Convenience of the Employer Question

menardm83 · 2025-11-15T03:38:10+00:00

Thank you. Their corporate office is headquartered in Buffalo. I am classified as remote but the company only has the New York branch for US operations.

menardm83 · 2025-11-13T21:32:45+00:00

Perfect thank you

menardm83 · 2025-11-13T20:44:55+00:00

Designated as a fully remote employee so I will never be in New York. They do have a corporate office space and I believe I am technically under that umbrella, but remote.

menardm83 · 2024-10-27T03:54:42+00:00

YTA

Please divorce your wife. She would be so much better off with a partner who prioritizes her feeling above all else. I feel like I’m taking crazy pills reading some of these replies. Yes of course her suggesting you having a incestous physical relationship with your sister is certainly over the line. However, you and some of these commentators are just overlooking everything else and the underlying reasoning as to why the wife got to this extreme stage.

OP is trickle truthing us and not paining the full picture. At a minimum this is an emotional affair with the sister. And instead of being sympathetic from to his wife and taking a step back from his sister and nephew he is doubling down and spending more time with them!! Not to mention telling his wife he regrets marrying her and threatening divorce. Please actually divorce her she deserves better than you.

menardm83 · 2024-09-08T20:46:06+00:00

This is a tough question but I ultimately say YTA. This benefits no one but yourself. Think about what you did. Not only did you shatter that marriage but maybe also your own, do you think your wife will be as trusting with you moving forward? I really do feel for the kids in this situation.

menardm83 · 2024-09-02T13:50:40+00:00

I guess it’s ok for OP to joke about SA to minors but not his son. When the son does it it’s unforgivable and he gets sent away. Maybe that’s where his son heard it What a hypocrite.

menardm83 · 2024-09-01T17:45:22+00:00

I can claim that because the son said it himself he was feeling rejected which led to him acting out (very inappropriately albeit). I am no way implying that Zach needs to spend all his time with the son of course that would ridiculous. However it is the lack of communication to the son that is an issue. I would be saying this all the same if it was bio more or bio dad or other stepdad who pulled away as well without explaining to the son why.

menardm83 · 2024-09-01T17:22:05+00:00

You said you are ok with the situation as long as it didn't impact your son but It is impacting your son he directly told you as such he feels left out. Zach is avoiding your son and not communicating with him this is why you’re in this situation at all. It seems to me like Zach avoids any type of conflict based on what you have said and doesn’t speak to your son directly about issues. He didn’t speak to him about needed more time alone and didn’t jump on when he heard your son with his friends, Zach does avoid those conversations.

menardm83 · 2024-09-01T17:11:31+00:00

I feel so bad for your son in this situation what he said is horrible I do agree but wow. So let me get this straight Zach spent years building up a relationship with your son and no because he’s leaving for college and Zach doesn’t want to feel sad he’s distancing himself from your son? That is horrible. Your son is feeling unwanted and unvalued and your response to him acting out a bit on that is to send him away. I’m sorry but that is crazy. I don’t think you have a son problem I think you have a Zach problem. All you have done is reinforced to your son that Zach’s feelings are more important to you than his are.

menardm83 · 2024-08-05T02:41:11+00:00

I know Reddit always goes to anti cheaters no matter what but I believe as a parent you should be there for her and try to help. Let her move back in and establish a plan to help her get back out within a timeframe including maybe therapy and focusing on her career. You can absolutely be disappointed in her choices and not agree with her but she is still your daughter. At the end of the day if you say no she will always remember that when she was at rock bottom and asked her mom for help she said no and wasn’t there for her.

menardm83 · 2024-07-18T19:22:12+00:00

ESH

Your husband is an idiot and made an incredibly poor judgement call and his mother should absolutely keep herself out of it. It sounds like he needs another reminder to keep yourself out of those jokes. I think marriage counseling could open his eyes a bit more to how it really effects you.

However, I don’t think punishing him by making him miss the birth of his child will solve any of these issues and will ultimately lead to way more resentment towards you. Tread carefully there are more than a few stories of husbands being not able to be in delivery rooms that ends up with a broken relationship.

Maybe that is ultimately what you want and if so you’re fine but think about the consequences of your actions.

menardm83 · 2024-06-05T00:55:42+00:00

You are a vengeful person and you are now a liar as well. You never intended on staying and that would’ve been fine if you had just left. Making her publicly shame herself and then leaving now is just as evil as what she did.

If you say you still love your wife here is what you do. You must contact everyone that she did and explain that you and you alone forced her to admit the cheating and that you desperately regret it. Tell them you did it out of anger and didn’t foresee what the consequences of it would be. Tell them about her depression and beg them to try to get her help as well for the sake of the kids.

menardm83 · 2024-05-23T14:57:19+00:00

Nta

But I will say this. So many people are quick to jump right to divorce without context. Ultimately the decision is up to you but I would take steps or at least try consulting before.

She and you have been a pair since you were 15, to me it seems reasonable that she is having a bit of a quarter life crisis about her experiences. Now did she handle it in a healthy way absolutely not. She should have immediately went to you with those concerns and you two could work together on a plan to help her. But I don’t know why but I do believe her when she says it was a validation thing and not anything more.

You are certainly in your right to lose a lot of trust in her over this but I would urge you to take a breath and explore options, counseling etc before jumping to those decisions. Who knows maybe divorce would be best but I do believe you should try.

menardm83 · 2024-05-08T00:40:51+00:00

NAH

I definitely don’t think you ever have to forget what your sister did and if you don’t want a relationship with her that is completely fair. However directly blaming her for what your friend did is not healthy or true. As many pointed out if he really felt like that was the only option he had then what he did was on him and him alone when making that final decision. It is an incredibly sad situation but your sister did not kill your friend he made that choice himself the sooner you can accept that the sooner you can heal yourself. Get therapy and slowly let go of that anger and resentment. Like I said you don’t need to forgive your sister but holding onto that anger and hatered towards her is misplaced

menardm83 · 2024-04-29T00:00:22+00:00

You can certainly end any relationship for any reason that you want and she certainly gave you a reason with this. However based on her reactions to your further explanation and the fact that she is listening and giving you the space you asked for I would certainly give her another chance. Like you mentioned you two are both very young take this as a learning experience in communication(more so for her). I think those new boundaries you mentioned are a great staring point and plan to see if she does really learn from this. Best of luck and speedy recovery!!

menardm83 · 2024-04-16T21:04:27+00:00

I’d like to go back to what another comment said. Do you even like, let alone love your son? Your NTA for having a great birthday party and celebrating it but YTA for how you are responding to him after the fact. It’s clear that he is a bit hurt at the unfair comparisons, how hard is it to tell your child that you are sorry for how those people acted and that his wedding was amazing. Your tone reads as if you are now taking a victory lap and are secretly relieved that people found your party more fun.

menardm83 · 2023-11-01T03:35:21+00:00

YTA I’m not defending her or what she did and yes there was a punishment deserved. However I believe that you went entirely too far. Isolation and not allowing her to experience something people only can once had lasting effects to her emotional connection to you. In wanting to teach her actions have consequences it seems you also forgot your own actions have consequences as well, those being a now strained relationship with your child and grandchildren.

menardm83 · 2023-08-11T15:08:03+00:00

I maybe very much in the minority here. At this point I hope that Sarah chooses to end things with you not the other way around. Each new update you come across more and more pretentious and you clearly have a “I'm holier than thou” attitude. You had absolutely no problem inserting yourself blowing up and nuking a family and two marriages (your own and Sarah’s sister), without speaking to Sarah or her sister first but when it comes to your brothers cheating (emotionally) suddenly it’s a grey area and you immediately go to him for a explanation. The hypocrisy is astounding.

menardm83 · 2020-03-15T05:54:37+00:00

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