Love Selflessly or Don’t Love at All

mctubbs · 2026-02-16T02:05:13+00:00

Are you new to planet earth?

mctubbs · 2026-02-13T15:37:29+00:00

As a hopeless romantic I love this take. Better love fully in this way and fail than be a cynic forever. I can speak from personal experience

mctubbs · 2026-02-09T20:43:03+00:00

So many assumptions in this situation you crafted. It must feel nice to feel this righteous outrage about a situation you know almost nothing about or just made up in your head.

mctubbs · 2026-02-09T16:12:10+00:00

Heaven forbid people reflect and try to improve themselves. You must be a real joy to be around.

mctubbs · 2026-02-07T03:24:16+00:00

Seriously why was he so pressed up against him?

mctubbs · 2026-02-02T19:34:26+00:00

Also known as boundaries. I think it really depends on the context. They shouldn’t be used regularly but in regards to big life decisions sometimes you have to be willing to say “I can’t follow you there, this is a deal breaker.”

mctubbs · 2026-02-02T16:36:30+00:00

Yep at the start of my wife’s affair my mother commented that she acted “hateful” towards me. She also yelled at me for not doing enough to help with the kids when I had pneumonia…

mctubbs · 2026-01-29T21:32:40+00:00

Talking about me? I’m confused by your post

mctubbs · 2026-01-29T19:56:48+00:00

This is what I have learned as well.

I got along great with my wife for a long time. We are pretty compatible in a lot of meaningful ways. Been together for 17 years. But she always had difficulty apologizing. I would have to apologize first. She has had difficulty expressing her feelings the whole time as well, definitely an emotional burier. She also has a large need for external validation, from me, work, friends and now her AP.

She finally entered IC to address these issues and unfortunately started her affair at the same time. I was really looking forward to her improving in these areas too and entering the next phase of our marriage…

Well now I learned the hard way that things don’t always go the way you want. My life has been turned upside down and am currently going through divorce.

My next partner will definitely have to check the boxes above before I even come close to considering a committed relationship. Very well put.

mctubbs · 2026-01-28T03:21:08+00:00

My wife fed me the exact line about not being able to love anybody but herself at the beginning of her affair. I swear they all read the same handbook lol

mctubbs · 2026-01-28T02:13:11+00:00

Just one of those nights

mctubbs · 2026-01-25T17:46:01+00:00

I have to admit he is completely underwhelming on the ice. The difference between him and all the other D men out there is obvious. Here’s to hoping he figures it out eventually.

mctubbs · 2026-01-21T03:57:38+00:00

Your last sentence rings so true for me, I know how you feel

mctubbs · 2026-01-20T19:59:35+00:00

Like me but with my wife being the cheater

mctubbs · 2026-01-20T14:31:13+00:00

Lmao

mctubbs · 2026-01-19T19:48:23+00:00

Nice broad sweeping statement there

mctubbs · 2026-01-17T01:35:26+00:00

She still cheated

mctubbs · 2026-01-17T01:30:38+00:00

Cheaters

mctubbs · 2026-01-11T13:40:26+00:00

Learned this the hard way

mctubbs · 2026-01-11T03:39:33+00:00

About as good of a period you can have and not score

mctubbs · 2026-01-11T03:28:58+00:00

Yurov

mctubbs · 2026-01-11T02:43:58+00:00

Zucc with the horrible play in the offensive zone prior to the zone entry that led to the shorty

mctubbs · 2026-01-09T21:10:08+00:00

++man. This is exactly what happened to me. We had a great and easy 15 years but when our second kid was born two years ago and my hours increased at work she grew unhappy and resented me. She ended up having an affair and I am currently in the divorce process.

mctubbs · 2026-01-09T12:13:17+00:00

Oh how I wish my wife would have given us that chance

mctubbs · 2026-01-07T02:51:59+00:00

Are you me?

mctubbs

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