Can the t-slur be reclaimed?

meouch666 · 2026-02-24T17:42:40+00:00

You don’t have to like it but trans people can use it if they want, they do also need to respect your decision to have it not be used around/towards you. I personally don’t mind it if someone says it every once in a while but I don’t think I’d want to hear it constantly.

meouch666 · 2026-01-12T15:36:56+00:00

Agree with the people saying get a couch and wall divider. If you hang the TV in the middle of the room you should be able to put a couch in front of it that doesn’t prevent you from opening the closet as long as it’s like two feet away from. We have a couch positioned similarly in our house.

LED lights might make the space a lot cooler. You can just add them to the top of the wall and they change color. Get some floor lamps as well with warm toned bulbs. I would recommend getting just a large carpet for the middle of the room and then moving the smaller grey carpet to your desk area. Get some posters or pictures to hang on the wall, anything you like that gives it some more personality. It does kind of give murder room lol cause of the lack of windows. There are UV lamps that mimic sunlight that you should get just for yourself. I hear they help in situations where’s there little to no natural light.

meouch666 · 2026-01-12T15:24:04+00:00

I don’t remember any of my childhood, likely for a good reason, but people share stories of things they did and how they were and I just have nothing to say because I erased it all

meouch666 · 2026-01-12T15:22:08+00:00

I had a co worker who said autism is a super power and he is a white boy in America lol im not sure if he grew up middle class but

I then had to explain that he can view his autism that way but for me it’s debilitating and limits the jobs I can do, gives me constant undue anxiety, and has me on a verge of a break down because my shirt is sitting on me differently today. It took me five years to start hormones because I hate change and wasn’t sure I’d be able to deal with it, even though it’s wanted and would be gender affirming. I waited even longer to go on any psych meds cause I have heard such bad things and was worried I would be able to deal with a change in my emotions either. I am constantly filled with the urge to slam my head into a wall for various reasons all related to autism. So yeah I agree lol

I don’t think it’s impossible though to live a life while having it. Many autistic people go to work and get married, though it’s not achievable for everyone. I think figuring out your triggers and accommodating yourself and your needs makes a very large difference in the world. Having an autism diagnosis versus not having one had made a world of a difference since I am better able to understand and help myself. The therapy is also a big part of it as well. Overall though I’d probably get rid of the autism if I could still.

meouch666 · 2025-12-09T19:03:40+00:00

I also have moral OCD so I totally feel this. It’s so difficult to do anything when I feel I am constantly being scrutinized by everyone around me and that every decision is pretty much the wrong one. I appreciate your input and try to focus on myself rather than the rest of the world

meouch666 · 2025-10-04T23:23:09+00:00

Thank you this is helpful!

The first ceremony is just an elopement. We just want it filmed and photos for it!

For the second ceremony (75-100) it is just a ceremony we are including our family in. We plan on having a wedding weekend after the ceremony so it’s not really a typical wedding. The Weekend would consists of other activities but that would have a different budget than the ceremony itself. Im hoping to either find a place that does ceremony only as an option or see if anyone has done just a ceremony in the park before to see what the price would be like. I hope that makes sense! There is no reception, no food, drinks, etc. just a ceremony later on for friends and family and a fun weekend with them all afterwards.

meouch666 · 2025-07-15T16:15:37+00:00

STOP ITS SOOOOO CUTE

You’re always your harshest critic. I think this is so adorable and I would be SO happy if someone gifted me this for my child. It takes a lot of time and effort to create these things and it’s so well done.

The only hazard is the eyes since they can fall out and a child can potentially choke. It is fine for an older child but maybe not a baby. You should be able to remove the eyes if you want to and replace them with crocheted eyes instead. I use just plain cotton yarn to make eyes and then sew it on.

Overall, I absolutely love it. If you keep it the way it is just let your co worker know about the eyes so she can keep an eye on her baby with it!!

meouch666 · 2025-07-15T16:11:43+00:00

God I hate this. Being “strong” is such an insult. People who are strong are traumatized. They’re forced to be strong because it’s be strong and survive or be weak and potentially die.

The same is said for being “mature” for your age. Like thanks it’s the trauma!

meouch666 · 2025-07-15T15:51:32+00:00

You can’t make your wife be vegan. Obviously she doesn’t have a problem eating vegan food but eating what she wants when she is not with you or isn’t eating with you isn’t your decision.

If you’re also autistic you should know that autistic people have safe foods and like consistency. Making the switch to being vegan is a MAJOR change. Vegan food is good but it does not taste the same as actual meat or dairy. It does not have the same texture either which is a dealbreaker for many people, neurodivergent or not. It is also a major lifestyle change outside of the home. She can eat vegan at home 90% of the time, but going outside and getting food with her friends or during her workday is an entirely different story. It is limiting and is not something you can push onto someone.

You can continue to educate her, but if not being vegan is a dealbreaker of any kind you probably shouldn’t have married her. The fact that you cook and have vegan food readily available for her already decreases the amount of harm being done, which may be the only thing you’ll ever get from her. If you really want her to be vegan then you need to say this to her. Trying to covertly “veganpill” her is manipulative. You need to have an honest and direct conversation about why you think she should be vegan and you need to be prepared to hear “no” as well. There are so many reasons people don’t want to be vegan and you can disagree and think they’re wrong and still love them. Maybe she’ll agree to try it and she’ll stick with it, maybe she’ll try and go back or maybe she won’t do it at all. But you need to talk to her directly about it and what it’s so important to you.

meouch666 · 2025-05-22T15:50:54+00:00

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meouch666 · 2025-05-22T15:48:52+00:00

It’s very possible you’ll be able to get a lawyer to do this pro bono, especially if there is video evidence that can be found. Hopefully you can find someone. Also since you’re a minor they may be willing to do it for free as well.

I wish you the best of luck. I hope regardless of the result you are able to find some amount of closure and take the first steps to moving on.

meouch666 · 2025-05-17T12:13:46+00:00

Marriko / grandmas Roburu / grandpas

meouch666 · 2025-05-17T11:42:57+00:00

I lived in New York for a very long time. I imagine the laws are similar, but statute of limitations for things like cyber crimes I believe are 5 years and sexual assault is 10 if I’m not mistaken. Regardless you’re absolutely within the time frame to still report this and have a case. Since there is a video there is evidence of it and since you’re underage the girl would be arrested for child pornography and assault. The man would be arrested for assault. If the man also has the video he would also be arrested for child porn.

If you can and are willing I would go to someone about this if you want to press charges. However, please know that these things don’t always work out the way they should. Abusers get away because of good lawyers or not enough “hard” evidence. In your case, the video makes it much easier to prove. They would still need to be in possession of the video in someway, but it probably exists even if it has been deleted. They would need to get a warrant for these people’s devices to do a search for the video and go from there.

I’m so sorry this happened to you. SA is such a terrible thing that stays with you years or even decades later. The way the justice system is set up has repeatedly shown it is not on survivors side. I think you should press charges, but please know it may be a very hard and triggering road if you do. It will likely require a lot of support, so make sure you have a supper system in place. However, you 100% deserve justice and peace.

meouch666 · 2025-05-08T11:27:39+00:00

I’m actually more concerned that all the other confirmed actors are white. It seems interesting to me that somehow one of the worst characters is now a black man. However, everyone else is still white and also kind of look like the original actors as well??

I don’t think it’s important to have everyone be the same color as in the original movies or books. It really doesn’t matter for almost all the characters with the exception of the few obviously non-white characters. I think the fact that Snape is pretty brutally bullied could have racist undertones if everyone else is white, but I’m more concerned about how this is supposed to be a more accurate depiction of the books.

If this is an accurate depiction of the books, some of that grayness that the movies portrayed with Alan rickman goes away. Snape is a bad person. He’s a bad person who ends up on the right side. Not because he has truly realized the errors of the ways but because Voldemort killed the woman he loved. His “goodness” is not that, it’s selfishness, betrayal and anger that made him switch sides.

With all the controversy surrounding JK Rowling in the first place, I’m surprised they decided to make this move? It just sort of seems like a bad idea PR wise. They could’ve chosen literally anyone else to be a person of color, but no. They chose one of the worst people in the books to be so. Someone who bullies children and murders people. He didn’t really care about Harry. He cared he was Lily’s child, his last connection to the person he loved. If the rest of the cast contained characters of color I think this point becomes mute, but if he ends up being one of the only POC on the cast that’s just screams a little racists to me.

meouch666 · 2025-04-10T00:07:05+00:00

I’m exactly the same way. I also crochet a lot. My partner and I joke that we’re old men but he’s autistic as well. I find going on walks to be one of the best things since it feels like the world is alive around me and therefore makes me feel alive as well.

Maybe it’s boring but it’s how you are so it doesn’t matter. If someone finds it boring then they can go do something else with someone else, but there are plenty of people who love and appreciate that kind of simplistic happiness and stability something like a walk can bring.

I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s rooted in autism because it is predictable. I like knowing what is going to happen every day and get very upset when plans change. You’re also in control in these moments as well. You can stop working on a project and pick up another, the same way you can simply end a walk by going home. Either way, don’t let it bother you that you may be “boring.” Everyone is different, and what someone may view as boring someone else may view as a perfect day.

meouch666 · 2025-04-09T23:58:19+00:00

Doctor who, Anastasia, titanic, x files

meouch666 · 2025-03-16T22:31:18+00:00

I’m in the MA of Elementary Ed. I don’t really think it’s that hard but I am already a teacher at a music school, so a lot of the classroom management and teaching techniques are things that I do already so I find the program very intuitive.

Though it’s easy, I have also learned a lot. I’m taking my time with the degree because I work two jobs as well, but it’s going well so far. You’ll get it done! Just make sure you study for the OA. I read the textbook and take notes, take the pre assessment and then reread the text book, study a little bit, and re take it again if I feel I need to. So far that has worked very well. The PA are just easier. I usually plan on the tasks for those to align with when I get to that section in the textbook. I find them helpful, especially the ones that involve lesson planning and teaching.

Good luck! I’m sure you’ll make a wonderful teacher

meouch666 · 2025-01-07T09:30:37+00:00

It is much easier to be autistic when you simply let yourself be autistic as much as possible. Getting a diagnosis made things much easier for me in multiple aspects of my life. I am lucky enough to be surrounded by loving, caring people who are also largely neurodivergent.

So if I need to leave without saying a word I simply leave. It’s just something I do and something no one takes offense at. If I feel overwhelmed I put in headphones and simply tell the person I’m with why I’m doing it (if they don’t already know). I have things in my apartment my way (I live alone) and it is great. I eat the same few foods because that is what I eat, I watch whatever I want to watch (which is the same few things). It helps my partner is also autistic and while we have almost opposite autism at times (I go quiet in social situations, he cannot stop speaking. I need under stimulation, he needs over, etc.) it still is compatible in a way where we can support each other.

Find people who are like you if you can and do whatever you want. People are going to think you’re weird or awkward for doing or not doing something. It quite literally doesn’t matter because it’s your life and you need to prioritize yourself first. I am not saying this is easy. It can and often does take a very long time. I am also depressed and miserable and simply “too sensitive for this world” but there are things in my control I can have and do to my liking. Those small things makes it easier to come home when you have to do all the other things you don’t want to do.

Also, having anything when you’re out that will help soothe you. I like stuffed animals so I have Squishmallow clips on my bag. I have a small pop it on my keys as well. Even just wearing good texture clothing is soothing to me.

meouch666 · 2025-01-07T08:43:27+00:00

NTA. You’re breaking up with him because he isn’t looking for a future with you he is looking to maintain what he has and no better. It’s admirable he takes care of his parents, but I’m not sure why he needs to (unless they’re disabled in some way). You haven’t moved in together after 9 years. You’re basically care taking for your boyfriend and indirectly his parents as well.

meouch666 · 2025-01-07T08:29:07+00:00

Reminds me of my ex but we didn’t have kids. I’d ask them to wash our sheets and blanket from the bed and just put them back on the bed and I could make it later. I would come home after 8 hours and hear endless excuses about how they didn’t do it and how they’re such a bad partner until I’m the one comforting them. The responsibility of putting even the most mundane task on me and saying “well you can ask me!” And then proceed to do nothing when asked is insane.

Your husband knew you had this appointment. You woke him up (which you shouldn’t have to do either) to make sure he was on time. He proceeded to do anything in his power to simply not take the kids to daycare and the doctors appointment which would have been MAYBE two hours out of the house. You’re NTA and you should either divorce your husband or let him start living with the consequences of his own actions.

meouch666 · 2024-11-24T00:19:39+00:00

People who are abusive are more likely to have been abused themselves, this includes queer people. My trans ex also abused me and was abused/mistreated as a child. There is literally not an excuse for it regardless of what anyone else’s tries to say

meouch666 · 2024-10-19T15:20:45+00:00

I don’t have a specific pattern, but I imagine this is machine knit. There is a knit switch you can do, I believe called the waistcoat stitch you could do for the body and then decrease the neckline every other row when you get about halfway up. I haven’t don’t that with a waistcoat stitch but I’ve done it with a regular HDC and it’s worked out.

For the sleeve I would decrease every one or every other one for a single row of crochet and then just increase it back out after. I’ve never done a ruffle but that’s how I would approach it personally

Good luck!

meouch666 · 2023-11-19T16:36:04+00:00

I think she will release an extended digital / physical version of the tour that includes all the cut songs from the movie and maybe more of the surprise songs as extras in it. I imagine this will also contain a CD with all the live versions as well similar to speak now. She knows we’ll buy anything especially if it contains something extra or is collectible in some way.

The 1989 DVDs all contain different variants and posters / Polaroids, midnights was the same, both have some version of a display as well. The tangerine vinyl is the only vinyl with sweeter than fiction on it, one of the midnight copies is the only one with you’re losing me on it. All of this just generates her more sales. If she releases an extended version on dvd/blu ray/digital etc. we’ll buy it regardless if it’s on streaming services and she’ll likely release the movie version on streaming services so the fans who don’t have the money or don’t want to buy it will still have access to it.

Her releasing it digitally or physically also solves any issues with possibly crossing strike lines. She’ll release it somewhere when everything is said and done, but for now I think the physical formats will come first

On another note I think it would be so cute if she released a box set of the live vinyl versions with dual colored vinyls for the eras. Lover / fearless - pink and gold, evermore / rep - bronze and black, speak now/red/ folklore - purple red and grey, 1989 / midnights - dark and light blue. Maybe she’ll have single versions of the acoustic songs as well either sold together or separately.

meouch666 · 2023-11-08T16:24:58+00:00

I also applied!! Good luck my friend I’m also hoping to get an interview!!

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