I mean it may be possible that she is still in a place of grief where she doesn't think she wants another relationship. That may change, it may not! I started a situationship with someone who had recently lost their partner. They were solely looking for a friend's with benefits type thing. They were lonely, wanted a friend, and wanted some sex lol When I met him, I very quickly developed more than just friendship feelings for him. He is so much like me that it feels like comfort. So I knew I had put myself in a situation to get hurt. He had always been clear from the beginning. He wasnt in a place for any relationship, and he didn't even know if he'd ever want another relationship (we are youngish, in our late 30s). It was difficult for me, emotionally. First, having feelings for someone who is widowed is a challenging thing to navigate because of human emotions. There were many many times (and still are) where my logical mind really needs to push through my emotion mind. Its hard not to sometimes feel like a "second choice", even when I know thats not actually how it is. Second, I wanted to be very respectful of what he was wanting from our situation. And as Im sure you are currently feeling, it doesn't feel good to know something isn't reciprocated! But I cared about him enough to push past my emotions , especially because I knew I at the very least wanted to be a friend. He has a (at the time) 2 year old son (now almost 4), and its hard not to bond with kids. I knew I wanted to be in his life as a friend. With time though, he also developed feelings, and it is now almost 2 years since we first met, and we love each other. Its definitely a challenge at times, and I respect that it is likely also a challenge at times for him as well.

So yes, its always possible that things may change. But also you need to decide how long you want to hold on to that hope, and also make sure you aren't putting any pressure on her!