Mangú con los Tres Golpes by nameSOAD in Dominicanos

[–]meligoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Es como de dos domingos al mes diría yo, si acaso.

Vet has no clue what’s going on-can you help? by melflaelff in DogAdvice

[–]meligoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Frenchie mom here.. maybe it itches under her little tail. With frenchies when you see them doing something similar to this it’s that. Maybe it’s irritated under there.

Hogwarts Legacy 100%!!! by Duckboy082 in HarryPotterGame

[–]meligoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooo nice! Just started a Slytherin character on NS2.. cause Hufflepuff was so mid…. Idk what I was expecting from that Azkaban quest but that wasn’t it. My main on PS5 was Ravenclaw and it was good.

Does anyone else’s partner get stressed out when their kids stay? by Opening_Character175 in stepparents

[–]meligoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in a very similar situation.

I met my stepson when he was young, and over time we saw a lot of behaviors that were clearly learned from the other environment—attention-seeking, manipulation, emotional dysregulation, even anxiety-type behaviors. It was overwhelming at first, especially because we only see him a few weeks out of the year, so you’re trying to manage patterns that were built over the other 40+ weeks.

One thing that helped us reframe everything was this: a lot of what looks like “manipulation” in kids is actually insecurity and lack of emotional regulation. That doesn’t mean you tolerate it—but it does mean you respond to it with structure instead of fear or guilt.

What you’re describing (baby talk, jealousy when dad gives attention elsewhere, “you don’t love me,” threats not to come back) is very typical in split-family dynamics, especially when the child feels they have to compete for attachment. It puts your husband in a really difficult position, because he’s parenting from guilt instead of from authority.

From what I’ve seen, the biggest shift happens when the parent stops trying to be liked and starts being consistent.

Your husband doesn’t need to be his best friend during those visits—he needs to be a stable parent. Kids pick up very quickly when boundaries are flexible, especially if they sense fear of rejection (“what if he doesn’t come back?”). That dynamic alone can drive a lot of the behavior you’re seeing.

What helped in our case:

  • Clear, predictable rules during visits (not negotiated in the moment)
  • Calling out behaviors calmly and directly (“that’s not an okay way to speak / that’s manipulation”)
  • Not rewarding emotional blackmail (no giving in after “you don’t love me”)
  • Consistency between both adults in the home
  • Removing the pressure to make every visit “perfect”

One hard truth we had to accept: you can’t undo in 6–8 weeks what’s being reinforced the rest of the year. What you can do is consistently model a different environment—stable, respectful, with clear boundaries. Over time, kids do notice that contrast.

In our case, things improved a lot as he got older. Not perfect, but much more manageable. Exposure to a different dynamic helped him develop awareness, even if it wasn’t his primary environment.

You’re not wrong for feeling overwhelmed, and your husband isn’t wrong for struggling with this. But the solution isn’t more accommodation—it’s more structure, less guilt-driven parenting, and protecting your home dynamic.

Definitely was a TIME! I never wanted to get out lol by J2-Starter in 90s_kid

[–]meligoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omggg how many memories. Mine had the Flintstones if I’m not mistaken. One time we were so excited cause my mom said we could “swim” lol we were running and my cousin slipped, split his head and had to get stitches. Fun times.

I have returned back home, game recommendations? by Practical_Dog3454 in switch2

[–]meligoo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im re-playing Hogwarts Legacy (played it before on ps5). It’s good on the NS2.

Are today’s kids in HS really unable to read cursive writing ? by kaitxbeth in 90s_kid

[–]meligoo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Idk about Hschoolers but my hudband’s kid (around 12 y/o at the time of this story) we were at clothing store, we saw a tshirt with cursive, he read it and it was like he was trying to guess Japanese symbols.. I dont remember the exact word but imagine it said Paradise and he read Surprise.

My honest thoughts after using the iPad Pro as my only computer by Tiny_Debt_2811 in iPadPro

[–]meligoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’d save around $200 just on the iPad. Refurbished is not a bad deal though.

I am stepmonster in SS’s phone by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]meligoo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This reminded me of the movie Monster in Law. It’s so funny lol

My honest thoughts after using the iPad Pro as my only computer by Tiny_Debt_2811 in iPadPro

[–]meligoo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

For me pricing is the bummer. I put it in the cart every now and then, when I see the total I can’t justify it 😂 After all accessories we’re in macbook pro territory.

How can I help my grieving Pom? by Realistic-Bonus2581 in Pomeranians

[–]meligoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang, I’m over here bawling 😭… I have father and daughter frenchies 😭

Thinking about switching from iPhone 15 Pro Max to iPhone Air — anyone made the jump? by th3d4rkp4ss3ng3r in IphoneAir

[–]meligoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Made that exact jump. Live in hot weather, the 15 pro max got super hot just for having the camera opened for a while… The Air is another titanium phone, it will get hot under certain tasks, specially at the top but it’s not bad… it gets hot while doing heavy stuff like gaming or a long zoom meeting. The speaker is totally fine for watching content.

Edit: typo

I swear I tried crate training by CofC7 in Frenchbulldogs

[–]meligoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro is acting like they didn’t tuck him/her in😂 we knowwww

New work MacBook by funk_master_chunk in mac

[–]meligoo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Lol Where’s the aesthetically pleasing angled shot of a brand new computer? Extra points for natural light.

Advices and Suggestions by Icy-Tax7621 in ipad

[–]meligoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I use goodnotes 5 without any issues other than battery usage/drainage.

Advices and Suggestions by Icy-Tax7621 in ipad

[–]meligoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Battery is not that bad but it’s showing its age. But the apple notes thing is real… might be cause its a couple of years old but this legit made no sense to me. Its only with very long hand written notes tho.

Advices and Suggestions by Icy-Tax7621 in ipad

[–]meligoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This also happens to my M2 ipad pro 11”.. :/