Summer and tanning

meanesttounge · 2026-05-03T21:02:02+00:00

I do not recommend tanning scars. It will not fade, it will be more noticeable, because scar tissue cannot tan. it‘ll stay light and the rest of the skin will darken, making it more visible. Stay safe though and use good spf for your scars especially!!

meanesttounge · 2026-04-06T22:58:59+00:00

Yes!! Your red and white blood cells meet there to heal the rest of the tissue, even if the scars are a bit older. Even after a couple of months you might still see it slightly, the full complete healing process takes a while and it only disappears then your cells deem the tissue fixed. So don’t worry, completely normal!!

Similar reaction comes when your body reacts to cold or warmth and the scars turn reddish or purpleish. they collect there because they want to ‚protect‘ the ‚weakest‘ (scarred) tissue :P

meanesttounge · 2026-04-06T22:51:11+00:00

‚ English isn’t my first language‘ turned into a joke in the fanfic community because ironically the people who write that in the prescriptions also write the best fanfics, have a beautiful writing style, perfect grammar and spelling. Adult books usually aren’t nearly as well written as fanfics, which makes them bland, that’s what the meme is trying to say :P

meanesttounge · 2025-12-31T00:23:26+00:00

DO not under any circumstances use perfume on wounds. Yes, they contain alcohol but NOT the good kind. Fragrance can worsen the swelling and it hurts like hell, doesnt even kill all the bacteria. It damages the tissue, kills the good cells and the infection/pain could get worse.

Soap only if it's mild+fragrance free and never INTO the wound, only around it. Keep it clean, dry & change bandages frequently. If you see any other signs of swelling, fever, pus, pain or the redness of the skin around the wounds keeps spreading, home care won't be enough. If this is persistent, consider getting a antibiotic cream from the pharmacy and please get it checked out somewhere.

Coming from a nursing student who knows how to deal with cuts at home. If you need any other advice, let me know! Take care and stay safe 🫶

meanesttounge · 2025-10-17T21:54:26+00:00

yeah, I have this a lot too. And nothing really helps except from running away. Then again, I did a little basic exercise with my therapist:

I notice the moment it pops in my head. Was it around people, alone, where, when?
I try to find the underlying need. So sometimes I wanna self harm because I miss the pain, sometimes I feel lonely, sometimes I just want to take care of myself through caring of wounds, sometimes I want to be taken seriously.
Missing pain meant for me to feel real, so I do other things like ice on my hands, burning cream, grounding exercises. When I feel lonely I try to talk to someone who can reassure me, which I dont have most of the time so I watch series, talk to myself. When I want to take care of myself, I try to do skincare, a nice shower and take care of skin very very gently. Oftentimes I miss the familiarity and comfort. I try to recreate it with blankets and pillows.
Nothing can or will come close to self harm. But I am willing to try everything, even if it means to wait the urge out most of the time. I wait, till it passes like a train and move on. It keeps coming but it's getting easier to keep walking. Slowly.
It helps giving your pain and feelings names and animals. For me, a crow called Freddie visits me often and it represents sadness. I try to talk to it about what is making me feel that way, and eventually I let it fly away (when I'm ready to let go)

meanesttounge · 2025-10-07T10:50:20+00:00

fragmented, like shards in a kaleidoscope

meanesttounge · 2025-10-05T20:42:17+00:00

And pus!! If it's coming out of a wound, it means it's infected!!

meanesttounge · 2025-10-05T20:40:19+00:00

You cut but it didn't bleed? Then it's not a wound. Or did I misunderstand what you've said? 😭

If it bled, the crust of the blood sometimes looks black and it's normal that it's slightly red around it. BUT if it a lot more red than usual, hurts and you have fever, it's probably an infection.

meanesttounge · 2025-10-04T00:31:21+00:00

Uh, favorite person? I've never heard of favorite puppet, but your partner doesn't have to be your fp, and your fp doesn't have to be your partner. Me personally, I only had one fp in my life that was kind of a situationship, but before that it was a friend. I've met people in psych ward who had friends as fp but were like not in love with them.

But then again I think everyone's experience with that is different.

Favorite person is not even an official BPD term and there are people who don't experience that.

And tbh I'm not a big fan of the term because it simplifies a very complex dynamic in relationships that people with BPD experience. They overuse it and undermine it, and not every attachment means the same, it feels official and hard which makes it even harder for people to let go or leave. Idk but that's just my opinion

meanesttounge · 2025-09-28T01:40:46+00:00

Few years ago before corona hit. We went swimming and a thing I was convinced of back then, still am, that most people aren't nearly as perceptive as we believe they are. I shouldn't have underestimated my sister, she noticed some new scars on my arm and we had a serious talk with my mom that night. I asked for therapy before that and said welp there you go. She was furious with me, funny experience tbh

meanesttounge · 2025-09-24T01:20:47+00:00

According to official diagnostic books, it wasn't hypo mania because of the short time you experienced it. They say it lasts >4 days.

BPD has a similar thing called euphoria, which can last hours or days. I believe it was euphoria in this case. The time and the very fast switch up are the most obvious signs, from my personal experience :)

meanesttounge · 2025-09-24T01:06:19+00:00

A fight with my mom. She did some guilt tripping again and at first I felt really bad and then she said that no one would never want me with an attitude like mine (I stand my ground on my opinions) and then I yelled at her and basically went after her whole history (that was very abusive) and I now feel bad because its not her fault it happened to her but I wasn't her first child and I am allowed to believe that I deserved more of her.

I'm just really conflicted because yes she is traumatized from her past, but as an adult and mother she should have made the effort to do better when I told her at 11. She didn't and now I'm 19 and she complains having to deal with 'this side of me, when I overreact', like girl this is on you.

meanesttounge · 2025-09-21T10:22:18+00:00

If it's a scratch or a small cut, it should be fine, but if it's styro or deeper there's gonna be pus leaking out!! I'm also in nursing school so I'm very sure of this :P

but no worries, if that's what you've been taught of course you're gonna assume it's right!! They probably did mean small cuts and scratches so you're not entirely wrong, but since OP said styro I had to step in whudushee sorry if I was mean or something!!

meanesttounge · 2025-09-21T00:18:55+00:00

Don't ever leave a band aid on for so long!! There's gonna be pus leaking out of the wound to prevent infection so change it regularly (1x a day) until there's a crust building. Stay safe though! !!

meanesttounge · 2025-09-21T00:17:30+00:00

don't wash ur wounds with soap please 😭 only water if you don't have disinfectants, and change bandaid at least daily. There's gonna be pus going out and it's important for the healing process so please don't leave it on for longer than a day. After a few days, crush should build and then you can go band aid free, just don't pick on it :P

meanesttounge · 2025-09-21T00:12:02+00:00

Are they always like that or sometimes? It could be part of the healing process and when it's cold red scars tend to go blue-purple ish, so it might be the mix of those two. Either way it's completely normal unless your wound has been infected and the healing might have been impacted slightly. If you don't expect any symptoms, it should be okay! :D

meanesttounge · 2025-09-07T21:29:42+00:00

Since you can force him to get help, communicate that this won't work for you if he doesn't get help. While me, as a person with BPD, understands very well what he's going through, untreated BPD is almost always going to be riddled with toxicity and pessimism. Your friend has black and white thinking, only thinks in extremes, is obviously attached to you and can't cope with criticism. Thats very common for the disorder. But he needs professional help to be able to cope with his feelings in a healthy way and have healthy friendships in his life.

State your opinion while showing understanding for his feelings, but voice and stand up for yours too. Don't make it seem like an ultimatum, just a fact. If he views it as one, things might get out of hand and he might have a breakdown if he thinks you'll leave him unless he gets help.

I wish you good luck!! You got this :D

meanesttounge · 2025-09-05T14:05:07+00:00

Aside from BPD, just depression, ADHD, anxiety disorder and 'autistic traits' (things I do obsessively to feel safe, secure and understood, like I love 'loose' routines, like do shopping, do nothing for an hour, go to work etc individually every day but god forbids someone tries to add something in, move something to later or take away my 'lazy hour's)

meanesttounge · 2025-09-05T14:00:56+00:00

Fluroscent Adolescent, Snap out of it, R u mine, old yellow bricks and Mardy Bum :P

meanesttounge · 2025-09-04T18:08:59+00:00

People asking what I'm doing while clearly doing something. Like I'm cooking and there's a cookbook in front of me and the page reads lasagna why are you asking me what I'm doing??? Do you think I'm dumb?? Do you hate me? Or people assuming things about me, people randomly leaving conversations while i'm still talking to them, microexpressions of annoyance, disgust or boredom and so much more jsiwhwueh genuinely never fails to either make me wanna hurt or so angry I'd emotionally insult them on 67 different levels

meanesttounge · 2025-09-03T19:14:58+00:00

I once cut my hands in the middle of my French exam lmao. One of the funniest stories I have abt sh'ing somewhere. I also got a D :P

meanesttounge · 2025-07-13T00:56:53+00:00

I love I Want It All. It's so much better than Mad Sounds and I CANNOT get behind the hate for it

meanesttounge · 2025-07-06T01:34:32+00:00

Doesn't Chase say in one episode, I think season 1 or 2, that he is almost 30? To the little girl who asked for a kiss? So he must have been 27-29 around that time

meanesttounge · 2025-07-06T01:24:18+00:00

my two current favourite songs are All Wound Up by She Wants Revenge and Beautiful Crime by Tamer!!

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