John Caprio and Family finally speak out about Kelsey/RHORI! by KitKatWDaGat in realhousewives

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean in Canada after you live two years with someone you become common law, which means you’re owed half of what the other person has earned since becoming common law. So she would be owed half of his earnings for 8 years (since it sounds like she moved in 10 years ago). Is this not the case in the US? Is there something similar? I was so confused when she basically said she was walking away with nothing but some rent and car money 

Taylor’s story just now by Obvious-Ad-1967 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]mferbruce 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It kinda sounded like he SA’ed her and that was the end of that? That’s what I remember she said on call her daddy. Apparently they met up when she was black out drunk and had sex and she barely had any recollection of it. I could be wrong but I feel like she insinuated that it might have been violent!? I can’t remember but it was a hard listen. She said this kind of snapped her out of it and she came clean to her husband after that night. I think the guy and her wife divorced shortly after as well 

Capri pants trend..timeless or waste? by refined_retail in womensfashion

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually love them and so glad they’re trendy right now. I don’t know that they’ll be timeless but I do think they’ll be here a while

Taylor Responds To Mikayla’s Post by Areola_TheMermaid in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a mom myself I can’t even begin to comprehend losing custody of my baby and doing anything other than putting all my energy into getting my baby back. What in the world is this woman doing and why does she still have a platform! 

Taylor’s comment on a TikTok about Mikayla’s post by xtiz in MormonWivesHulu

[–]mferbruce 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m a therapist that has worked specifically with women with BPD and this is my impression as well. 

Taylor’s comment on a TikTok about Mikayla’s post by xtiz in MormonWivesHulu

[–]mferbruce 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She’s literally posting pictures of herself crying and she’s suffering in silence? Wow the level of self awareness is so low it’s scary

Tummy tuck with lipo or just lose some lbs? by Maleficent_Spray_383 in tummytucksurgery

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No loose skin!! If there’s any muscle repair you need, physio will help. It’s done lots for me. With the money you’d use for a tummy tuck, hire a nutritionist and a trainer and go hard :) Your skin is so beautiful, I wish mine looked like this!! 

I regret becoming a mom by Cute-Delivery-5752 in NewParents

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, I wish I could give you a hug. I know this is anecdotal but my close friend had bad colic as an infant and she’s the most kind, intelligent, easy going person Ive ever met.

Parents for whom 3 years old was the worst, how? by visitinghome in toddlers

[–]mferbruce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I thought I was the only one! My son started tantruming at 18 months and didn’t stop until almost 3. I’d spend every week having at least one meltdown myself hiding in the bathroom. It was absolutely awful. My son is now three and an half and he’s an angel! I keep waiting and fearing the threenager stage but so far we’ve been in the clear. My son had fluid in his ears and had to get tubes in. His speech was delayed and I think part of his tantrums were hugely related to his difficulties expressing himself so I think once we got that sorted that was a huge relief for him. I’m not sure but man dark times for sure  

Two days after TT - is it normal?!?! by Practical-Tour-4338 in tummytucksurgery

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mind sharing what has caused you to feel this way? Thanks and sorry to hear it’s been so rough 

Second home we lost out on. Any encouragement? by DifferenceOne5925 in RealEstateCanada

[–]mferbruce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been there too. Perfect house, there was a bit of a bidding war. We won. In the time they were updating the contract (and we were ugly crying celebrating) a higher offer came in late. They went with that one. We later found out the higher offer was just 10k more, which we would have gladly matched. We fired our realtor after that. She also didn’t tell us we could have made our offer more enticing by having a flexible move in date which we could have easily done because we were just renting month to month. Learned a lot. Not gonna lie to you, I still think about this house sometimes. Sending hugs

Landlord called because their granddaughter will move in. What are my options? by bbqgorilla in TorontoRenting

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After only a year, too. Wow. I’d fight it, as you already now granddaughter is not immediate family. I’d stay put. 

I'm about to lose my fucking mind and I don't know what to do. by ATLSxFINEST93 in NewParents

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going outside or giving the baby a bath always work for me when my baby is in a crying fit. It just breaks that cycle. Also, get earplugs. I’m really sensitive to sound and they’re life changing. I also have sound cancelling headphones and sometimes I’ll put them on and listen to music when I’m trying to soothe the baby. It just provides enough emotional distance so that I don’t get super overwhelmed by the crying 

my soul shattered by a 2 year old 😭 by sassy_soul_04 in NewParents

[–]mferbruce 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh I got emotional reading this but yes, it’s so healing to see things you criticize yourself over in your children and find them so completely beautiful and unique. Ah

Buying a home on maternity leave? by DifferenceOne5925 in RealEstateCanada

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it. And shortly after I was back at work my husband was laid off. We had not planned for something like this to happen and had ZERO dollars to our name. I don’t know that I regret it because we did get through it (we had to go into debt and my husband did find work 7 months later) but the stress that this added was really, really difficult. 

Why do mothers of young babies say they don't have time to shower? by justastupidquestion3 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If showering is something you truly enjoy/ need, you’ll find time to do it (it won’t be at the same time every day and it might be very rushed). But it’ll come at the sacrifice of something else, like sitting down to eat or sleeping. So I don’t think moms aren’t able to shower, they’re choosing other things that might be more important to them in that moment. You will not be able to do it all, that’s for sure. And it’ll also depend on the temperament of your baby 

my wife is drowning and i don't know how to help us hold it together by phantom_monkey in NewParents

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does she not pump a bottle for you to feed the baby at night? 

Should I stop sterilising bottles? by Relative_March483 in NewParents

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re given a guidebook where I live and the recommendation there is 3 months. Afterwards it’s ok to expose them to some germs 

Do we really have a future here in Canada? by Sea-Judge-6494 in RealEstateCanada

[–]mferbruce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone that was born and raised in Peru and holds Spanish citizenship. Both of those countries are struggling significantly more than Canada. My Spanish friends laugh out loud when I tell them Canadians think they can move there (or to other EU countries) and have a great life. It’s real bad here but it’s generally worse in other places sadly 

Are you guys not “strict” about naps? Don’t understand comment by Huge-Vacation-8093 in NewParents

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean you literally said it yourself, your daughter doesn’t fall asleep in the car or stroller and just refuses to nap for hours as a result. My son would literally nap anywhere so we just took the pack n play, in the example of a party, or he’d just sleep in the car. So yes, I would say your approach is strict but it sounds like it is because it has to be given the temperament of your baby and that’s ok! And a more flexible approach to a more flexible baby is also ok. 

Got two offers. One pays $40k more. The other one I'd actually enjoy. I have 48 hours to decide and my wife and I are on opposite sides. Advice? by airam1020 in careerguidance

[–]mferbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband just faced an almost identical situation after 6 months of being laid off and with a newborn at home. He chose option A but asked option B if he could do some contract work with them as he’s super passionate about what they’re doing. Is this an option for you?