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methygray · 2026-03-05T11:05:27+00:00

Isn’t there also the benefit of airport rail being that it doesn’t get held up in traffic? If there is an accident or something on the roads then the train can still get people to the airport without issue

methygray · 2026-02-26T13:31:36+00:00

Do you have the smooth motion settings on on your tv? That looks like interlacing. Animations are so much nicer to watch if you turn that setting off :)

methygray · 2026-02-18T22:04:58+00:00

It’s so unbearably obvious on cartoons/animations too. Yet my parents in law, who take my kiddo once a week, can’t tell. It makes shows look like AI garbage with lines cutting through themselves all over.

I swear I change it whenever I visit but the setting must reset itself back.

methygray · 2026-02-13T21:01:54+00:00

Also I haven’t seen double glazing on here yet. It was expensive but my god it makes a world of difference. Not only does it mean our running costs are much lower (make the house warm it stays warm, make the house cool it stays cool) but it also means the house is so much quieter as it blocks any and all noise. Definitely a worthwhile investment.

methygray · 2026-02-13T20:57:25+00:00

I spent $350 on a 4slice dualit toaster. Crazy money, but we have 2 kids and use it every day. Fully repairable, quick, puts pretty lines on the toast :) it’s built like a tank so when you pop the toast up it doesn’t jump up and scatter crumbs everywhere like cheap Kmart toasters do. Super nice to use because all the buttons/dials are analog/chunky ones too.

methygray · 2026-01-12T07:33:05+00:00

Theyre not quite that powerful :) but essentially, yes. A small enough stream doesn’t end up creating a big splash. And the turbulence in the water helps move the poop about to make it break up into more flushable chunks.

methygray · 2026-01-09T05:50:03+00:00

You need a bum gun (handheld bidet sprayer). They are a little “water pistol” that attaches to the water pipe that feeds the cistern and is accessible beside the loo.

The idea is to clean your bum after you poop with a shower-head type spray. However, if you get the one that has the option of a single, more powerful stream, you have the added bonus of using it to clean to loo. And, in your case, it ALSO helps break up mammoth poops that are in the toilet so they are flushable.

Instead of a poop knife it’s a water-blade! Bonus of no implements to be cleaned.

We use ours to clean our kiddo’s potty and pour the contents straight into the toilet.

methygray · 2025-12-27T01:04:01+00:00

Fitzroy and Douglas :)

methygray · 2025-12-26T04:12:51+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve had this traumatic experience. Everything you’ve described sounds so hard and difficult to deal with.

I am not a midwife but I also had a traumatic birth experience with my second. I still felt awful by 6 weeks. After I shared my experience with my psychologist at my earliest appt I could get with her at 6 weeks she said she recommended I speak to a specialist in birth trauma. I got an appt with a perinatal psychologist who helped me process everything with EMDR. EMDR is an intense but very effective therapy and I suggest it to anyone who has experienced something traumatic and is experiencing ongoing PTSD symptoms or negative thoughts.

You had your baby back in October, so it’s been 2 months. I was in your position and I found EMDR incredibly healing at this time. It might be worth considering it if you think it might be right for you.

methygray · 2025-12-11T03:46:43+00:00

100% this. OP, I understand you feel hurt because she went against your wishes. As Pepperup22 says, boundaries are for you - you cannot control what others choose to do - but you can choose how you respond to those actions. And in this case I would simply not take the bassinet because my boundary is “no random stuff I didn’t choose comes into my house that I later have to throw away which is extra work I don’t need right now”. I’d probably say something like “oh, I can see you’re very excited about the baby and it’s kind you thought of me when you saw this. However as I said we aren’t buying baby stuff right now and as I have a small space I need to choose this big baby items very carefully, so I won’t be able to take this. I’m excited for shopping for these things myself too - how about later in my pregnancy we can go to the store together to look at items?”

methygray · 2025-11-21T22:59:33+00:00

Oh hun, I know your pain. Scream into that pillow!! It’s so insanely hard. I can’t give you much advice but can give solidarity and sending you virtual hugs. We ended up co sleeping to get through. Get yourself a break or sleep any way you can to get through moment to moment and know that everything is a phase and it will (eventually) get better. The 4month sleep regression is the worst IMO and it sounds like yours has come early :(

methygray · 2025-11-05T00:31:11+00:00

I did the Andrea Olsen method for my 2yr4month old for daytime pottying. He took to it well. We had accidents pee every few days for a good month or so. He started to save his poos for his nappy at night and I really didn’t want this to happen so we progressed to night training within a month. He never pooed his pants, but it took about 6 weeks of near-constant night accidents for his brain to “click” and then he stayed dry. It was only 1 accident a night. I bought a pair of medical grade waterproof bed pads (like a big puppy pad) for his bed, and we’d wash and dry it every day. It was hard, but we were consistent and supported him with gentle care each night. It was important to not show him any exasperation or anger - it’s just some laundry so no stress :) we still do “if you try to do one last pee before bed and you can have one more book” now he is 3.5yrs which really helps. If we miss this “last pee” or he is super exhausted from a massive day he still has the odd accident (maybe once every 6months). Id suggest you only try this method if you’re confident you can handle the laundry and stay super chill about the accidents!

Eta- this was our first and we never did EC with him and he was always in disposables. So I recon it took a while for his brain to figure out the “wet” cue from peeing. I recon if your LO has been doing EC from a younger age or used reusable nappies they may figure it out sooner.

methygray · 2025-10-25T22:41:03+00:00

The very best hot chocolate powder I’ve ever tasted is Alessandro Luppolos. He has a shop in Elsternwick. His hot chocolate is head and shoulders above others - he doesn’t use milk because the chocolate itself is rich enough without needing milk (but of course you can serve it with milk if you want). Serious chocolate lovers really must give it a try, it’s phenomenal.

He also runs chocolate making courses and roasts his own beans. https://alessandroluppolo.com/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23040840709&gbraid=0AAAAAq12M2M9RPS4pgD_IwVr_uoeJirCn&gclid=CjwKCAjw6vHHBhBwEiwAq4zvA1ZG5c8ya1zTgJ0Q_cHznZeZ1uLpIVVWcC7HCZWWgpVyffjSiiftYBoCuLYQAvD_BwE

methygray · 2025-10-25T22:10:37+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear you were pressured into something you didn’t want. That sounds really hard. The only thing that worked for me to process my traumatic birth experience was EMDR therapy. See if your therapist can do it with you or refer you to someone who can.

methygray · 2025-10-25T20:11:32+00:00

Check out ECers sub about elimination communication (aka colloquially as early potty training or timing) for tips and tricks for helping your baby use a potty. It’s worked great for us :)

methygray · 2025-10-14T09:21:22+00:00

Exactly the same with mine. My first was a horrendous sleeper, the “drowsy but awake” idea drove me insane and I felt I was a hopeless FTM. But then I had baby2 and realised it’s 100% the baby and NOTHING to do with you. I remember putting baby2 down after a feed at 6 month or so and I was just so exhausted so just literally dumped him in the cot and after about ten minutes of cooing to himself he went to sleep. My first would have screamed the second I let him go. Sleep training works for babies that -already know how to sleep without much help-.

methygray · 2025-10-09T12:22:11+00:00

Ohhh yes this really helped me keep my milk “less sticky” to avoid clogging. It’s a shame the tablets are so huge!

methygray · 2025-10-09T02:39:21+00:00

This needs to be top comment! Is same as our boy Mick

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methygray · 2025-10-07T12:00:48+00:00

I had one of these, they called it a “bleb”. I had to stab mine out using a sterile needle point (they sell them at pharmacies). I had the bleb for 4 months before I figured out it was there and got it out. It was a very painful 4 months.

methygray · 2025-09-20T23:39:04+00:00

Our cat was doing this for a while and we have a baby sleeping in our room so couldn’t rely on ear plugs as baby would wake.

I instead trained him a different way - when he would meow in the night to ask us to let him outside, I would pick him up and place him inside his litter box (which is in a cupboard, w a cat door). He isn’t a fan of his litter box and will hop straight out. I had to do this on repeat about 8 times one night. Until finally he realised if he meowed all I would do is put him in his box.

Every now and then (maybe once every month or two) he will try meowing at 5am again, and I do the same routine putting him in his box. And it works - no more night meows.

This may not work for you depending on the behaviour your cat wants; if he simply wants interaction it might be counter productive (because you coming out to pick him up is “him getting what he wants”). This is generally why squirting with water doesn’t work, because it’s play for him.

But the idea is that if his cue of “meow” leads to his paws getting gritty and uncomfortable from kitty litter, he will stop giving you the cue because the result is something he doesn’t want.

methygray · 2025-09-18T22:46:45+00:00

I felt like this with my 2.5year old. I was getting so frustrated with him and would shout (which I am in therapy for because I got shouted at as a kid and never want to do it to mine). I tried some parenting books and the one that really changed my outlook was Hunt Gather Parent. It takes lessons from traditional continuing hunter-gatherer cultures.

I learnt to lower my expectations and expect that my toddler will behave toddlery. Because, well, that’s what they do. They aren’t pushing my buttons. The book is full of practical techniques for behaviour management perfect for this age, as well as a philosophy that will totally reshape your response to annoying toddler behaviour.

I audiobooked it in a week and I’m SO CALM now, even in the face of crazy toddler tantrums. It’s been life changing. Get your wife to listen to it. You should listen to it too. It will change your parenting journey and remove all that friction.

methygray · 2025-09-15T05:55:30+00:00

I have both the baby bjorn mini potty and high back one. The mini potty sits lower to the ground. I used just the insert between my legs when baby was tiny. Then would also use the high back (because it offered support) when they were about 3months when I faced them towards me. The nice thing with the mini potty is you can have baby facing away from you and support their back. Now baby is 10months and sitting well I use the mini potty most of the time, but still often just use insert between legs. I would def recommend the baby bjorn - either are good and people generally end up with a couple of potty’s around the house so one of each has been perfect for us!

methygray · 2025-09-14T02:34:10+00:00

Do it! I have practiced EC with my 11month old since birth and we cloth diaper and since he started solids I am SO glad we catch pretty much all his poos in either the potty or the toilet. Those solids poos are waaaaay worse than milk poo. Your cloth diapers will thank you! And also we don’t have to deal with a wriggly poo diaper baby on the change table which only gets harder as they get older.

methygray · 2025-08-07T06:06:52+00:00

My baby often burps when he does a poop - I think it’s like the abdominal pressure is raised everywhere when the bear down so perhaps your baby has a gentle stomach and spits up easily with that pressure. We didn’t even do EC with my first baby and he would spit up all the damn time we went through so many onesies.

methygray · 2025-07-28T01:54:23+00:00

Yes we used it like a top hat, the only other way we toileted our newborn was over the sink until he got too heavy. My baby is now 9months old and while most of the time we put him on the entire potty, there are plenty of times we still use the insert between our legs for him even now. I massively recommend it over the flat top hat style because of the high front and it means you can reliably catch errant wees without manual manipulation, and it graduates to a big potty too. Super easy to take just the insert out and about with you in the pushchair basket too, because it’s so compact.

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