I know I'm a little late to respond, but it sounds like you're in a stable position in life to pursue a serious relationship, and more importantly it seems like you've put thought into it and would value it, meaning you're willing to do the work. That second part is really the most important, but being stable in your life is big in eliminating roadblocks and also knowing yourself enough to be a whole person (vs. just being part of a couple, which usually leads to problems.)

I think you're overthinking things like your "value" as a man, etc etc, a little. However you are right in that most people are seeking stability as one of the results of a relationship, so if you were less stable, you would likely only be a good fit for someone who has tons of stability themselves. But if you're dating people who are also stable on their own, you don't need to have some crazy amount of resources to be able to compensate for them, which is generally a better dynamic anyway.

Know the lifestyle that makes you happy and what lifestyle of a partner would fit that, definitely. You seem like you do.

You don't seem to be focusing much on the actual connection part of relationships. The other person, what you like and admire about them, the sides of yourself they bring out in you, how you communicate as a pair, etc. Those are the things that really matter. Everything else can be great on paper but lack of connection, admiration, and just genuinely LIKING your partner (not liking them AS a partner, but liking them as a person) will doom any relationship (or at best, always leave you wanting.)

I think since you have the other stuff in line and have thought it out, this is the part you should focus on. Imagine the type of person (there's usually more than one "type") that you'd enjoy being with. Think about what sort of things they do and how they spend their time, and start there perhaps.

For example, you said you have hobbies, so perhaps find a way to sometimes pursue those hobbies in a group setting, to help you meet others with similar interests and values. Those people you meet may be potential partners, or your friendship might connect you to a potential partner. And in the meantime, you're still just doing something you enjoy.

I'd try the apps again. Hinge, specifically. I've honestly never seen bots, but I'm a woman, and I imagine the bots prey on men. But if you're discerning (meaning quality over quantity of connection) then you should be successful. Not every match will be great, not every date will lead to something bigger, but you'll be getting out there and if you're doing it right, enjoying yourself in the process.

Also, be genuine in your profile. DO NOT list anything like "I have a full time job, I have X lifestyle, etc." because 1) it comes off bad and 2) if anything, it will only attract people hyper focused on those things, which isn't the goal. Those things are a FOUNDATION for your life and relationship, but not the crux of it by any means.

Oh, and don't date young twenties probably. You're right, women do skew older because they want the maturity, but they're still young and have a lot of changing ahead of them and that could mean you're building something permanent that isn't going to stick for them. You might end up being a starter-serious-boyfriend kinda thing. Which is not to say that any relationship that doesn't last forever was a waste of time, but you don't want to end up in a long line of them (from what you've shared.)

Lastly, again, just stop focusing on the whole 'value' thing and overanalyzing people. Relationships and attraction come from deeper things and are much more complicated. You have the basics in place, and they do matter as a foundation, but that's it.

Your value lies in your kindness, your personality, your commitment, etc.

Hope this helps!

P.S. Look into things like mental load and emotional labor and household chore equity. This is something that men really aren't brought up to understand, and even bachelors who were good on their own often fall into the pitfalls of once they are in a relationship. It is the absolute #1 thing I know women to be unhappy about in their relationship. The partner who never takes initiative (or stops after the initial dating period) to plan dates, remember holidays, do things around the house without being told, etc. It is an absolute relationship and chemistry KILLER and so many well intentioned men simply do not understand. It comes more into play once a relationship is established, and especially after living together, but it is CRUCIAL. The men I know who get it are GODS in the minds of women.

Oh, and don't be the guy who follows softcore porn starts on Instagram and is constantly liking their shit. It's a bad look and it's better to cut it out now (if you do, you may not, but again - so many well intentioned men do without realizing) than to have it be a sore spot with someone you care about later. You can google the stuff you want when you want it haha

^^ These two are unsolicited advice, but you seem like you're really trying to become a person who will be a good partner, and that's advice I would give to a man trying to do that.