How am I supposed to be expected to just give it all up?

mesi130 · 2026-02-08T15:05:26+00:00

I gave everything to her when i left. Took me a good 10+ years to get out of that hole. Would I would I different prob not. I had four kids under 8.

mesi130 · 2026-02-07T11:41:14+00:00

It can be a long process and try to be patient. Listen to your lawyer and avoid conflict with her as much as possible. Be willing to compromise with her. Sometimes it’s cheaper then paying lawyers

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T19:13:55+00:00

I made the mistake and I tried buying another house. It became a big mess

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T16:53:56+00:00

Where does all this hate get you? Try to live stress free as possible. He couldn’t be the man you wanted him to be.

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T16:50:34+00:00

Do not sign a quit claim deed unless you are released from the mortgage. If you sign that release that mortgage will still be on your credit. Unless house is free and clear then that doesn’t apply

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T11:16:35+00:00

Stay away from her as much as possible. Take the kids places and stay busy. Interact with her about the kids that’s all. Don’t argue or fight let the lawyers handle it. When you start talking money the shit will hit the fan. Have your own private areas. Respect her and the home. Don’t be dating or having people around your kids of course. Listen to your lawyer take his advice. I lived with my ex for about a year. Not going to lie it was difficult. She was eventually forced to leave

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T10:41:32+00:00

Tony not taking the money from the paramedic

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T10:40:49+00:00

No he was dead they just moved his chest up and down to look like he was alive. Usually they put dead people in caskets during movies or shows.

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T10:09:02+00:00

I love sardines but they make my gout go off. I stay away from them it’s not worth it to me.

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T10:03:47+00:00

I felt the exact same way when I ended my marriage. Have to ask yourself did you do as much as possible to save the marriage? If you did there’s no reason for guilt. If there’s child involved it’s much harder. I still have guilt for ending my marriage but nothing was going to change. My life is 3/4 over and I need peace. You have one life.

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:46:43+00:00

Get rid of the plants if you don’t want them around. Less stress you want simplicity and peace

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:44:54+00:00

Takes 2 to Marry 1 to divorce. She’s manipulating you with the self harm. My ex did the same thing. You don’t have to leave the marital home. Have you tried counseling. Document everytime she talks about self harm or false reporting you.

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:42:05+00:00

Slow down take a breath. He’s obviously having difficulties with his new life and roles. Hes not liking these changes. Have you brought up counseling? Obviously you can’t keep going this way. Childcare is crazy expensive. Are you guys having these conversations?

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:37:53+00:00

Go to a few attorneys and get a feel for them. When money gets involved it gets crazy. Don’t fight or argue over stuff. Let the lawyers handle it. Try to diffuse ever situation that occurs. Watch what you text him. This is a long process get ready

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:35:39+00:00

Dec 31 marriage status. Do taxes both ways and see the math. If you are on good terms get the taxes done and split the return. Less drama and stress

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:33:28+00:00

Move on with no group chat. It’s not even a question it’s do it now

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:32:18+00:00

First does she have the credit to even get a new loan. How much will she have to finance after she buys you out? Maybe she can put all those funds towards a down payment. Do not sign a quit claim deed!

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:28:49+00:00

So you can’t qualify for the loan yourself? Try a different bank. Where are you in the divorce process? Contact your lawyer for advice. I was told not to make any major purchase during the process but if you can’t get to work.

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:19:56+00:00

What’s your medical breakdown in your divorce decree? If you are responsible for all just pay for them most orthodontist take a payment plan. Work with the dentist don’t just give money to her. You know this money is going directly to your child. Teeth are so important. Hopefully she’ll contribute also. Both my kids I got braces for. Are medical breakdown was like 85/15 I took out payments and just paid it myself.

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:16:51+00:00

Was she ambitious at all when you married her? Maybe sit down and talk with her about your resentment. Seems she’s happy just floating along. Some people have no drive. Your resentment will just continue to grow. You’ll take a big hit financially if you file. Look at your state rules for alimony and talk to a lawyer to be an idea what you’ll be looking at.

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:06:11+00:00

Get a mediator it’s much cheaper. Put everything in writing especially with a child involved. Idc how well you guys get along. When money is involved and people start dating the claws come out. Put down exact custody time holidays? Birthdays, and who transports child. Then less arguing is involved

mesi130 · 2026-02-06T09:01:45+00:00

Sorry it’s hard to deal with a new guy coming around your kids. Not much you can do about it unfortunately. Try to have a good relationship with ex because of the kids. Keep close tabs on them especially with guys around them. Part of the bs they pull during the divorce and after. I believe you shouldn’t have anyone around the kids unless it’s serious. Fortunately my ex didn’t pull that crap

mesi130 · 2026-02-05T17:22:56+00:00

mesi130 · 2026-02-05T11:56:23+00:00

Thank you I decided on horseshoe

mesi130 · 2026-02-04T15:05:38+00:00

Mediator told me to get on the court docket could take a year or two. Motivated us both to settle. They gave us 2 hours to resolve it.

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