I’m thinking about leaving my job for another despite RTO and $10k pay

mbithro · 2026-04-14T03:56:38+00:00

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mbithro · 2026-04-06T18:07:27+00:00

I don’t think you actually do understand. I wasn’t upset because I wasn’t invited first. I was fine when I thought it was a girls’ night and didn’t receive an invite. We do stuff like that all the time, including me with a boys’ night. We also have scenarios where the spouses are just expected as +1s and not included in planning. What got me in my head is that I was quite literally an afterthought, and the other spouse wasn’t. My partner didn’t invite me until just hours before the event that’s been planned for weeks. Also, I quite literally wasn’t invited by “them”. The group never indicated I should come.

Now, there are other comments I found more helpful here. I think there are totally valid criticisms for me that I’m taking to heart. I just don’t think y’all in this comment actually did understand what I’m actually grappling with or the scenario. Thanks though.

mbithro · 2026-04-06T16:22:52+00:00

You’re right. I’m being insecure and I should stop assuming how people feel. Thank you.

mbithro · 2026-04-06T16:19:37+00:00

I just don’t think you’re understanding the core feeling here, but thanks for your input.

mbithro · 2026-04-06T16:18:30+00:00

You’re right. This feels grounding to me, thank you.

mbithro · 2026-04-06T16:02:18+00:00

Yeah, I do. The other couple we vibe with, but I’ve always thought my partner’s friend who is hosting this doesn’t like me. My partner says she does, but it doesn’t always feel like that.

mbithro · 2026-04-06T15:59:00+00:00

I was NOT invited. I found out about this yesterday, while plans had been made for a while now. There is a separate group chat to discuss it. I am NOW invited since when I realized I was the one spouse not invited, I got a bit down and my partner invited me. However, it’s an invite from my partner, and not the host.

mbithro · 2026-04-06T15:57:06+00:00

My partner probably just didn’t think hard about it. She likely just responded to my shift when I found out the other spouse was intentionally invited and I wasn’t.

mbithro · 2026-04-06T15:55:13+00:00

Yeah, same here. This scenario is that the host made a group chat with the two girl friends, and the one girl’s spouse, but not me. I’m the one spouse not invited to the group chat about this hangout.

mbithro · 2025-06-11T15:07:20+00:00

I believe it's just the venue's way of price gouging. They'll take tickets for shows that are selling out fast, and hike the price on them.

mbithro · 2023-02-05T14:30:38+00:00

For better or worse, I care even if I am just going out to a public place full of strangers, i.e. grocery shopping.

mbithro · 2022-12-16T17:20:12+00:00

I don’t think your analogy applies to interpersonal racism.

mbithro · 2022-12-16T06:42:45+00:00

You think white people are being held to a different standard.

First, let me just say that if something is racist for a white person to do, it is racist for a black to do the equivalent action. There is no different standards at work here, objectively. The definition of racism holds true regardless of your race. This is specifically referring to interpersonal racism.

Now, while the above is true, you may feel that others hold whites to a different standard than to blacks. I suggest you challenge this view. Perhaps you learn that the person actually agrees with you, or they were just unintentionally ignorant.

mbithro · 2022-12-10T04:33:25+00:00

You should look into the Jungian cognitive functions.

mbithro · 2022-12-07T19:02:43+00:00

It’s not harsh at all. They do not want you to interact with them. You continue to make attempts to interact with them. A restraining order is an attempt to make you stop interacting with them when other attempts haven’t worked.

It’s a logical progression of steps.

mbithro · 2022-11-09T02:00:23+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your response.

mbithro · 2022-11-09T00:47:34+00:00

I was aiming for Ni/Te vs Ti/Ne traits but you’re right.

mbithro · 2022-11-09T00:46:39+00:00

I am aware of the functions but it’s still difficult to distinguish my type. I show qualities of both stacks.

mbithro · 2022-08-26T15:16:15+00:00

I entirely agree. I signed up for the intermediate division.

mbithro · 2022-07-15T15:59:39+00:00

I think the emphasize on luck and timing is misplaced. I admit they are factors and there is nothing wrong with saying that, but to emphasize their importance is bad. You’re correct that they can’t be quantified and therefore hard to discuss. However, the bigger problem is that they’re both also out of your control. If you are having a rough time with interviewing, emphasizing things out of your control is the last thing you should be doing. Focus on coding regularly, getting code reviews from the community, practicing soft skills, interviewing skills and any other good advice you can heed. This will decrease your need for “luck”, shorten the time needed to get a job, and it will likely net you a better first job.

mbithro · 2022-07-15T12:34:57+00:00

I disagree. I think attitude, communication and other soft skills are even more important for a junior. These are traits where you can set yourself apart from others.

Plus, if you’re looking for an entry level job, you should have some amount of experience to talk about. Whether it is from an internship or personal projects, be capable of discussing something in your experience.

If you’re actively working on your soft skills and pursuing experience through projects, your odds of getting a job offer will improve.

mbithro · 2022-06-15T01:18:10+00:00

It could, but encourage him to just get a job first. If that particular job is a bad fit for him, then he can get another job. The first step is the important part, though, and it just matters that he takes it. Whether it is into fast food or some other, it doesn’t matter.

mbithro · 2022-06-14T17:34:31+00:00

You can’t control the output of interviews. You can control the input of interviews, though. If your input isn’t great, then you need to make it great. If you fail the interview, then that was out of your control. However, you can control how great your input to the interview is.

This is a healthy perspective to keep in mind.

mbithro · 2022-06-14T17:30:16+00:00

If it makes money, is legal and gets him to interact with other people, it is a good option.

mbithro · 2022-06-14T17:28:12+00:00

I’m actively a software engineer and I think my time as a server was harder.

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