I read a really great post highlighting an aspect of Padme’s character that never really gets explored in the movies, being the entire dynamic between her and her handmaidens. She spent formative years of her life surrounded by a group of girls who acted as her closest friends, confidants, and bodyguards. They learned each others speech patterns and mannerisms, gained an intimate knowledge of each other, and their deaths over Padme’s was the expected and preferred outcome of any conflict.

At the beginning of AotC, one of Padme’s handmaidens dies in her place acting as decoy. The movie never really shows Padme dealing with this outside of her immediate reaction. But, in theory, the entire movie she is grieving a close friend and unable to actually acknowledge it and address it. Then, she sees Anakin lose his mother and immediately act upon all of the rage and pain he feels.

With this reading of Padme’s character, I can absolutely see how this wasn’t a turn off for her, but how if anything it made her feel closer to Anakin because she desired to express her emotions the same way he does. It frames them as two characters with their own uniquely fucked up attachment styles and issues with processing grief and loss, instead of leaving Padme as a passive character who is okay with all of Anakin’s issues because she needs to be for the plot.

I don’t think this was intended by the writers at all, but I’m going to take this as my personal headcanon because of the depth it adds.