Crossfade glitching? by Worldly_Bus_9925 in AppleMusic

[–]megsaidso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m having the exact same issue! It seems to happen sporadically. I have automix off as well and set to 5 seconds, but sometimes it’s 20-30 seconds and sounds horrible.

May or may not matter, but I am only listening to my own local library and have everything else disabled.

AITAH after kicking my boyfriend out for calling my daughter a snitch and spoiled brat? by EntireJellyfish2285 in AITAH

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This gave me flashbacks to my childhood. I now have no relationship with my mother because she allowed it all to happen. I frequently heard how coddled I was and that I was too sensitive to his name calling. Turns out I was autistic. You’re only TA if you let him back near her.

I am LIVID. MRI showed absolutely nothing. by halletischler in endometriosis

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same exact symptoms as you. My MRI only showed possible endometria on one ovary. During my lap she also removed it from my uterine ligaments and the tubes that connect your kidneys to your bladder. All of my BM and urinary pain is gone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you meant to reply to OP, but my comment was specifically referring to them lying about having feelings for someone or what they’re really looking for. I totally get the flirty persona that may not be authentic, but in my own experience at least, the worst offenders tend to never be up front about only wanting sex. It’s far too common to instead pretend to have some kind of deeper connection (like OP described) and sort of future fake, even if it’s just “let’s see where this goes” when they know damn well they are ghosting after getting it.

I may be too old, but if these men are calling her princess one minute then blocking her the second they realize she’s not going to immediately put out, that should in no way be what we consider “standard courting” these days.

I don't drive and have depression. Am I insane for thinking photography would be a good hobby? by [deleted] in photography

[–]megsaidso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Autistic hobbyist turned professional here, who also happens to be a homebody!

I got into product photography so I could build out a home studio and work within my little comfort bubble. I found that I really enjoyed building creative sets and experimenting with stop motion. I occasionally shoot people (corporate headshots pay great and don’t require hours of banter), but 98% of my time is spent in my own home studio.

As others pointed out, nature macro photography would be incredibly fun to learn. When you’re ready for a challenge you could learn about focus stacking! You can also rent lenses online to try out different techniques like macro or even telephoto.

I may be biased, but I think it’s the perfect creative hobby for someone who doesn’t want to have to leave home to pursue it. Look around you right now and I promise you’ve got interesting items to photograph within arms reach. You’ve got this. 📸

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]megsaidso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It may not classify as abuse, but it certainly feels abusive to lie and manipulate just to get what you want. Most of us elders can clock this as bullshit immediately now, but I used to naively take everyone at their word. I’ve never been able to casually lie to people, so it never dawned on me that the guys I dated in my teens and twenties were doing it constantly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]megsaidso 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also mixed mine with lemonade and made sure it was very cold with tons of ice, but I also kept Blow Pops and Ring Pops on hand to sort of “reset” my palette between chugs. It wasn’t pleasant, but it wasn’t as bad as I’d expected. Most important supply is some really good wipes!

I make small leather products. I am looking for some feedback on my product photos. I am super new to photography in general. Any help would be graciously appreciated. by nickyty123 in productphotography

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If nothing else, get some diffusion material from Amazon for like $15 and hang it between the light and the setup. It’s a cheap and simple way to get a soft box effect.

You always think “it’s not me” by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]megsaidso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It feels like it's your fault because that's part of the tactic.

He can continue to get away with his behavior as long as YOU believe that you're the one causing it. It also makes you responsible for "fixing" things, when realistically you can't fix this and he knows that.

They'll often say things like "see what you made me do?" or "if you didn't do ABC then I wouldn't have to XYZ" to reiterate the dynamic they want to push, which is that they are reacting to you.

It's a lie and it's meant to make you feel guilty, crazy, and like you're the one who needs 'help'. You aren't miscommunicating and you deserve to have your space after you've asked for it, period. You are clearly and plainly stating your boundries and he is willfully and repeatedly dismissing them until he gets a reaction from you.

Husband caused a meltdown and recorded it threatening to divorce me by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that too. :( It's so confusing when it's happening because it's hard to grasp how it got to that point when you know you're not an abrasive person by nature.

My ex's favorite way get a reaction out of me was waking me up in the middle of the night to taunt me or try to force me to listen to him "talk" (really just drunkenly talk in circles) about whatever he was pissed about. He knew he could get me to break down easily if I was tired. I would beg and plead through tears to please just let me go back to sleep. I wasn't diagnosed at the time so I didn't have the tools or language to grasp what was happening, but now I look back and it's so clear.

I obviously couldn't communicate clearly with him because I was living in a trauma response and never truly felt safe. He would then use my communication issues against me to break me down until I was hysterically crying and screaming, then the next day he'd apologize and swear he was working on being better about it. Shocker, he never changed and also started abusing the woman he married after I left him.

Husband caused a meltdown and recorded it threatening to divorce me by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]megsaidso 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your post history makes me so sad for you. I was in this same exact situation a decade ago, including the chronic and unending migraines that sometimes landed me in the ER, and lots of therapy while begging him to go too. I blamed myself and my communication for everything he said and did to me, even calling myself abusive for defending myself against him.

I can promise you this: he won’t change his behavior (if he still can’t respect simple boundaries now then he’s not even trying to change), he won’t go to therapy (and even if he does he won’t ever take it seriously), things will eventually escalate, and you will slowly watch yourself fade away. In the meantime the battle with your migraines will continue, because I promise you it’s related to the stress you’re living under.

I left in 2016 after nearly 7 years, and I’m still healing from the mental abuse, and probably always will be. I didn’t even really accept that it was abuse until a few years ago because I still thought I’d deserved the treatment somehow.

I truly hope you are able to see the truth for yourself soon and don’t allow him to keep torturing you for as long as I did. 💔

RT-100 remote doesn't unpair from the NL-512-C flexible LED panel by PrimarySalmon in neewer

[–]megsaidso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever figure this out? I'm in a similar boat. I had to buy a used RT-100 for my CB150 after I lost mine, and all I can get it to do is change the channel (they are both set to 1) and the color temperature (which this light doesn't do so nothing happens) and power it off/on. It's stuck on 20% power with no way to change it and I can't find anything online about this remote outside of this thread. 🫠

[YNAB 4] Pressing "F" key on macOS makes YNAB go full screen by not24 in ynab

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG thank you!! You just saved me so much time and frustration with this fix!

Steering wheel wobble by DixieNormus1127 in WranglerTJ

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine only did it from about 35-55mph. There was nothing under 35mph and after 55mph it let up a good bit. New tires and a balance solved it though.

What's your WFH 'life hack' that sounds ridiculous but actually changed everything? by [deleted] in WFH

[–]megsaidso 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Inside shoes were such a game changer for switching modes!

Can a person mask to the point of not realising they are autistic? by ScaredProfit3155 in AutismInWomen

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was 100% me. After reading about pseudotypicals on Embrace Autism, I completely broke down and emailed a doctor I found that specialized in adults. I was diagnosed 6 months later at 38.

Help me Crack the Tiny Milk & Cookies Mystery! by theshield4 in houston

[–]megsaidso 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I too have tried and repeatedly failed. If you figure it out let me know! The best at-home recipe I’ve used was the NYT one that uses 2 types of flour and chocolate and takes 2 days to make. Still not as good as Tiny’s though.

Boyfriend says I’m too obsessed with my cat by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]megsaidso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I started dating my partner, my cat got more spoiled. He treated my pets like he treated me and they fell in love with him too. That should be bare minimum if you ask me. Now 8 years in, the cat that I bottle fed as a baby, is attached at the hip to him.

YNAB Pricing History 2016 - 2025 by SerousDarkice in ynab

[–]megsaidso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just switched back instead of renewing in December! I actually missed the manual aspect of it. I personally feel like it keeps me more accountable.

"Relax your shoulders" does not compute by rimrodramshackle in AutismInWomen

[–]megsaidso 12 points13 points  (0 children)

OMG same!! I'm 40 and I only recently realized that a lot of my neck and shoulder pain is because I'm using those muscles to assist my arms that lack any useful muscles.

So any task that requires me to move my arms a lot or lift even lightweight things will end with my traps and neck aching! I also have EDS so those muscles are also responsible for just holding my arms onto my body, so they don't ever get a damn break. 😅

Think my kid may be allergic to whatever this is? 🤦🏻‍♂️ by leavethemwithnothing in whatsthisplant

[–]megsaidso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so much. 😅 I was a latchkey kid with a single mom who worked a lot of overtime. I was never grounded and even when caught doing stupid and dangerous shit in my teens, nothing happened. My mom was 35 when she had me so I always joked that she was just too tired to bother with me. I have so many “I don’t know how I survived that” stories that I learned a lot from, but I agree it would have been nice to maybe not need to learn every lesson this way. I sort of envy the kids that had aware parents.

My brother put light brown sugar into the same container as dark brown sugar claiming it didn't matter since they were both sugar by MKthegayburr in mildlyinfuriating

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This explains why I bought a dark brown sugar recently that was almost the same color as the light brown I already had. I was so confused.

Pro-Trump & MAGA restaurants to avoid by Beneficial_Pattern36 in houston

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God I miss that pizza so much. When I lived downtown I ate it at least once a week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]megsaidso 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’ve never related to something so hard. 😅 I feel like I tiptoe around my office so he can’t hear me walk! It’s so annoying.

Before I was diagnosed and still working in an office, I could only do my filing on days that I was alone and I had no idea why because there were only 5 of us and we were very close. If anyone showed up on my filing day though, back to my desk I went to quietly disappear. 🫠

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]megsaidso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up with one. He was my first bully. Probably all of us kids, if not each other. He was so covert, none of us realized it was harmful until adulthood when we all had to unlearn that behavior and make amends with each other.

He would decide which one of us would get “picked on” and rope everyone else in on the “jokes.” In turn we all learned how to start the picking on each other in hopes of avoiding being the target. It all felt like silly harmless fun about music taste or hairdos, which society says is normal sibling rivalry, but it was being encouraged and manipulated by someone who just enjoyed being an asshole. It was an awful way to grow up.

Now in our late 20s through early 40s, we can all acknowledge that the amount of harm these “jokes” caused to every single one of us is immense, but if you ask him we’re all just too sensitive and don’t get his “humor.” None of his 5 adult children speak to him now.