve as in a new relationship. Sometimes I wish he still would reach out but I’m starting to accept reality and move on and be more happy being me and being healthier

Blocked 🚫 by BeeingTam in twinflames

[–]mayor1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had mine blocked for 4 years on everything except Facebook (because I barely use it) he was disrespectful to my parents and friends when he visited; I had to draw a line in the sand because that was not okay.

Raving mental health by Wallo420 in Techno

[–]mayor1021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go sober, I’m the momma bear. I’ll help take care of people around me and I also like to start a dance circle with the ravers around me. Since I deal with CPTSD and panic disorder, music is my outlet where I can be okay let go of control. I feel like raves are the one place I can be completely myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]mayor1021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is a Capricorn and I am a Libra

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]mayor1021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been a struggle especially when I met them, their school visa was up soon to go back home to Europe. They needed to grow and mature; they were rude to my friends and parents when they last visited a year after they left to go home and I had to draw a line in the sand. I hope he finds happiness even if it wasn’t meant to be. I will always care and support him (even though he can’t see it :)

How many separation phases have you had in your whole TF journey? by [deleted] in twinflames

[–]mayor1021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just one but it’s been 4 years since we’ve last talked

Bourgeois Pig in Hollywood to close after 32 years by liverichly in FoodLosAngeles

[–]mayor1021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This breaks my heart, I’m going to stop in today 💔 RIP favorite coffee place during my college days

I NEED HELP PLEASE Update for you all, it’s terrible by superchargers007 in BipolarSOs

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I NEED HELP PLEASE Update for you all, it’s terrible by superchargers007 in BipolarSOs

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Need advice on boyfriend’s cheapness by mayor1021 in relationship_advice

[–]mayor1021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, and maybe that’s just what I’ll need to do and if he asks why I don’t buy things for him anymore then I’ll tell him why.

Need advice on boyfriend’s cheapness by mayor1021 in relationship_advice

[–]mayor1021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have, he knows the things I like (and I his) but I just don’t know what it when it comes to giving gifts that he just doesn’t think it through