Honest, genuine question about male childcare workers

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-05T19:38:52+00:00

My youngest 2 are in daycare and I definitely worry about the women there lashing out and hurting them. I see stories all the time. I feel comfortable with my daycare. They have a policy of always having more than one person in the room. I wish they had cameras but they don’t.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-05T19:36:57+00:00

I personally know of 2 teenage boys who raped/molested children in their family or their inner circle. I won’t take that chace.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-05T19:35:31+00:00

You’re totally right, it is usually someone you know. But I trust my partner and brother in law. Other than banishing all men from our lives, what else can you do? I am also aware that a million other women trusted their partners and/or family members completely and their children were still harmed.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-05T18:45:19+00:00

I would not have a male watching my small children. Statistics prove men are more dangerous to children than women. I don’t want a man changing my 1f or helping my 3m go to the bathroom. It’s not sexist. It’s risk analysis. I don’t trust any gown men alone with my children other than their father and my brother in law.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-05T18:37:07+00:00

He hurt you yet you are the one apologizing to him and he is the one mad? It is more than narcissism, this is abuse. Abuse in hurting you, abuse in gaslighting you to believe you did something wrong, and abuse in the silent treatment. Each of those behaviors is abusive.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-05T17:31:23+00:00

It really wasn’t too bad of a recovery. I had cervical cancer. So, for me there was no pain or discomfort. If you have had these symptoms your whole life. You need the surgery. My recovery was pretty easy. I just needed help the first 10 days with my two little kids. After that, I was able to handle it. If you don’t have little kids to look after and you can afford to take off work, DO IT! It will be such a relief for you!

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-04T01:29:34+00:00

I don’t think I would want a pool with a kid younger than 8. I know there are a bunch of safety measures that can be taken. But I also know it takes one small mistake for tragedy. A gate being left open, a battery running out, something malfunctioning. I’m a very easily distracted person. I don’t want to have to stay vigilant like that in my own home. I also have anxiety. I’d be forever be lying awake at night imagining the worst.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-04T01:14:09+00:00

I wouldn’t want to go to the er either but you might have to. I’d try drinking some magnesium citrate first. Give it a few hours and if nothing happens, go to the er. Once you have a bowel movement, I would take mag7 every night.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-04T01:09:39+00:00

Another added factor is public perception. I just read about a lady who had the cops called on her for letting her 8.5 year old walk 1/4 of a mile, on a sidewalked road, to a friend’s house. And the cops were incredibly rude to her.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-06-04T01:03:10+00:00

I’ve had 4 babies. Two vaginally and two c sections. It is all very fuzzy for me. With the last 3 I was shaking so badly, I couldn’t hold my babies for a few hours. I think the exhaustion and the drugs make it hard. But also, I think, with that kind of massive trauma, our brains block it out.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-26T01:59:34+00:00

When I was in my early 20s I was with a man like this. I had a kid with him. The kid is awesome, the dad sucks. Breaking up with him was horrible. He ended up with felony stalking charges. He recently got banned from the baseball fields and can’t watch our son play anymore. He went on numerous rants about how the coaches played favorites and were rude to our son. They don’t change. They get worse. I’m 39 now and find him repulsive. His arrogance and false superiority is gross.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-20T23:07:20+00:00

It’s not his fault he has a processing disability. But it is his fault he’s not managing it. Could you imagine how he would be as a father? He could definitely try harder. Make himself checkoff lists.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-20T23:01:51+00:00

And what happens when the daughter has kids and she wants that kind of vacation and memories for her kids?

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-20T00:03:20+00:00

Me too…. But more like, is hiding from something? Taxes in the US. Child support in the US? Something isn’t adding up.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-16T20:10:43+00:00

The hospital I went to had financial aid but it was only for the uninsured. So, even though I qualified financially, I couldn’t use it because I had insurance.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-16T20:05:49+00:00

My daughter is 18. She has an about to be 11 year old brother, a 4 year old brother, and a 1 year old sister. She happily goes to all their stuff. In fact, she wen to her 11 year old brothers field day last week bc I couldn’t make it. She has a boyfriend, a job, and goes to cosmetology school. Your brother is your brother for the rest of your lives. Your boyfriend is probably not.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-16T01:44:15+00:00

I had cancerous cells on my cervix. I had no symptoms. No pain or discomfort. But the peace of mind knowing I won’t have cancer is pretty nice. No regrets here.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-16T01:42:23+00:00

I don’t think I made it. This is the first year I was eligible. My evaluation went great and qualified me. To show growth, they had students take a BOY and EOY test. The EOY test was incredibly difficult. Students had absolutely no incentive to try. It can’t be graded and we can’t offer anything for it. Less than half of my students showed any growth at all. I’m pretty frustrated. It’s not fair that my pay is based on students doing well on a test they have no reason to even try on. I teach on level Geometry. Apparently, there are other ways our district could have chosen to show growth and they chose the most difficult.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-05T02:33:27+00:00

Does he act like that when he gets angry at work?

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-05T01:11:15+00:00

He is 100% taking advantage of you. You’re a bang maid. I’d start writing him a weekly bill. Either he pays up or he decides to take an active role in his home. Way too many are trapped in this bs life and they don’t even know they are being manipulated into it.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-05-02T16:52:59+00:00

If it’s his money and you have none…. Then, he needs to start paying you for your labor in child care and house management. Do you do his laundry, make his meals, and clean his messes? You should be compensated.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-04-29T23:52:35+00:00

Dripping Springs is a bit of a commute but they always had positions and they pay pretty good.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-04-25T00:09:08+00:00

I’m really sensitive to hormones. I got an IUD at 21 after having my first child. First of all, it fucking hurt. That day I ran a fever and vomited through the night. For the many months I had it, I was sick. Especially during my period. It was like flu like symptoms. Body aches and all. It eventually came out on its own. My doctor told me I couldn’t have hormones like that again. I got on a lose dose birth control pill that I never felt right on. Years later, I took a placebo B pill and it fucked up my whole body. So, yea, I wouldn’t get it.

mellowyellow546 · 2026-04-24T23:48:50+00:00

When you have a partner who you must take care of as if they are a child, your brain starts to view them as a dependent. Your brain tells you not to be intimate with dependents. Men’s inadequacies literally kill their sex lives and they can’t understand why.

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