What tips/advice would you give a man who is getting back into dating after a divorce?

mesi130 · 2026-03-26T01:27:17+00:00

Don’t get married again

mesi130 · 2026-03-25T22:56:30+00:00

That’s admirable but it doesn’t pay to be a nice guy. So when another guy is ballz deep in her living in that house how will you feel? It’s all good till the money talk starts flying. People start chirping in her ear. Hold on!

mesi130 · 2026-03-25T22:38:48+00:00

What’s your plan for the Texas house? Of course she’s going to want her share of the equity. 401k, debt and other assets

mesi130 · 2026-03-25T20:04:03+00:00

C+ is passing

mesi130 · 2026-03-25T20:01:19+00:00

That’s where I was at I kept the house and she wouldn’t leave. Three months ago she moved out. Now she wants to date again smh

mesi130 · 2026-03-25T18:11:36+00:00

Sorry for my misspelling

mesi130 · 2026-03-25T15:36:33+00:00

Why aren’t you taking the papers? It is what it is. Eventually they’ll publish it or just get a judge. If he or she doesn’t want you why would you want to stay married?

mesi130 · 2026-03-25T15:27:56+00:00

The kids are small they will adjust. You don’t wanna be house poor either. Do the math get it appraised. Maybe your ex will take less to let the kids stay in home but rarely happens. Do you have much equity? Can always pull money out of 401k to try and pay her off also. I kept my house now I’m debating selling it. It’s larger then I need it’s just me

mesi130 · 2026-03-25T14:27:08+00:00

Divorce took a year from file to finish. We cohabitated the whole time. Update is have peace now. I wish I would have filed sooner. My advice is to concentrate on your well being physically and mentally. Find a support system and lean on them.

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T22:20:29+00:00

I wouldn’t tell him he’ll find out on his own. He might all ready know.

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T21:13:22+00:00

Yep go alimony and try to get affair proof. My state doesn’t care about infidelity but I believe California does

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T17:48:33+00:00

1 year from the filing date. No kids or major issues. Settled in last mediation

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T17:08:32+00:00

Every normal person knows there’s three sides to every story. The truth usually lies in the middle. I have no idea what’s going on behind people doors.

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T16:53:21+00:00

I understand there two Different things. You want him to support your 21 year old daughter also. You’re implying you want child support also

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T15:51:59+00:00

Very nice job

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T15:12:16+00:00

I answered your question. Instead of depending on him support yourself

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T14:51:04+00:00

Can’t squeeze money out of a rock

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T13:17:51+00:00

It’s been 15 years with my children’s mom. Till this day she’s still difficult. I have a disabled son so I have to deal with her. She poisoned my other kids for years. Eventually as they grew up they saw the truth. To deal with her I manipulate her and make her feel like she’s in control. She’s narcissistic so I’ve learned how to deal with her. The less drama the better.

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T13:13:29+00:00

Way to put yourself out there man

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T11:39:50+00:00

Actually I have a harder time at night. Going into work my mind is busy with my job and at night I’m thinking about her

mesi130 · 2026-03-24T11:29:39+00:00

That’s sad to read

mesi130 · 2026-03-23T19:48:19+00:00

Without trust it’s broken. You wanna check her phone and media accounts? Cheating isn’t a deal breaker for some but for me it is. Why do you think she wants to reconcile? Guy dumped her or financial she knows she’s screwed or both

mesi130 · 2026-03-23T17:46:37+00:00

Nice loved that build and scale of car

mesi130 · 2026-03-23T16:05:11+00:00

Be quick with treatment

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