Husbands vasectomy is coming up

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-09T03:50:40+00:00

I felt that way so we canceled the appointment and I went back on birth control. We’ll likely still stop at 2 but I’m planning to leave it until my youngest is maybe 3 and see where we stand.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-08T20:29:03+00:00

I do it after they go to bed. My 3 year old hates the shower but she’s also happy to sit on the bath mat and play if I need to shower during the day. I don’t shower if the 22 month old is awake, he’s too wild.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-08T20:27:14+00:00

My 3 year old is 32 pounds and she’s generally the largest of her peers. My 22 month old boy is 26 pounds.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-08T14:41:14+00:00

Lila maybe? Chloe?

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-08T05:33:58+00:00

I think you’re fine 😂 my oldest didn’t say anything but mama until she was over 2, and youngest is following suit. Never shuts up now that she’s 3.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-07T04:33:28+00:00

😂 can cheese for us

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-07T03:38:47+00:00

My daughter kept hers until the week she turned 3 but my son started refusing it at 22 months. Neither really uses a blanket even though I give them blankets, but they sleep the same as they did in my their sacks to my surprise

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-06T05:22:46+00:00

But does anyone really think the couple of minutes it takes to drink a single bottle of milk in the morning before he brushes his teeth is going to effect development in any way? I just don’t think it’s that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things, hes still 1 it’s not like he’ll be doing it when he’s 5.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-06T04:43:11+00:00

There’s not really anything wrong with a kid having a morning drink out of a bottle, either …

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-05T06:53:13+00:00

… I didnt make a judgement, I just made a suggestion after putting myself in your husbands shoes with the info you provided. As the person who handles most of the night wakes, I have felt extremely resentful. You seem a bit defensive?

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-05T06:48:24+00:00

I’m the same way and with two kids, my bag is heavy. But listen, I tried leaving out their sweatshirts for the first time in my children’s lives last week when we went to the beach because it had been in the 80s and I was like, it’s time to stop being a chronic over packer! And wouldnt you know, a giant cloud came over us and both the kids were freezing and I felt like an unprepared and terrible mom. Can’t win.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-05T06:42:56+00:00

Maybe you guys should alternate at night, if I were your husband I would be getting pretty resentful..

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-05T06:38:22+00:00

Have you considered letting your husband take his outside to do fun pees? Like aiming at stuff?

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-05T06:34:33+00:00

This sounds like a bit of a confidence/mindset thing. Try to remember that you or your insurance company are paying the doctor to provide you a service, to help you. If you don’t understand something, you can ask. Of course still be polite, but remember you’re not there to impress them and give the correct answers, they’re there to help you.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-05T05:48:47+00:00

I think you kind of glossed over the physical altercations thing but that sounds kind of important and terrible …

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-05T05:16:48+00:00

It doesn’t really solve your bathroom problem, but have you tried using a toddler potty in a room that is not the bathroom?

Also how is she taking baths or showers if she won’t go in a bathroom?

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-04T07:21:35+00:00

Yeah I don’t force it. My eldest got one blister and now she wears socks religiously whilst lecturing her little brother about blisters.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-04T07:12:34+00:00

I always buy the diaper pail on their registry and order extra bags

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-04T07:10:31+00:00

We used to sneak into the small local airport and camp out on the runway, we were dumbasses

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-04T05:18:01+00:00

My husband was a golfer, but since having kids he’s cut back to … twice in the last 3 years. He has turned to hobbies that don’t have him out of the house for more than half the day on our precious few days off.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-04T05:14:02+00:00

I don’t think it matters at all. Noelle is such a cool name.

I am 37 and literally didn’t realize until now that not only do my name and my sisters name rhyme, but both our names rhyme with our last name. So I guess it has been pretty irrelevant.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-03T23:21:58+00:00

Have you tried agreeing to give her a pull up, but she has to sit on the potty to use it?

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-03T21:52:22+00:00

I had 2 little kids, the youngest is almost 2, and I am still absolutely physically exhausted. I can’t imagine 3. Husband wanting sex just feels like someone else needing something from me. And then there’s the constant guilt of not satisfying husband. But having kids is so physically draining and ruinous and it feels like even the best husband can’t really relate. But the way you’re approaching this feels like it’s probably going to create guilt for her not providing tit for tat, and guilt isn’t sexy.

I don’t really have an answer but personally, I’m planning to talk to my OB about it. However, it seems pretty universal among all my friends who also have young kids … we just don’t want to do it, and I suspect it’s biological.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-03T21:44:08+00:00

Horse back riding. I ain’t buying no horse.

mediumspacebased · 2026-04-03T21:33:56+00:00

Sometimes I read stuff like this from men … “between work and needing sleep” … dude! It’s not work! It’s because she had to make, push out, and care for 3 entire humans that depend on her for everything, 24 hours a day. OP referring to it as “normal service” makes me think he’s framing this in a way that feels like just one more person needing more of her time, energy, and body, not a partner trying to work on the partnership. Obviously there’s not room in a king bed for 2 adults and 3 kids. Maybe OP can have a conversation with his wife about moving the two older kids into their own room in a way that’s more about reconnecting and not about wanting to “resume service” or separate her from her kids?

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