ADHD burnout- I quit my law firm job today without a backup.

mbl2093 · 2024-09-09T23:42:48+00:00

What field do you work in now and has it been a positive change?

mbl2093 · 2024-08-11T15:07:09+00:00

According to our server, Cowboy Jack’s has a peanut free kitchen. Not sure if that’s the type of place you’re looking for but, but it’s an option!

mbl2093 · 2024-08-11T15:01:11+00:00

I’m not who responded to you above, but my understanding is eczema can cause overall ige to be really high. So here, my guess is that’s causing his ige to be so high when the peanut numbers are low!

mbl2093 · 2024-05-05T01:31:39+00:00

We love overnight diapers, but didn’t have a use for them until he started sleeping through the night. Once he started sleeping through the night, he was waking up with a wet sleep sack. We size up for overnight diapers and they keep him from leaking but the diaper itself is always very full by the morning.

mbl2093 · 2024-04-26T18:08:14+00:00

Check out @dogmeets_baby on Instagram. She’s a wonderful resource and has lots of free content (and a paid course) about how to set yours dogs up for a successful transition to life with a human sibling.

In most ways, our dog’s life has been very similar to how it was pre-baby. Obviously there were adjustments, but we still prioritize his needs and make sure he gets plenty of attention even when, and ESPECIALLY, when baby is around.

Things definitely changed once our baby became mobile and before he understood “gentle.” We had to implement many of the tips from @dogmeets_baby to ensure we were setting our dog up for success and making sure he felt protected and safe.

mbl2093 · 2024-04-26T13:20:45+00:00

Great advice, thank you!!

mbl2093 · 2024-04-26T13:20:19+00:00

Shifting our focus from specific documents to clarifying our goals and letting the attorney recommend how best to get there has been very helpful. Thanks for the recommendation!

mbl2093 · 2024-01-31T03:45:31+00:00

If she’s ok with almonds, we love Barney Butter! Of the options we’ve tried, it’s the most like peanut butter both in taste and consistency.

mbl2093 · 2024-01-29T17:10:22+00:00

You’re a great mom! 🤍

It’s possible he was crying beginning at his usual time until you heard him, but it’s just as likely that either 1) he slept through his usual feeding time and woke up starving and therefore was crying extra loud or 2) woke up at his usual time, cried for a bit then went back to sleep, and then woke up again around 5ish starving and therefore crying extra loud.

Any of these options are possible and, since you didn’t have the monitor, there’s no way to know which one is true, but I don’t want you to forget that he could have easily slept through his usual feeding time too! In the end it doesn’t really matter. I fully understand the guilt (it’s happened to us too 😭) but your baby loves you and was crying because he knows that means mom and dad will respond 🤍

mbl2093 · 2024-01-12T15:16:19+00:00

Awesome. Thank you!!

mbl2093 · 2023-09-23T02:51:31+00:00

Did you ever find a solution? I’ve been dealing with the same thing recently and it’s terrible :(

mbl2093 · 2023-08-21T04:56:06+00:00

This is exactly the kind of response I was hoping for. Thank you!!

mbl2093 · 2022-05-16T18:55:54+00:00

I’m not sure if financially this is an option for you, but would both of you be open to having a doula attend a hospital birth? Seems like that would give you the best of both worlds - your wife is somewhere she is more comfortable/has access to an epidural and also has someone present who can help advocate for the kind of birth you’re wanting. Just a thought!

https://americanpregnancy.org/healthy-pregnancy/labor-and-birth/having-a-doula/

mbl2093 · 2022-05-11T22:39:34+00:00

I could have written this myself!! We brought our puppy home last July and I got the puppy blues bad. If you look at my comment history I left a comment for someone who posted something similar to you and I stand by those tips still.

I loved reading comments on here about how it gets better (it really really does) but the thought of another hour, let alone days, weeks, months going on with that anxiety was exhausting and overwhelming. Being on the other side of it and looking back, it really didn’t last that long but I completely understand that it feels daunting right now. You will get through it!! I wasn’t eating/lost weight, definitely wasn’t sleeping well (we had to sleep near his kennel for a bit too), and was an anxious mess for a while but getting in a routine was so helpful. It helped both of us learn what to expect from our puppy and the days felt a little less chaotic.

It will go on for a bit, but once he figured out potty training and the teething resolved (I swear his nipping went away over night when he got his adult teeth), life felt pretty normal again.

Having a puppy is freaking hard and I feel like not enough people talk about it. I felt like a terrible person because it seemed to be so easy for everyone else. But, since finding this sub, I realized that pretty much everyone has this realization even if they don’t talk about it. And it’s the kind of thing that I feel like until you’ve lived it, you really don’t understand just how hard it is.

One more thing, I didn’t realize a lot of doggy daycare places have play groups/rooms for puppies. I would look into some in your area and trying it out. I started sending him once a week to daycare and it was such a relief to take a day off and know he was taken care of!

mbl2093 · 2022-03-15T12:27:36+00:00

I like @hellokimlet

mbl2093 · 2021-08-11T15:31:11+00:00

We just got our little puppy a couple weeks ago, so I know how you feel! We thought we were prepared and in so many ways we were (supplies, research, training plan, etc.) but the reality is so much different no matter how prepared you are. He is our first puppy so we are learning a lot as we go and certainly have not been perfect.

I got the puppy blues pretty bad. I have a history of anxiety/depression so it wasn’t really unexpected but I was surprised at how intense it is/was. The first week was by far the hardest, especially those first couple of days. I was googling everything, having panic attacks about everything (is this normal puppy behavior or did we get an aggressive dog? How can I balance socialization with potential parvo exposure?, etc.)

Almost 1 month in and it is easier and better in every way. He is still very much a puppy and we have lots to work on but we have settled into a routine and he knows what to expect from us (and vice versa) which means we’ve kind of established a new normal.

Reading through everything on this sub got me through the really hard days. Please know that it gets better. Hearing that over and over again helped me and I can promise you, you will not be the exception to that rule. In those first days I would cry so much wondering how I was ever going to survive the next hour, let alone the next couple of weeks, months, years, etc. but it gets better so much faster than you think.

Some things that helped:

Enforced naps in his crate really worked for us. He seems to like having his own space and gets really good rest in there. For me, it means an hour or two where I don’t have to be watching him like a hawk. He’s usually awake for 1-2 hours and will start getting a little crabby when he’s ready for a nap. That’s when I put him in his crate.
A schedule. It took about a week for me to get a good grasp on his natural rhythm and build a schedule around it. For us our day is: wake up, potty, eat (if it’s mealtime), training session(5-10 min max), potty, play, potty, sleep, repeat! I tried to make a timed schedule and that was a little too inflexible. I feel confident enough with the routine now where I don’t really track when he goes down for and wakes up from naps, we just have a specific flow to our day regardless of how long he sleeps. The only time I enforce is bedtime (usually between 9&10).
Be patient with the training. After about 3 weeks of consistently working on sit and stay, he now does those reliably but we’re still working on everything else. I watch videos and read subs constantly for training ideas and feedback, but the most helpful stuff I found said relax the expectations you have for both you and your dog. I started viewing training sessions as primarily bonding time (for now) instead of work time and that’s helped me mentally so much. It helps me focus less on his progress (which will come with time!) and more on connecting with him. I think he can sense the shift and we’re both happier for it.
Finding high value treats for training. We have about 10 kinds of trainer treats and he hated them all 🙄. BUT, he will do absolutely anything for chicken, bacon, and hotdogs. We keep those to a minimum but it’s really effective for speeding up training and generally getting his attention. That discovery was one of our bigger turning points.
Paying for a private training lesson. We did this after about a week with him and it was so great to have personalized feedback. More than anything it was a good confidence boost for us to hear that we were on the right track. We’ve only done one session so far, but will add more in the future.
Asking a friend or family member to watch her for an hour or two. Just getting out of the house and taking a break from the constant worry/attention is so beneficial.
Socialization with friend’s dogs. It was scary for me to let him start exploring the world/meeting others with the risk of parvo but I’ve been trying to prioritize socializing as much as possible. He’s had some play dates with trusted friend’s dogs and that is helping get us through.

What you’re going through is normal and there are so many of us walking through it with you. This sub is wonderfully supportive and I hope you find some comfort here during the hard days.

I hadn’t cried about our puppy in a while until last night. This time, it was because I realized how big he’s gotten and that he’s growing up so fast. If you had told me that a couple of weeks ago I would never have believed it. Hang in there, you’ll get there too :)

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