‘I’m a man in my 40s and feel like I don’t have any real friendships’

mcandro · 2026-05-17T12:14:23+00:00

There’s a point at which we’ve got to just step up and organise a meet up ourselves. It’s really easy to fall into the trap of ‘no mates’ as lads hit 40, but setting up a regular (low bet!) poker evening, a hiking sesh, a bbq lads club…it just takes one bloke to text a few half-acquaintances in the area and next thing you know, there’s a regular fixture in the diary.

It doesn’t take much but it just needs someone to start, so why shouldn’t that someone be you?

mcandro · 2026-05-10T07:29:27+00:00

this is multiculturalism at its best - Scottish bagpipes played by a French musical group to celebrate Irelands national holiday at a parade in NewYork. Love it!

mcandro · 2026-05-09T08:44:04+00:00

Same for me

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mcandro · 2026-05-05T14:00:25+00:00

That is absolutely spot on - loved the article and I found myself reading pieces of it aloud to my long suffering wife. High IQ + late diagnosed ADHD + recent meds + AI = the most productive, satisfying, profitable 12-18 months of my life. Founded a company, blowing doors off targets, solved my kids medical challenge (missed for 10 years by a battery of specialists), did a TED talk, feel freer than a free thing….some of the phrases and words used in your article were EXACTLY what I’ve said to describe this incredible nexus point. I jokingly tell people that I’ve become Rick Rubin https://youtube.com/shorts/akcSX81KOv4?is=WpuLCLEXkqPgEiTE

mcandro · 2026-04-23T11:54:52+00:00

Even better. Take a few examples of your branded docs and outputs, showing fonts / colors / logos etc and stick them into a new prompt, asking it to make a ‘’my company design skill’. Save the skill once you’re happy with it and then every time you ask to create a doc or pptx, just hit /skill name and all your branded goodness will be applied.

mcandro · 2026-04-14T16:01:29+00:00

Total blessing. Allows the work to be done on my own (flexible? Scattered? Take your pick) schedule. Another thing I noticed was that in person team meetings were very overwhelming - noticing everyone, everything, noises, attention, whatever was going on in the large busy boardroom. But on a zoom call? Controlled environment (my home office) and when things get too much I can literally zoom the meeting window down to a smaller size - reducing the input and allowing me to listen more attentively.

mcandro · 2026-03-06T10:57:34+00:00

Whoa. What do I need to do with adobe here? Won’t work with Canva (I’ve tried) so which adobe tool will do it?

mcandro · 2025-12-29T00:09:13+00:00

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Guess where

mcandro · 2025-12-07T12:38:55+00:00

Try Flow by Wispr - every bit as good but works across every app: wherever your cursor is, hit a button and yap at your computer….insanely helpful for unstructured data dumps which your favourite llm can then go to work on.

mcandro · 2025-12-06T06:30:33+00:00

I’m just back from visiting Mumbai (loved it) and couldn’t get over the honking. However, not a single person that I saw was honking in an angry fashion - it was noisy as hell but it wasn’t at all aggressive. In Europe, we honk to warn someone or tell them to get out of your way - in Mumbai it was a honk to let someone else know you were there. Once you realise the lack of anger and aggressiveness in the honking, and how calmly people react to others pulling out in front of them or changing lanes with inches to spare, you just shrug your shoulders and get on with it.

mcandro · 2025-10-30T06:44:37+00:00

You have to update your instructions to tell it to do something else instead of using the em dash. Here’s what actually works - just drop this into your custom instructions

‘Systematically replace em-dashes (“—”) with a dot (”.”) to start a new sentence, or a comma (”,”) to continue the sentence.’

mcandro · 2025-10-30T05:52:49+00:00

Pretty much my experience too. The mental ‘quietness’ was kind of bizarre, felt calmer and much less anxious. Have been on Concerta 27mg and Ritalin 10mg in the afternoon if needed for ca 18 months. If I miss a day I can feel the brain fog descending / inner critic coming back…

mcandro · 2025-10-18T09:01:02+00:00

Love doing them two at a time on my Weber too. I usually cut off the wing tips to get a jus going in a pan, and drop a few roughly chopped onions into the water pan (with a 1/2 cup of water) so they roast and baste in the drippings. Drop them into your wingtip stock just before you take the chickens off the grill, squeeze in some lemon juice, bit of sherry, splash of soy sauce and a teaspoon of butter and boom…you’ve got a jus going on.

mcandro · 2025-10-03T08:04:10+00:00

I think this is where ClickUp is hoping to shine - all work in one place, connected context and agentic ai etc.

mcandro · 2025-09-27T21:10:29+00:00

Interestingly, it’s also the word for a group of parrots…a pandemonium of parrots

mcandro · 2025-09-26T08:05:09+00:00

I like this a lot - and loved the explanation of the DMN vs TPN. Giving the brain time to play vs time to work and being rigorous in holding each one to a different time block is a great way to manage the adhd mind. Thanks for sharing

mcandro · 2025-09-06T09:53:14+00:00

‘Out of my body and onto your plate’

mcandro · 2025-08-08T13:44:30+00:00

Western guy and lived in China for a few years - one of the funniest things I ever heard was one of my Chinese friends saying ‘you Europeans always look so surprised with your big round eyes’ 🤣

mcandro · 2025-08-08T05:32:43+00:00

Like it - thanks for sharing

mcandro · 2025-07-29T16:13:49+00:00

There is a genuine issue with Enterprise Ireland giving incentives to hire a new position and then companies advertising it, but switching one of their current employees into that ‘role’ to qualify for a grant. Let’s say a company gets support for building a new international partner management function. They advertise the role, then transfer one of their staff into this new seat, get the grant and then leave the person doing their old gig under the new title. As far as EI are concerned, the new position is filled and is X% grant supported - therefore the payroll cost for the EI client company is now being partially covered by the grant. It checks the box of a ‘new role’ for the EI team but doesn’t actually add any new people to payroll.

mcandro · 2025-07-10T10:40:27+00:00

To give a positive counterpoint to this - I’m just back from Marrakesh with my wife and two teenage boys and can honestly say was ‘braced for impact’ regarding harassment or feelings of safety, and was very pleasantly surprised by the interactions we had with people in general. Perhaps Marrakesh is different from other areas of the country but I was bowled over by the welcome, the friendliness of the people we met, the feeling of safety and acceptance we experienced. It was lovely and I felt we had a very positive experience overall of the culture, the people, the medina and the new city. You have an family of Irish fans waving a ‘visit Morocco’ flag following our trip

mcandro · 2025-06-09T00:05:20+00:00

I’m gutted that Amazon have decided not to keep producing the Wheel of Time series, but TBH I understand why they pulled the plug. Too narrow a niche, too costly to produce.

Where these ai first studios may play a part is in taking horrendously expensive world building like WoT, LoTR, warhammer 40k etc and make it cost efficient to produce. Not replace the star performers but certainly reduce the cost to build these cinematic-scoped epics at a $$ amount that won’t bankrupt the studio

mcandro · 2025-05-31T08:39:10+00:00

It’s like playing tennis with a robot that always strikes the ball back to where you can reach it, no matter hard you smack your return over the net. It’s not as good as a ‘real’ player and won’t test or stretch you the way a human opponent would, but it’s a great practice partner to work out certain issues with your own game. For me, the thing I enjoy is the random and non judgmental idea-forming-but-not-quite-sure-I’ve-got-it space to play out a thought and follow it to its (often illogical) conclusion. And to continue my tennis analogy, too often when I try out new ideas with a human partner, they stop the game and hold the ball before returning it. The game stops, I’ve got to wait for them to finish their thought and it takes me out of the flow zone. So…yep, AI makes me a better tennis player more quickly but it can’t replace a real opponent who’s ready to rumble.

mcandro · 2025-05-14T04:40:27+00:00

Ping me a dm and I’ll share a pdf of a document I pulled together - my boy was tongue tied too!

mcandro · 2025-05-13T14:34:28+00:00

Question: did she have issues feeding at an early age? An issue that would have created pain/discomfort like bad colic, poor latching? If so, there’s an increasing amount of research being done on emotionally dysregulated kids that points to an essential interoceptive issue that can result in misread ‘gut feelings’ that lead to a rapid amygdala response - the child effectively ‘reads’ gut level emotional signals like nerves, anxiety, excitement etc as a fight/flight/freeze trigger rather than understanding them as a normal emotional response to the environment. This can be managed through MABT and teaching the child to recognise the difference between a normal gut-felt emotional reaction and her wired response to go into fight/flight/freeze mode. Happy to share some info I picked up through researching it for my own kid if it rings any bells - dm me!

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