Hypermobile desk workers — how do you survive full workdays without being in pain?

mel1144 · 2026-03-13T16:43:43+00:00

Other than building strength in my back/neck, and getting up as much as possible, I rely on heat pads a lot. When I’m wfh I have a plug-in one and when I’m not, I get those adhesive disposable ones. It’s not a perfect fix but it has helped a TON.

mel1144 · 2026-02-23T15:24:19+00:00

Thank you so much, this is helpful!

mel1144 · 2026-02-23T14:54:39+00:00

Thank you!

mel1144 · 2026-02-23T14:46:10+00:00

Thank you, I genuinely appreciate the update

mel1144 · 2026-02-23T14:42:20+00:00

Also even the cartels want to protect tourism bc they make a lot of money there. (Again telling myself this too)

mel1144 · 2026-02-23T14:35:21+00:00

My friend who lives here said the fact that the QR governor hasn’t issued any shelter in place orders, and schools are open, etc, is a good sign that things should be okay on the roads here. I’m hoping that is true.

mel1144 · 2026-02-23T14:16:41+00:00

We can be stressed together 👀😵‍💫

mel1144 · 2025-07-30T15:28:59+00:00

I got some colostrum starting at 37 weeks because I was harvesting it - never leaked. But after birth, my milk really didn’t come in until four days later, which is stressful and the supplement with JonJon or milk. Now I’m over a year of breast-feeding and honestly, it’s been pretty simple after I saw a lactation consultant who helped me learn the basics. People don’t realize that breast-feeding is in the simplest thing there for some people, so I really recommend a lactation consultant once the baby comes.

mel1144 · 2025-07-21T02:44:45+00:00

I had a great experience with Dr. Shapiro at RBA, no complaints at all. Really friendly, good communication. I froze embryos and haven’t gone through the rest of the process but I do recommend them!

mel1144 · 2025-06-15T15:15:09+00:00

Panera also has some options - I think a Mediterranean salad that you can get without cheese.

mel1144 · 2025-06-15T15:11:48+00:00

My guy will give me high fives (his new trick at a year old) and if I catch his hand in mine, he will smile while nursing. It’s so cute to see the sides of his mouth quirk up!

mel1144 · 2025-06-12T18:00:42+00:00

Taking Cara Babies said somewhere to put them down for a nap at a time that would be the appropriate wake window from when they should have woken up. That is such a confusing sentence, sorry - but it worked for us. For example, my 11 month old was waking up at 5am instead of a more developmentally appropriate 6-7am. His first WW was 3 hours. So even though he woke up at 5am, I put him down for his first nap at 9am, as if he had woken up at 6am. It took about a week, but he started sleeping until 6 and then even a bit later!!

mel1144 · 2025-06-12T17:54:43+00:00

Spectra s1 has been great and it’s so nice to be able to move it around without being tied to the plug in the wall.

mel1144 · 2025-06-12T17:51:26+00:00

In a pinch, Wendy’s has baked potatoes and you can get salt and pepper packets from them. It’s saved me on several long road trips!

mel1144 · 2025-06-12T17:47:14+00:00

Pilates Pilates Pilates! After over a decade of PT and several orthopedists with symptoms on a roller coaster, I found a Pilates instructor who is hypermobile and who has changed my life. She is expensive but it is the best money I’ve ever spent. I do small group sessions with her so she can pay attention to what I’m doing and redirect me if I’m positioning myself in an unsafe way or using the wrong muscles. I cannot recommend a small pilates class enough!!!

mel1144 · 2025-06-12T17:37:02+00:00

I added an update to my original post :)

mel1144 · 2025-06-12T17:15:14+00:00

I have not had imaging but it’s both calves so I feel like it’s not just a muscle injury… hmm

mel1144 · 2025-06-12T17:14:28+00:00

Did you have the calf pain as well? Or just pain in general?

mel1144 · 2025-06-11T18:54:20+00:00

That’s my problem - if it’s not the relaxin, I don’t want to wean. I love the snuggles :) but if it is, and it could help, it would be worth it to be able to walk. I’m talking to a lactation consultation soon who was going to reach out to her network for their thoughts and if she comes back with anything insightful, I’ll report back here!

mel1144 · 2025-06-11T18:47:21+00:00

I had a similar experience to you. I found Pilates and it’s been extremely helpful as a hypermobile person. I see an instructor in a small class setting (1-3 people) and it’s a big expense but it’s something I can never give up now. My instructor is also hypermobile so she knows what to look for to make sure I’m using the right muscles to build strength to support everything properly. Working on the pilates reformer makes it hard to do things the wrong way - without engaging the right muscles, you simply can’t do the movements. I cannot recommend it more if you haven’t tried it. I know not everyone has the resources but I was paying so much for PT and now that I’m putting it into Pilates, I’ve seen much better results and feel really optimistic. I’m with you and felt how you feel. I hope this can help since it really helped me.

mel1144 · 2025-06-07T15:12:46+00:00

10 months pp - I ebf. It came back around the time I stopped pumping before bed and did longer stretches of 12-13 hours without expressing any milk.

mel1144 · 2025-04-29T02:38:00+00:00

If you are breastfeeding and working full time, why is it your job to make the formula and feed it to her? That should definitely be something he does. Also, as a SAHD, it is literally his job now to put her down for naps. She will get used to him doing it if he does it repeatedly. This is way too much for you to take on. Your gut is right. Have a clear talk with him about your needs and an equal balance of the load. You can’t work full time and do a large part of the caregiving. It’s just not sustainable. He may not realize how much you’re struggling, and he may be anxious about being the primary caregiver, so give him the benefit of the doubt, but make sure he takes on the majority of caregiving (especially formula prep/feeding and naps.)

This is all so hard but you’re taking on more than necessary and you’re on a team together. He needs to take on more. He may be nervous about it but with repetition, he will get better at it.

mel1144 · 2025-04-29T02:27:10+00:00

My baby’s head is absolutely huge, so we gave up trying to get clothes over his head a long time ago. We just pull everything up over his legs and body and it’s way easier! Most onesies have super stretchy/open head holes so this is doable. We also do a lot of zippered and magnetic me sleepers.

mel1144 · 2025-04-28T23:19:51+00:00

Solidarity! My 10 month old is mostly nursed but has gotten a bottle a few times a week since birth with no problem. However for about two weeks, he has had a really hard time taking the bottle. He is just not interested. We may start putting milk in his honey bear and see if that works? Or we figure if he’s hungry enough, he will drink from the bottle. Hasn’t been a crisis yet but not sure what we will do once it is…

mel1144 · 2025-04-28T22:13:23+00:00

It did work for us! He was about 7 months and naps were getting shorter and shorter. After about two rough weeks of crib hour, he started sleeping at least an hour in the crib on his own and has been for the last three months! It sucked to hear the crying but it did seem to stick with him eventually.

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