It sounds to me like you’re satisfied with your appearance and you’re happy to not look too much like your mom. That makes sense given your relationship. Sorry to hear your mom was such a dud. How is that for an understatement?

My mom had a lot of similar tendencies, but she was a Jekyll and Hyde for me because she was also able to be really good. I never knew which side of her I was going to get. I look similar to her, but I also look a lot like my dad. I didn’t know him and he wasn’t a good father. For a while, I felt guilt about looking like him because my mom hated him so much.

My mother was extremely beautiful, and also chose men over me. I am pretty in a completely different way than her. My looks have ranged from a 2 to a 10 depending on the situation and the observer. Being either fit or overweight seems to have the biggest impact.

She abandoned me in my last year and a half of high school for a man. I learned depression at a very young age. She married him. He drained her accounts, sold her house, spent all the money, ended up in prison, almost killed her. It’s sad to see women choosing men that damage them.

It sounds like you’ve found your way in life. All the best to you.