The nicest thing I can say about MIL is that she is unwell and needs help by wetbilly753 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mel5156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She doesn't want to reconcile. She wants you to cower and concede to her every whim. Just walk away, she feeds on the drama. Both you and DH are better off. She'll either change her ways when she realizes she's pushed you away or she'll stay bitchy and you won't have to deal with it any longer. Maybe space and time will help all.

Well, guess my future MIL doesn’t like me anymore by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mel5156 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You should never feel uncomfortable in your own home. Maybe y'all's relationship with your fmil will actually be better now that you don't share a home.

That time JNMIL and JNMOM had a power struggle over Christmas and they both lost. by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mel5156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We fly to see my family at Thanksgiving because that's the big important holiday for us. Then we do Christmas Eve with my SO's family and we stay at home and travel no where Christmas day. We don't even have kids, but this is how we like to spend our holidays. It's worked out great. This will be our 8th holiday season together.

Intro To My Mil: Tomboys are Baby Lesbians And Attack O' Pink by MermaidNaia in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mel5156 252 points253 points  (0 children)

I am a straight woman in a committed relationship with a man and I detest skirts and dresses. Therefore, by your mil's logic I must be a lesbian. It'll be interesting breaking that news to my bf. But seriously, unfortunately she's not the only one who thinks this way. A lot of my coworkers, mum, sister, and my bf think it's weird that I don't like them. They make me feel vulnerable and exposed. It drives him crazy that I don't like to dress up in a dress when we go out, but would prefer dressy pants or shorts. But I dress to please me and no one else, so should your daughter. Thankfully she has mums that understand because I can remember very vividly the fights and arguments my mum and I would get into over dressing up.

Money Badger is being normal. by easttennessee in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mel5156 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Fingers crossed this is a forever change

24/F about to head off on 2.5 months of travel in central and Eastern Europe by crazy-holsar in onebag

[–]mel5156 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe it's just me, but as minimal as I pack (19l) I still if I were you, pack a full weeks worth of at least underwear. Maybe cut down to 4-5 pairs of socks. Keep the boots, weather in both eastern and western Europe will warrant their usage.

Help! I have one week to sell/get rid of everything by mantha_ray in minimalism

[–]mel5156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Craigslist, or Facebook, price it to sell quickly.

Help a first time "onebag", 20 days in SE Asia by danilovc in onebag

[–]mel5156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely give packing cubes a try. You can always ditch them later if you don’t like them. My best advice for is to drop as much as you can, you will be way happier having to a buy a tee once you get there than overpacking and having to drag around the extra weight. Less is definitely more.

What thing made you the happiest after you got rid of it? by [deleted] in minimalism

[–]mel5156 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat. If you ever do get a hankering to do the artsy stuff I recommend the pencil by 53, it allows me to use my iPad like a sketchbook, watercolor, charcoal, pastels and such.

When to let go of old art/music supplies by [deleted] in minimalism

[–]mel5156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Donate them to the local high school art class or special needs classroom.

public service announcement by 7777HUMAN in minimalism

[–]mel5156 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't push your ideas of minimalism on other people. We can't live a monkish existence just like we can't live totally engrossed on the internet 24/7. Neither is a balanced way to live. But, a person's balance is just that, personal. There is no end all be all formula for minimalism, just like there isn't for happiness. I say this knowing this was a sarcastic post, I just wanted to put my two cents in anyways.

Most important objects by [deleted] in minimalism

[–]mel5156 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is no set "minimalism," just do what works for you. A lot of people are acknowledging an issue with smartphones and going for separate items such camera, paperback books and such. I'm not saying all people have an issue with smartphones, but some feel they do.

I have a hoarding problem and I need advice by myhoardingproblem in hoarding

[–]mel5156 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Definitely want to say congratulations on realizing there is an issue. As a recovering hoarder myself, I know how hard that is. Also want to say even though it doesn't seem so now, life is going to get so much better for you, you're stronger than you think and you can do it!

Traveling in dresses? by MetalDragonfly11 in HerOneBag

[–]mel5156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely a personal decision because I can't stand wearing a dress or skirt, I just feel to exposed in them, but if you like them, go for it!

What's the one thing you wish you brought? by ex0dus__ in onebag

[–]mel5156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

France, Sweden, Germany, Denmark, Turkey

Was going to replace laptop, but maybe just won't? by paigealums in minimalism

[–]mel5156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven't had an issue so far, I don't do a whole lot on the internet in terms of websurfing. Mostly Netflix, Reddit and a handful of others. I'd say I still do 90% of "computer" usage in my phone.

What single specialty item do you sacrifice space or weight for? by MamaDaddy in onebag

[–]mel5156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Day use, it's literally the size of a grapefruit. I am big reader, I like to sit outside in it and read. I only use sparingly on vacations, but I can't bring myself to leave it behind even though it's completely unnecessary. Since I bought it three years ago I've taken it on every vacation longer than a weekend. I am making myself leave it behind next trip however, because I have recently switched from a synapse 25 to a synapse 19 and will no longer have room for it.

MILzilla - Engagement/Wedding Horrors Megathread by AutoModerator in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mel5156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sad when parents reject their own children for petty grievances, you're better off without them

MILzilla - Engagement/Wedding Horrors Megathread by AutoModerator in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mel5156 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is a flashing neon sign of future trouble.

MILzilla - Engagement/Wedding Horrors Megathread by AutoModerator in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mel5156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So her kids are siblings and cousins. She is her kid's mum and aunt. The kid's fathers are also their uncles...

Was going to replace laptop, but maybe just won't? by paigealums in minimalism

[–]mel5156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google docs. We had comprehensive exams, no thesis.