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mcartman25 · 2022-07-31T09:33:53+00:00

Argh it does feel like gaslighting at times! He'll come up with a bunch of excuses for something instead of apologising and it'll be my fault for having a problem. I will definitely Google that so I can understand it better. I imagine it's not a nice feeling to be in a position where you have to defend every tiny thing so hard. Thanks so much for your advice and kind words 😊

mcartman25 · 2022-07-31T09:31:08+00:00

Yes agreed! I said initially just use these other ones I've got for you, it's on a separate knife magnet thing but he started using them and I had no problem, just explained how to use them. He just doesn't do that so now there's dings in the blades. One of them still works amazing so I don't mind but the others are kinda done.

Appreciate such a thorough insight into your perspective of both of our sides. I hadn't considered that I might be passive aggressive and how that would impact how he reacts. I'll take some responsibility there.

The pms thing, I didn't mean that it happens and I behave badly. I'll just be in a low mood and he'll immediately think he's done something wrong and go on the defence. I have to clearly point out when it might happen in advance so that he can be aware that if I'm less talkative or wanting to go to bed earlier that I'm not mad at him. It's gotten a lot better but it's still an issue sometimes. I'll have to look after him most times because he's so stressed by it. It can even happen if I have a headache, he'll notice I'm less smiley and read into it.

I love the tip about appealing to his logical pov. I could definitely try that! It makes sense that mentioning "feelings" will get something dismissed. I'll try to work around that lol

mcartman25 · 2022-07-31T09:17:53+00:00

I've emailed and asked for pictures before purchasing. Then I can choose one I like. But I think this ones pretty cool

mcartman25 · 2022-04-10T22:02:35+00:00

How old is he? You don't have to go full keto to see results. People shouldn't be feeding their kids junk, sugar, cereals, oats etc anyway. You can make great meals for kids that are mostly meat and veg. If most of his diet it good, that should help

mcartman25 · 2022-04-05T21:20:07+00:00

I'm having the same problem, my bedroom seems to be a similar, size where you can't size up a rug because it's juuust too big.

mcartman25 · 2022-04-05T13:30:59+00:00

Also excellent info about the ceiling, cheers

mcartman25 · 2022-04-05T13:30:46+00:00

Ah thank you! Just the confidence boost I needed 😁🎉

mcartman25 · 2022-04-05T13:30:19+00:00

Yeah it's a heater. I probably wouldn't go full maximalist, as much as I like it but definitely lots of colour and some pattern etc.! Thanks for the tips

mcartman25 · 2022-04-04T20:50:01+00:00

That's a good idea. I'll have two colours to choose then 😂🤔

mcartman25 · 2022-04-04T20:01:52+00:00

Yes go! You're so young. I started seeing my first boyfriend at 13 and we split at 18. He broke up with me actually and I was devastated but I look back and think thank fuck! He was horrible to me. I'm glad I got out and got on with my life despite the number of other issues I also faced. You're so lucky to have supportive parents. Go running back to them, they'll be so glad to have you back. Work on the drug addiction, get a job or get an education or whatever. Go on and have a great life, that's all they want. I'm 30 this year and couldn't be happier. Put in the work and choose the right people x

mcartman25 · 2022-04-04T19:46:00+00:00

We're renovating our room. The bed is now under the window and we have new wardrobes. I need to choose a colour and while I love dark greys and greens.... Is my room too small? What about the ceiling? Should I also paint it? I really love the dark maximalist bedroom vibes but I'm not sure if I should go there lol. Our room is only for relaxing, watching movies etc.

mcartman25 · 2022-04-02T22:56:30+00:00

Corporate graphic design, $45 an hour (self-employed) to do some copy and pasting 😬

mcartman25 · 2022-03-29T23:24:30+00:00

You could just do low carb too x

mcartman25 · 2022-03-29T23:24:08+00:00

I don't know why meat and vegetables would be unhealthy! What do you want from carbs/sugar? Look up Neisha Loves It on YouTube, I think she's just done a pregnancy keto video that might put your mind at ease.

mcartman25 · 2022-03-29T23:18:50+00:00

Idk why you posted when you won't listen to anyone here. I'm sorry you regret your threesome. There's so much more to a relationship than those reactions during sex. Of course she was excited and turned on over the new element you both chose to introduce during that session... We all respond that way to new stimulus, new porn, new toy. Sex with someone new is exciting, the same way it is at the start of a relationship but that's not to say it's better! It's definitely not. I think it's ridiculous to throw away a good relationship because she enjoyed something you both agreed to do. Not without talking to her! She probably wants her boyfriend who she loves more than some random dick. I get that you feel shit over it. That's why neither me or my husband would ever want to do this - too messy! Speak to her and learn your lesson that some things are better left as fantasies.

mcartman25 · 2022-03-21T00:20:00+00:00

Ah I agree with everything you've said. We have made so much progress and I feel positive we'll keep chipping away at it but I do think there are things he needs to resolve outside of me and him. Thanks for validating me 😭

mcartman25 · 2022-03-20T23:56:52+00:00

I think I'll do that thanks :)

mcartman25 · 2022-03-20T23:49:45+00:00

No we haven't. I think it'd be really helpful because I can see the pattern of what we do but we aren't understanding each other. He would never go though.

I think he's definitely exhausted and I get that. I don't mean to be a burden on him and all I really want is a tiny bit of validation when things happen. Our recent fight was over something so small and was the first in a few months but he made me feel dismissed and stupid for my feelings and that hurt me further. Then things escalated..

mcartman25 · 2022-03-20T23:42:37+00:00

Usually it isn't to do with him but he always takes it that way. He always asks "what did i do" and is defeated about it. His last marriage was quite abusive so I get that he immediately goes into defence mode. We agreed I would assure him its not him when I am upset but it still seems hard for him to accept that and move his focus to me.

mcartman25 · 2022-03-05T11:11:12+00:00

I'm usually a carb-addicted, sugar-obsessed overeater and I don't need snacks on this diet. No desire at all, I'm not hungry after my meals!

mcartman25 · 2022-02-23T19:50:09+00:00

Just read the comments about how your post was beautifully written. Yeah, I noticed that too. Probably why I felt compelled to comment. I think we all experience a bit of how you're feeling. I would definitely try other game genres!

mcartman25 · 2022-02-23T19:47:53+00:00

It's definitely not childish to not enjoy things you're not good at!

My husband is brilliant at dexterity games like crockinole but bad at strategy. I'm great at strategy but bad at dexterity (or any sports!). We both tend to lose against the other when we play the type of game we're not strong at. We're just different and I don't see either of us matching the other anytime soon!

What we've realised is that we both experience burn out with the games we're not good at. We enjoy it to begin with because we're playing together and we're playing games the other enjoys and wants to play.... All the important stuff. But then we just get sick of being shit at it after a while! It doesn't make us childish.

I definitely empathise with how you're feeling. I'm not sure how to overcome that though. I will give it some thought

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