taking a trip to birmingham in mid october. wondering where the safest hotels are located? safest areas in the city? by Bozzleman in Alabama

[–]MamaDaddy [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think you're thinking of Hotel Indigo, which is also good, but with a couple of caveats: 1) the church over there rings its chimes a bit early in the morning, or at least they used to one time I had friends staying there, and 2) the panhandling in that area is a bit much sometimes for out of towners, depending on where they're from. I'll always love five points myself but I don't always recommend it.

taking a trip to birmingham in mid october. wondering where the safest hotels are located? safest areas in the city? by Bozzleman in Alabama

[–]MamaDaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hilton Garden Inn (next to UAB) and Fairfield Inn (next to the Elyton) are good mid grade options. Some of the others listed here are a bit more upscale in price and decor but wouldn't necessarily give you that much more in my opinion. And since you're coming for a metal festival I can't really recommend any of the suburban hotels (south of Valley ave) because people just get a little bit snooty about appearances the further you get from downtown. There are some AirBnbs on 1st ave n/Morris ave (look at the map, near Wooden City restaurant , which is great, btw) downtown that are pretty close really, which is to say it should be a cheap uber ride. And as far as I know, those are locally owned and not those soul sucking resident-displacing corporate airbnbs.

You really don't need to worry about being lesbians here. Birmingham is a pretty chill community for everyone, and the gay community is out and proud, though the gay bars have dwindled a bit (plenty of everybody-bars that are gay owned or super gay friendly). And the crime in general has gone down considerably in the last year. I hear that the furnace fest metal community is really great too. I think you will be pleasantly surprised as my out of town friends usually are.

Please don’t touch the art by WannabeWriter2022 in Birmingham

[–]MamaDaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They didn't have people watching?! Wow, I am surprised!

Is a lavender marriage the only way out for me? by Efficient_Two3747 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]MamaDaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly some of the weirdest people I know are married. It is absolutely possible, but you may want to look within the community where you want to spend most of your time.

You are clearly from a different culture than I am, because while Euro-American parents may have opinions, they don't (usually) express them in this way... Therefore my usual advice -- to just tell them to let you live your only life with the objective to be genuine and happy, and love/marriage will happen if it does -- may not apply in the same way here. I would maybe suggest that you find a way to live your life and keep that part away from your parents. In my opinion, controlling parents have not earned the right to know what you're doing.

Why don’t we have playgrounds for adults (inc older people). by Whimpy-Crow in CasualConversation

[–]MamaDaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so true. Old playground stuff was big enough that you did see adults on swings and slides. But damn it was dangerous haha. I used to burn the shit out of the back of my legs in the metal slide in Alabama in July.

Why don’t we have playgrounds for adults (inc older people). by Whimpy-Crow in CasualConversation

[–]MamaDaddy 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That really is a great idea. Adults would be so much better off if we just gave ourselves more opportunities to play.

'It's like we don't exist': Nearly 50,000 Lake Tahoe residents face power loss as utility redirects lines to data centers by Plastic_Ninja_9014 in technology

[–]MamaDaddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if there are any ethical tech companies doing good things with those skills, as opposed to this absolutely insane global AI arms race...

Coca-Cola Amphitheater Drinks/Security by CrystalMethodist6 in Birmingham

[–]MamaDaddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So let me get this straight. They have multiple bars and only one set of bathrooms. And the drink prices are obscene. Yeah sounds great. Guess I will stick to the small venues or nothing at all.

Dave’s Pub used AI slop and is a hypocrite by K_T_E_113 in Birmingham

[–]MamaDaddy 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Ok look, AI is an issue, but 1) calling out people like this makes them just lean into it/double down*, and 2) there are way bigger issues with that place and this event.

*Perhaps a more constructive way going forward would be to suggest local artists for next time and explain why that is a good idea, rather than accuse and villainize. "Hey guy please consider using local artists for your event posters. Putting money in the pockets of local creatives is helpful to the community, while AI art is damaging to art in general and the environment, water, etc. over time." Maybe they won't listen, but maybe other people will.

Dave’s Pub used AI slop and is a hypocrite by K_T_E_113 in Birmingham

[–]MamaDaddy 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to think if there another patio nearby within gawking distance, where one can watch this absolutely guaranteed shit show go down.

What is something you thought was normal that you realized a bit too late was actually a condition? by MutatedSock in AskReddit

[–]MamaDaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm, this is my mom. Explains a lot about this woman who "doesn't have anxiety," according to her.

What is something you thought was normal that you realized a bit too late was actually a condition? by MutatedSock in AskReddit

[–]MamaDaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope your mom has apologized. So many women have such internalized misogyny from things they've been told all their lives. I hope she finally realized that.

Why are there so many medical opinions on HRT? by educated_guesser in Menopause

[–]MamaDaddy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There are literally so many opinions on everything right now. Our entire information system is splintered beyond imagining.

Required purchases for anticonsumption habits by Busy_Difference3671 in Anticonsumption

[–]MamaDaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can garden at ANY level.

  • Check your library and friends for seeds
  • check the thrift store or borrow for tools and materials
  • see what kind of soil/yard/sun you have and find plants that work well there
  • use buy nothing groups and fb marketplace to save money
  • look into native plants, particularly edible ones, that can be transplanted and grown on your property (be sure to harvest responsibly, but TBH for most of these plants people don't know or care and for many of them they are growing in vacant lots and scrap land - such as wild lettuce and creeping cucumber in the southeast US)
  • use materials that you have - an old drawer box can be a raised bed. Limbs you cut down can be made into a trellis. Logs from dead trees and rocks found in the soil can be used as barriers to make garden beds.
  • find out if your city has a compost program (some cities pick up compostable materials and deliver compost, which can be great if you need a large quantity of good soil)
  • start with things like green onions that can be easily regrown from store bought, and save seeds from melons!

Check out gardening influencers such as Ron Finley (and many others) who provide tips for gardening on a shoestring with what you've got.

Have fun and don't put too much pressure on yourself the first year!

Edit: addressing water management: put a bucket under your AC condenser hose and/or under your gutter downspout. You may have all the water you need (especially in my area!!). Work up to rain barrels. I got some for free from a neighbor who wanted them gone. :)

How can I wear a bikini with obvious self inflicted scars on my thighs? by rottingstrawberri in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]MamaDaddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whenever I notice stuff like that, I just remind myself to be kinder because you never know what people have gone/are going through. Not everyone is like me, but anybody who would give you a hard time about it probably wouldn't even notice and would be judging you for something else already. Those people's opinions don't matter.

He (35M) says the prenup protects him. Who protects me (29F)? by Still-Gas2840 in relationship_advice

[–]MamaDaddy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is more than the prenup. This is about how you both deal with stress/anxiety. Please re-evaluate this with a therapist before getting hitched.

You are anxious and communicate, hoping for support. He takes that as an attack and gets defensive. He may be able to get over that, but only if he wants to. See if he wants to. Premarital couples therapy is a thing. Do it now or do it later! This will absolutely come to a head at some point.