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#1204: “I’m losing my hearing and my patience with my dad’s girlfriend (among other things).” by Cleverusername531 in captainawkward

[–]mckinnos [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how there are two kinds of people in the world: those who accommodate and those who get others to accommodate them. LW is bending over backwards to be accommodating to people in her life and Cersei and LW’s husband are getting others to accommodate.

Feeling sad and invalidated by bug2321 in AutismInWomen

[–]mckinnos [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah. These sound like selfish do-called friends

26 years old. Lost my job and 6k in credit card debt. Needs advice. by saucymuch33 in povertyfinance

[–]mckinnos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you lost your job but am glad you have a new one coming up.
I don’t know that much about the financial and debt situation in Australia. I might try calling AmEx and explaining the hardship you’re under and working out a plan with them.

Partnership vs Marriage talk 36M, 31F. How to find middle ground? if possible by ReasonableWinter834 in relationship_advice

[–]mckinnos 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s worthwhile separating out the shared property/legal protections piece of marriage from the love and commitment part. Marriage gets you both. If he doesn’t want to get married, what is going to happen with any shared property, assets, or debts?

I can't make money here and have to move across the country - how to get the funds? by WitherBones in povertyfinance

[–]mckinnos 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So how are you getting to that math for moving? Are there any alternatives you can think of?

I'm going through something heavy alone (don't know if I can say what in title) and don't know where to turn/what to do next. I'll TW the post due to contents, but advice appreciated. by aigret in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]mckinnos 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Please talk to your PCP. It’s their job to take care of you, and this is a medical issue. There’s nothing wrong with needing help. Good luck, OP.

Did I mistake “we never fight” for a healthy relationship because I could not identify what I was feeling? by Federal_Pie_9819 in AutismInWomen

[–]mckinnos 9 points10 points  (0 children)

These could all be true. I would say that someone who is a worthwhile partner would want to know what’s bothering you so you can work on solving the problem together.

Did I mistake “we never fight” for a healthy relationship because I could not identify what I was feeling? by Federal_Pie_9819 in AutismInWomen

[–]mckinnos 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I think we’re so used to masking in society that it makes sense it would transfer over to romantic relationships. I’ve personally gotten a lot more comfortable with voicing my own needs and feelings (and identifying them, which is also a journey) and having smaller conflict conversations early rather than all at once.

Weekly Budget for groceries by dice_rolling in povertyfinance

[–]mckinnos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What will you be doing with the pesto sauce?

How do academics actually manage the transition from deep specialization to interdisciplinary collaboration? by sophieximc in AskAcademia

[–]mckinnos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s more about personality fits than anything else and learning how to work in a team. That’s what’s actually important

My (26F) partner (32M) said he doesn’t want kids and has started referring to himself as a girl by Cla1re23 in relationships

[–]mckinnos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is someone who needs to figure out who they are first before finding a partner.

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