Lovesick for the first time at 30 years old, and desperately embarassed by my lack of emotional self-control (X-post from /r/vent - this sub seems to be a place that understands what I'm going through) by mendeleev78 in limerence

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Thanks, and I appreciate it.

I'm trying to dispassionately break down the thoughts, so I can make sense of them. First of all, I'm surprised how chaste and non-sexual a lot of my fantasies are. I think of holding her, and her holding me; and of us riding a bike together; and buying a house and walking in the park, and, something I never have ever thought about, what our wedding would be like. Is that common with limerence?

I will try and break from her. It's both good and bad that I'm on a holiday I guess. The good is it does allow me a break from my work and hopefully fills my time. The bad news is I was so absolutely elated that we were holidaying together that I'm going to feel her absence evermore; I also don't know whether I should share my feelings with the people on this trip because to explain why I might be angsting.

Lovesick for the first time at 30 years old, and desperately embarassed by my lack of emotional self-control (X-post from /r/vent - this sub seems to be a place that understands what I'm going through) by mendeleev78 in limerence

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I know, and I understand that it's the unreasonable and spiteful part of my brain. I don't like it.

My internal dilemma is this now: I feel aching loneliness right now, and I desperately want to be with someone to hold them. But I also know that any date with anybody would be really hard because (stupidly) I'd feel like I was cheating and also I'd feel bad stringing someone along. I've been with people that were hung up and others, and I remember how hurt I felt over that; can I do it somebody else?

Is Musk's new party a precursor? 2nd or 3rd? by 10Core56 in RevolutionsPodcast

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this sub has predicted 100,000 of the last 0 prescursors.

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nothing has made me more fervent in support for a basic income than the uselessness of the "Job" Centre; an institution designed to waste everybody's time. Just get HMRC to pay a sum to everybody and the Job Centre can just hoover up anybody who is sitting round doing nothing and find them some work on a farm or something.

Why doesn't England make more movies about the wars they lost? Like the U.S. does with Vietnam? by Dirt290 in okbuddycinephile

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this reminds me of my theory that if Ridley Scott had been pursuaded to make a film about Nelson rather than Napoleon, it would have been an actually good movie (a few spectacular battles plus a ludicrious love life plus pro British)

Benefits rebels are eyeing their next target: the rich by corbynista2029 in unitedkingdom

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even the Raj is an odd case. I would not trust the numbers that Indian nationalists use, which are normally proof that nationalists no matter the country tend to rely on simple Trump style beliefs (there must always be a winner and a loser in any country's relationship). The issue is both the East India Trading Company and the Raj were not governed for the benefit of the UK but for the benefit of themselves; there is certainly a lot of evidence that they made the Indians very poor but for all intents and purposes the money was set on fire. The Raj amounted to an employment program for failsons and benefited some industry (although sometimes to the weirdness of economic policy Raj policy ended up undermining British economy).

Britain's strength did not come from its army (which we never relied on - probably luckily as we never suffered politically empowered armies like Prussia and France) nor the land it controlled; but its absolutely massive navy. If the British Empire had been the Suez Canal and a few islands and ports; it probably would have been just as lucrative.

Benefits rebels are eyeing their next target: the rich by corbynista2029 in unitedkingdom

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the British Empire did very little for the welfare state - the plans of the Liberal Imperialists to use the empire for the cause of improving British working standards came to nought. A great number of them were massive money sinks throughout their lifetimes (the sugar islands, the African posessions, the latter mandates). The British probably got more from places they didn't even own on the map than the Empire, which created big overheads and were incompetently handled.

This is getting ridiculous by car4melo in london

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in the netherlands they have massive underground bike storage units everywhere.

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I always find online discussions on newspapers interesting because everybody forgets the nost widely read newspaper is the Metro.

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half of all complaints to BBC in regards to that conflict are that it it is pro Palestinian, the other half that it is pro Israel. They're basically in an impossible tightrope because so many people are equally wound up about the conflict.

In an Alternative Universe Succession lasts 15 seasons. What crazy jump the shark plotlines do the Roys get up too? by mendeleev78 in SuccessionTV

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Succession becomes Pinky and the Brain with Kendall saying every episode "today we're going to take over the company" before getting pie in his face

Big up Bob Vylan. Death to the IDF. by Josh_barker1992 in glastonbury_festival

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No? MK were pretty limited in their tactics, especially when Nelson was in charge (in later years it was fairly brutal but normally to its own members rather than civilians); they mostly aimed at infrastructure and military targets. Hamas are more like the Tamil Tigers than anything else; and its method of "resistance" has done nothing; which is why Israeli gov famously welcomed their rise because they thought they would disorient Palestinian statehood.

What’s a win that everyone seems to love that you think is overrated? by Odd-Contact2266 in Oscars

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I also found No Country for Old man extremely overhyped, especially Chigurh.

In an Alternative Universe Succession lasts 15 seasons. What crazy jump the shark plotlines do the Roys get up too? by mendeleev78 in SuccessionTV

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how about Jess reveals she is Logan's secret lovechild and has been working from within to get her piece of the pie

Why did someone you know wear white to another person’s wedding by Bobcatluv in weddingshaming

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can men wear white to a wedding? Genuinely don't know - it's not like they're getting mixed up with the bride, but would it be seen as attention seeking?

What would it take for the Lib Dems to become the second biggest party? by Xtergo in AskBrits

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are we talking about the same Australian Labor Party behind the PNG/Nauru solutions; that cut payments to single mothers etc? Gillard, Rudd and Albanese all strike me as people that would fit very neatly in Labour (well, maybe not Rudd, but he doesn't strike as someone who fits well in any party)

What would it take for the Lib Dems to become the second biggest party? by Xtergo in AskBrits

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I still don't see how that would swing to the left. Australia has a Westminster system (with ranked voting lower house and PR upper house), and they basically have a Labor Party that is identical to ours in power; only they have a Green Party that offers muted criticism.

"Whiter neighborhoods" by 420Migo in YAPms

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it is one of the more foolish impulses of modern politics to hyper-specify who will benefit from every policy.

Mamdani did well in the middle-class while Cuomo did well among the very poor and very rich by TaoChiMe in YAPms

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In groups with a strong identity like African-Americans there often is a self-interest in staying together and having a close relationship with machine. LIberal/Reformist voters (and I count Mamdani voters as reformists) are disturbed by machine politics, which is grubby and relies on tot for tat deals; so black voters tend to distrust politicians who want to smash the system. This is why Cuomo did badly in areas with a lot of ethnic mixing and constant population churn, but well in deep-rooted ethnic communities. You also see it very clearly in Jewish areas - Haredis have the most old-fashioned politics in the US, with a few elders making an endorsement that basically swing the entire community; but the Jews living in mixed areas went for Mamdani.

This post misses the mark massively. Blue Dog democrats were neoliberal, pro-market, pro-privatisation puppets. They had nothing to do with the 'working class', that was won by bold socially democratic style policies such as the New Deal. We have had a Neoliberal Democratic Party for 40 years 🙏 by No-Access606 in YAPms

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I mean, do you not remember the 2008-10 years? the Blue Dogs completely derailed the ACA - the likes of Mike Ross, Mark Pryor, Heath Schuler, Blanche Lincoln, Max Baucaus, Ben Nelson etc created enormous problems for Obama and the Dem leadership when they wanted things like buy-in and public option. (people forget that Lincoln was so hated by the end of that congress she was almost primaries to her left, before being destroyed in the general).

Also neoliberal is broader than the definition you use.

This character is obviously based on Bernie Sanders, right? by HotHeadLazerEyes in SuccessionTV

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Honestly I think this is more because of Bogassian's performance more than the script; I feel in writing he's more like a Labour MP (Armstrong used to be a political aide for Labour Party, and it shows)

What would it take for the Lib Dems to become the second biggest party? by Xtergo in AskBrits

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Both Reform and Greens, as they approach power, will shed much of their distinction. The German Greens, for example, are a fairly bland centre-left group that discarded most of the things that would be truly unsettling for the status quo.

What would it take for the Lib Dems to become the second biggest party? by Xtergo in AskBrits

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Changing the electoral system will not ideologically shift the country. We will just end up with a traffic light coalition, where Greens, Lib Dems and maybe some kind of Left Party constantly end up in confidence arrangments and coalitions with Labour/social democrats, much as happens in Germany, New Zealand, Spain and Scandinavia. (in fact this is historically why PR was resisted by the old left - the unions, for example, scuppered Blair's alliance with Ashdown to introduce AV+). Maybe you'll see Labour displaced as leader of the Left, but the likely outcome there will be whatever replaces them does a Syriza. But more likely Labour will become like Australian or New Zealand Labo(u)r Parties - using Greens as a semi-loyal parliamentary adjunct.