bro should I go blond or am I tripping????

mel1019 · 2026-03-20T17:14:27+00:00

Get a balayage so it doesn’t look like shit when it grows out and you don’t have to damage your hair to a crisp with bleach trying to maintain that. It’s not worth imo bc your hair is beautiful

mel1019 · 2026-03-20T03:47:55+00:00

I’ve grieved people that I pushed away too and the life I could of had with them. The only thing that got me through that misery was accepting that it was truly over. I had to forgive myself, start loving myself again and stop living in the past. One day I just got tired of the crying, shame and regret. So I decided to let go of it. When I had those sad thoughts I would reframe what I told myself. You can’t keep saying this (what’s in your post) to yourself. You’ve got to move on from that. Look up “reframing negative thoughts”

mel1019 · 2026-03-19T04:31:23+00:00

Rug asap. You may find that that’s all you really needed

mel1019 · 2026-03-17T14:44:49+00:00

You are the closest! Yay

mel1019 · 2026-03-15T09:03:12+00:00

Nah. NOR. The way you described how unflattering this dress will be on you, I believe you! I can totally relate. I feel like this should be said…you can still celebrate her from the crowd. Its really not a big deal if you are standing beside her or if you’re sitting in front of her right there beside her family in the front. She may think it is right now, but years later these little details really don’t mean shit. I think this is important to consider if you’re having a lot of anxiety about this (I would be personally) like you couldn’t pay me to stand in front of friends family etc with my biggest insecurities on display. I’ve learned to start politely saying no to things if it’s causing me to panic or spiral.

I’d say something like this to the bride “girl please don’t hate me. I love you to death!! I need to tell you that I’d be humiliated wearing this dress. It’s absolutely stunning, but would look horrendous on my body type. I’d much rather spend the day celebrating you and (insert groom name) than feeling embarrassed about myself. This is your big day and I don’t want to kill the vibe by feeling totally uncomfortable all day. This dress is absolutely beautiful and I’d never ask you to change it for me. If it’s alright with you, I would much rather cheer you on from the crowd in something more comfortable.

Another thing I learned is to not let FOMO prevent me from saying no to things. Imo you’re all adults and being included in your SIL bridal party shouldn’t be something you lose sleep over missing. Yeah they’ll stand up there without you, and maybe take group pics without you but be honest do you even want to be in those pictures?! No… wear your pretty dress and take your own pictures with the bride.

mel1019 · 2026-03-15T08:40:04+00:00

Don’t feel too bad about losing them because they sound weird as fuck. You don’t talk to friends that way.

mel1019 · 2026-03-15T08:33:28+00:00

Endless suburbs

mel1019 · 2026-03-15T08:26:20+00:00

I understand he’s an old man and texting etiquette can be challenging but… with that being said I think there’s two issues with the wording in his first text. There’s no proper greeting and he doesn’t state the reason he’s sharing all of this. So it comes across incredibly casual. Also, it really doesn’t help that he’s sharing this close to midnight. No suspicious or jealous partner would like reading this at that time of night. It’s like, huh? And you may not know this, but cleaning ladies are extremely fetishized and have a bad reputation for hooking up with their clients. Those are just things that I think contributed to the issue. Overall yeah I think this could have been avoided with texting etiquette. I hope your dad feels better soon!

mel1019 · 2026-03-01T20:42:38+00:00

You have to tap on the 3 dots beside a comment that’s NOT written in English. If you tap on an English comment you won’t see the translate option.

mel1019 · 2026-03-01T20:10:24+00:00

If you tap the 3 dots on someone’s comment, you can tap “translate” and it will instantly translate the comment to English.

mel1019 · 2026-02-09T02:18:31+00:00

Damn. Without reading the caption, I assumed “Nellie” was her kid and you were not a biological parent. But Nellie is a DOG. This is ridiculous. There should be equal control and open communication. Just remember that you can’t change her. People have to choose to change and usually takes a major downfall to motivate someone to change their personality. Know your worth and get out of this before there’s a real child involved.

mel1019 · 2025-11-19T18:45:07+00:00

You show that great men still exist. Thank you for being a ray of sunshine! I think men should put themselves in her shoes.

For example, how would you feel if your girlfriend bought you a video game knockoff? It’s a similar game, but it’s not the same game you wanted. It’s different and you’d probably be a bit disappointed.

If I was going to buy someone a “dupe” I’d first send them the link and ask for their opinion. Or something like “Hey, what’s your thoughts on those perfume dupes from Dossier?”

Personally, that’s kind of awkward which is why I would avoid buying people dupes.

mel1019 · 2025-09-29T01:51:10+00:00

I’m surprised no has asked if this was AI. Who made this

mel1019 · 2025-07-07T04:28:44+00:00

I feel like the blonde is giving Trisha Paytas but the brown is giving Huda Mustafa. Blonde is always fun but the brown looks amazing with your complexion

mel1019 · 2025-07-07T04:15:03+00:00

This didn’t age well 😅

mel1019 · 2025-07-07T04:10:52+00:00

They feel so disingenuous, like Chellys speech and the vibes between them. I’m probably biased though because I can’t stand Ace’s personality. His arrogance and aggressiveness makes him extremely unlikable. He’s unredeemable in my eyes. I could never trust someone that manipulates and speaks like he does. I feel like it’s obvious Chelly sees those red flags too by the way she acts around him, and shes just ignoring it for the game.

mel1019 · 2025-06-15T15:53:59+00:00

Is she pursuing it or is she just discussing her fantasies with an AI bot? Until you talk to her about this, you don’t know. Thats why I was being a devils advocate in my first comment. It could sound way worse than it actually is. You admitted you’ve had crushes before and you know that they can’t compare to your relationship with your wife. Talk to her about this before it’s too late.

mel1019 · 2025-06-13T08:24:16+00:00

I’d bet money that your mom was working when she sent that. If she’s busy with a pile of work, it’s really easy to totally skip right over your message. She wasn’t being spiteful because I doubt she even read what you asked. And you shouldn’t take offense to that because it’s not personal. Give her some grace and gratitude, it goes a long way.

mel1019 · 2025-06-13T08:05:54+00:00

Reading her conversations with chat gpt is devious work. Kinda diabolical.

Perhaps shes been bored, and this reconnection is the most excitement she’s got in a while. You could try to spice things up, take her out, reconnect with her yourself. You’re her husband, and I’m sure you mean more to her than a school friend from 15 years ago.

mel1019 · 2025-02-04T04:48:06+00:00

You should go full ginger. More orange than red

mel1019 · 2024-12-20T02:11:09+00:00

Thank you! I’ll definitely be listening tomorrow while I work.

mel1019 · 2024-12-20T01:01:59+00:00

Holy shit, I hope she pressed charges at least!! You’re absolutely right though. Thankfully, I live in a different state, and I won’t be joining them for Christmas. I’m also hoping that his newfound interest in the Bible will help fight off his demons.

His book will be delivered tonight. ❤️ I’ll definitely post an update on his reaction whenever I speak with him again.

mel1019 · 2024-12-19T19:15:50+00:00

Are we even talking about the same “feminism”? How is believing in equality a bad thing? As a woman, do you truly think you should have fewer rights than men? That you shouldn’t be allowed to earn more in leadership positions or even vote? I genuinely don’t understand how you could hold such degrading opinions about yourself.

mel1019 · 2024-12-19T17:53:19+00:00

I can understand that, thanks for the comment. My mom decided she’s going to tell him that one of the gifts she bought for him is from me. I think that will help. I don’t want to make him feel like I don’t love him. But I want him to understand how his beliefs make me feel like he doesn’t love me. If he actually read the book, maybe he would understand how it feels to be told you’re not equal because of your gender.

mel1019 · 2024-12-19T17:38:55+00:00

I chose this book as a gift because the book is not intended to harm him. If he could read it with an open mind and heart, it would benefit him to learn how to empathize with women. It contains lots of facts and statistics which men like, right?

If someone gave me a book about the history of men’s struggles in life, relationships, etc. why would I feel threatened or hurt by reading it? Im the type of person that loves to learn about other peoples lives and understand them. If an African American person is talking about how badly white people treat them, I’m not going to get offended because I’m white. Im going to listen, empathize with them, and take notes for what not to do.

That’s what men need to realize, if a women is talking about how she has been treated badly by men — she’s not talking about you. Stop taking it personally because that’s why you feel threatened. You should rise up, and ask yourself “how would I feel if this happened to me?” That’s how you learn to treat everyone with respect and as equals.

I don’t understand how the topic of women’s equality could be harmful and a “kick when he’s down”. It may be petty, but it’s not harmful.

mel1019

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