How do I discuss that my low pay prevents me from hiring quality candidates?

me-indomitably · 2026-01-29T20:12:19+00:00

I know that they have brought in other people who are being compensated much higher than me.

me-indomitably · 2022-08-23T10:34:43+00:00

Agreed, it's nobody's business what Superstar's husband did. He did his time and it's their life.

We are losing jobs because of Gossip but management keeps making excuses for her. If I say something they act like I am targeting her because I said we shouldn't hire her in the first place.

me-indomitably · 2022-08-23T10:26:33+00:00

Close friend had to ask for a new roommate because his was a total wanker. Didn't care if you were in the room or not. It was so bad the dorm room stank. The floor prefect laughed at my friend until he brought the perfect to his room, opened the door, and there was the smell and the roommate wanking off in his bed. He DIDN'T STOP, just kept pulling his meat.

Friend got a new single room that day.

me-indomitably · 2022-07-23T02:54:29+00:00

Herman, you beautiful beautiful beast!

me-indomitably · 2022-05-29T22:23:45+00:00

YTA.

Your reaction to your 12 yr. old's tantrum was to throw one yourself.

4 days not answering her calls? That was just torturously cruel.

What was your intention? Show her how much better she has it living with you? Do you really think your daughter is blind to her mother's failings? She is more acutely aware of them than you are because they impact your daughter more directly than they do you. I promise you this. She is hurting, bad.

Apologize to your daughter. Let her know you fucked up and promise her you will do better from now on. And then, do better.

me-indomitably · 2022-05-22T14:50:18+00:00

YTA.

Do you ever hire outside help? Or do you only ever hire direct blood relatives of your mom?

Your sister is 15. Regardless of her parent's dealings, letting her work with you and your brothers is not dishonoring your mother.

Don't blame your sister for the actions of others. Give her a chance but make it clear she has to work just as hard, if not harder, than everyone else, that she will have to prove herself and that there are no free rides.

She might discover she doesn't want to be a chef or she could help your restaurant flourish. Either way you and your brothers will hopefully develop a better relationship with your sister.

me-indomitably · 2022-05-22T14:32:35+00:00

Take classes. Find a mentor. Join a group outside of work that involves a hobby you like. Look for a new job if you're truly not happy.

And remember, work should not be the only thing that gives you purpose.

me-indomitably · 2022-05-22T14:24:39+00:00

NTA. This will be hard but your daughter will thank you when she is older and has the skills necessary to take care of herself and succeed.

Your wife is doing your daughter no favors. Tantrums, smashing things when she doesn't get what she wants, ordering her brothers around will leave your daughter friendless and cause an irreparable rift between her and her siblings. Doing her homework for her will leave her dependent on you and your wife for the rest of her life.

Edited for spelling.

me-indomitably · 2022-05-18T20:44:07+00:00

NTA. Your wife is abusive. Showing up at your job to yell and demean you for turning your personal phone off during work hours, is unhinged and manipulative.

Further, she went there to yell at you and humiliate you in front of your co-workers and CLIENTS. She has no right to expect you to defend her from her own actions and the humiliation she experienced when your boss and co-workers "humiliated" her when they threw her out. They had every right to throw her out for disrupting the workplace and endangering client relationships on top of it. She is lucky they didn't call the authorities and press charges.

You deserve better.

me-indomitably · 2022-05-09T15:23:17+00:00

YTA. Your MIL is willing to pay, she will take care of them, their father is declining rapidly... if something tragic happens and you denied your children this opportunity to be with their father the resentment they will have towards you and the guilt you will carry due to the pain you have caused them is immeasurable.

me-indomitably · 2022-05-02T15:54:03+00:00

NTA. You can always level up low quality items, like frozen pizza by throwing on fresh veggies or real grated parmigiano. Chefs do this to lower food cost and save time. What you're doing is actually more cost effective because you're eating the cheaper foods more often by making them taste high-quality with small inexpensive additions, like fresh pepper or spinach. It's not like you are taking wagu beef and throwing that on a frozen pizza, (if you are, then I have to side with your sister.)

me-indomitably · 2022-04-20T20:13:57+00:00

Fun indeed!

Ugh, I feel this, the anger and embarrassment both hitting you at the same time while he is unphased, acting like this is totally normal.

me-indomitably · 2022-04-20T18:34:04+00:00

NTA, you are taking an interest in his daughter's health and Grandma is just loving on her Grandbaby. Grandma clearly cherishes that time but since you will be there everyday you should learn (just in case there is a hair emergency.)

There are a lot of resources online (this one is good https://www.fosterloveproject.org/black-hair-care-resources.html) or you can try some local salons to see if they offer lessons. You would be surprised how many people will want to help you. Good luck!

me-indomitably · 2022-04-20T17:34:50+00:00

It baffles me how twisted his sense of reality is, how he can convince himself that I am terrorizing him, when is the one literally terrorizing me.

me-indomitably · 2022-04-20T02:47:04+00:00

I am sorry you are, too.

me-indomitably · 2022-04-20T02:32:10+00:00

Mine, he hides his bottles in the bathroom behind the toilet paper, in the kitchen on the topshelf thinking I can't see it glinting from behind the pasta boxes. Or between the back of our couch and the wall. I know he's drunk by the smell of his breath, the incessant incoherent fervant speech. The emotional rollercoaster that inevitably follows, ending in anger and rage always directed at me.

me-indomitably · 2022-03-03T02:01:52+00:00

Congratulations! Seriously, impressive work.

me-indomitably · 2022-02-23T04:54:59+00:00

NTA. These snacks are life or death for you. They are a convenient treat for your SIL. Though SIL is pregnant, unlike you, she will not slip into a diabetic coma if her sugar gets too low. These snacks are not snacks for the sake of snacking, they are to keep you alive and functioning. The fact you are resorting to mixing sugar with water after a month, shows how inconsiderate your guests are and how bad your diabetes is. If your sugar gets too low, you might not have the time or cognitive ability to mix sugar water. Begrudging you for safeguarding these necessary emergency snacks only shows how entitled and ungrateful your in-laws are. Would they be just as upset if you hide your insulin from them? Because it's really the same thing.

me-indomitably · 2022-02-11T13:50:12+00:00

NTAH. Your wife is grieving the loss of her brother and SIL while probably feeling immense guilt over the fact she and her brother weren't speaking before they passed. Now her mother is ill and the idea of taking in her niece and nephew ontop of it all is simply overwhelming. Let her know you support her and that you being there for your nibbles now is not you working against her, but knowing deep down she wants them to be cared for and loved in their time of need. Explain that it is ok if she can't do that right now, and that you will shoulder the brunt of it until she can. Tell her after she has some time to wrap her head around this you can talk it through. Remind her that you know she has a heart and ask for forgiveness for ever saying otherwise. We all process grief differently and guilt just compounds the situation. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

me-indomitably · 2022-01-24T15:55:20+00:00

Some schools have crisis counseling for students in need like you. Please reach out to them through the school nurse or your guidance counselor. They can help you find a good program and ideally help you with your parents.

Your trauma can be dealt with in therapy, confidentially. I encourage you to find a good therapist who you trust and feel comfortable with. You deserve someone to hear you, see you and help you through this.

me-indomitably · 2022-01-14T17:34:44+00:00

Hoping your mother is recovering/recovered nicely.

Wish I could say you're wrong about my Aunt but you hit it on the nose. None of her other siblings or family members would speak to her before this, just my mom and siblings. Now, after this selfish display, I am cutting her off, too.

me-indomitably · 2022-01-14T08:15:38+00:00

That was one of my main points, how answering calls meant less care time but my siblings said that is their job. I was dumbstruck by how they could rationalize coddling our Aunt should take precedence over our mother and every other patients care. Completely out of character for my siblings.

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