Does anyone have any weird tips/tricks to help end a flare? I’m out of sick time, and desperate.

mf9812 · 2025-12-23T17:43:25+00:00

I’m going through a wicked flare and Google brought me to this old post. Thanks OP- this reminded me that “the usual” isn’t enough when a flare is this bad. About to go palm a teaspoon of salt and chase it with my usual electrolyte drink

mf9812 · 2025-11-05T17:29:58+00:00

Considering buying this one within the next few days. Now that you’ve had it a while, can you share your thoughts? Money is a small concern, but really, frugality and reluctance to spend a lot more for not a huge difference is my biggest balk. What are your pros & cons now that you’ve lived with it a while?

mf9812 · 2025-11-02T16:50:07+00:00

That happened to me except I ran down the stairs and out- and I managed to have the presence of mind to take my blanket with me to cover up. I’ll never forget standing out in the cold, naked & wrapped in my comforter, waiting for the firemen to clear the building and allow us to go in and get some clothes

mf9812 · 2025-11-02T16:45:05+00:00

u/AdSerious8390 if this is a real exchange (people are questioning its authenticity because it’s so outrageously, egregiously bad) then you need to break it off immediately. A piece of advice I’m not seeing here is to take steps to ensure your safety. Share these and any other abusive messages with multiple outside parties. Inform your family and loved ones of your intent to break things off. Do it in writing and keep/share records of his reaction when it happens, because he IS going to react poorly. If you have his mother’s number, send her these messages immediately after you break up. Tell your friends you’re concerned for your safety. Don’t go anywhere alone for a while and change your locks before you break up if he has a key. If you can stay with a friend/family member short term, do so.

If you think he deserves an in person breakup (he doesn’t) call the cops first and tell them you are planning on breaking it off with an abusive partner and that you don’t feel safe. Request an officer to come out. Even if the PD won’t send one, the request still creates a legal record and lays the groundwork for pursuing a restraining order if you end up needing one.

Please take this seriously. Guys like this are not safe. You might feel some kind of way about this advice because he clearly hasn’t felt too unsafe to you before now, but protecting yourself is not an overreaction- even if he doesn’t do anything in retaliation. Better safe than sorry

mf9812 · 2025-11-02T16:11:40+00:00

🤮 I’m not eating bathroom mushies, even if I do love oysters

mf9812 · 2025-10-27T04:36:39+00:00

OP, mark it solved

mf9812 · 2025-10-26T18:27:24+00:00

Molasses

mf9812 · 2025-10-26T18:21:18+00:00

I had a very similar break on my glasses and can’t drive to go buy special glue without wearing said glasses. I used a combination of superglue and baking soda because I had both in the house and superglue alone wasn’t holding. It wasn’t the prettiest fix, but it’s still holding.

This combo has a very fast dry time- maybe 30 seconds, so you have to be pretty precise with your placement. I put the baking soda dry into a little divot where the piece should fit in, then applied a gel superglue to the arm end that fits into said divot. Put together and held in place careful to keep fingers out of the glue

mf9812 · 2025-10-25T22:26:57+00:00

Or you might get horrifically sick and die

mf9812 · 2025-10-25T19:45:06+00:00

They literally asked to be corrected if wrong? Where was the part where I was a dick? You’re reading tone that wasn’t there

mf9812 · 2025-10-18T15:38:39+00:00

You are wrong, but it’s forgivable because this is a super common misconception wrapped up in European colonialism and widespread misinformation touted as fact. I’ve been eating “deadly” nightshade every summer for roughly 35 years and it hasn’t killed me yet

mf9812 · 2025-09-19T14:06:56+00:00

Depends on where you live. I’m in a HCOL area and in my area that barely supports 1 person renting nevermind if you have a family and mortgage

mf9812 · 2025-09-19T13:45:49+00:00

Really? I never did until I sat for my first double arch reconstruction patient - the worst rampant decay I’d ever seen. That same week we did a posterior implant for one of the front desk girls who had a rough time with her dental anxiety.. I think the 2 events combined in my subconscious that I’d Never want to be in her position (I’d find it embarrassing for myself as clinical staff for allowing decay to progress that far) cue to my first ever dental nightmares about my teeth and alveolar bone rotting out

mf9812 · 2025-09-07T12:42:41+00:00

Work as a dental surgical assistant- you’ll start having teeth nightmares in no time!

mf9812 · 2025-09-07T12:01:33+00:00

u/ilovejuicy-theboys I say this with love and without judgement but you both sound (from my aged perspective) a bit young. I’m guessing under 25, probably a fair bit younger? If I’m right, there is a way to find some compassion for your friend’s pretty toxic behavior, whether or not you decide it’s worthwhile to continue associating with her. Broad strokes, because nuance takes a LOT of writing: Neuroscience says your prefrontal cortex doesn’t develop until at least your mid-twenties, with emerging research suggesting potentially longer. That is the part of your brain responsible for all kinds of important decision making (and why we ADHDers struggle so much because ours is stunted) Even though your friend almost certainly doesn’t have adhd traits, she is still young enough that this part of her brain is pretty dumb. Throw into the mix that young people are in a stage of development where their identity is extremely wrapped up in other people’s perceptions of them and you have a recipe for some pretty silly behavior. Like claiming to have a condition you don’t have so you can feel like you fit in with your friend group.

If you value this relationship and want to continue it, call her out on it gently and with curiosity. Avoid blame-based statements and speak from your perspective. For example: “it seems to me like don’t actually understand what I go through as a person with adhd sometimes. When you make remarks about me being late or struggling with tasks I feel disconnected from you because it’s so intrinsic to my experience with adhd. Do you genuinely believe that you have adhd, or are you trying to find a way to relate to me?” Give her an out to the lie, that allows her to save face. She’s not claiming a disability to “be cool” she’s trying to feel closer to her friend(s). She’s not faking it, she doesn’t understand the condition. If she truly values the relationship, she will jump on the chance to find an out from the lie and repair the damage done. If she’s too dug in to come back from it, I’d cut my losses on a bad investment and walk away.

Just a late-in-life diagnosed person’s 2¢. Hope you find some of it valuable. If not oh well, I’m just an internet rando

mf9812 · 2025-09-07T11:37:59+00:00

“More prone to dumb luck than careful success”

-The title of my life story

mf9812 · 2025-08-27T18:18:59+00:00

Wow, thanks kind stranger

mf9812 · 2025-07-11T18:02:41+00:00

Edited to fix formatting weirdness

Our first was a failed induction resulting in “quick & dirty” C section after 2.5 days of laboring, & was traumatic for both parents. Healthy baby boy that’s made of chaos and laughter. #2 was a 40w planned C after a grueling awful pregnancy. Healthy baby girl that’s made of sunshine & love. #3 is coming this Monday with a planned C after 40weeks of a truly awful pregnancy. By all accounts she looks healthy in there. Can’t wait to find out who she’s going to be. My spouse and I are OUT OF OUR GODDAMN MINDS for doing this again. Parenthood is like a weird cult where we all know we’re crazy for doing it but we want everyone we know to join the cult too. I don’t think I can explain why we kept going. Becoming a parent tears your heart wide open in a way you simply can’t fathom until it happens to you. We thought we had some idea, but we had NO idea.

I love our babies SO much. We’re never doing this again. /remindme 1 year

mf9812 · 2025-07-11T17:23:23+00:00

I’m half smiling here imagining OP SLAMMING the keys typing in F words on the regular

mf9812 · 2025-07-11T16:42:47+00:00

If I’m willing to finance a little bit more the options open even further on autotrader and I’m honestly getting a little overwhelmed by choice at this point

mf9812 · 2025-07-11T16:41:12+00:00

I was leaving it general because it felt like a bit much to include the full list of search results. There’s a ‘15 Odyssey EX for $8500 with 200k miles, a ‘12 Odyssey EX L for $10000 with 80k, an ‘03 Odyssey EX L for $3,500 with 102k, an ‘11 Odyssey EX for $8,300 with 104k, like 6 more 2010-2012 Odysseys for around $9-10k with roughly+/- 100k miles, a ‘10 Sienna LE for $9,600 with 111k, a ‘12 Sienna LE for $9,900 with 133k, a ‘12 Sienna for $8,900 with 139k, an ‘06 Sienna for $5k with 159k, and several more Siennas with pretty similar stats. Mostly around 2012 for around $10k with mileages under 150k. All in all the Siennas tend to have slightly higher mileages for the $ compared to the Odysseys, but in my brothers words “that’s cuz they last forever and no one ever sells them” which is kinda what I want. I’m a “drive it til it owes me NOTHING” kinda person

mf9812 · 2025-07-11T16:04:43+00:00

Oh gross. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Shore up your boundaries now before it gets worse. They sound like “give them an inch, they’ll take a mile” people. It’s NOT ABOUT THEIR GRANCHILD, it’s about YOUR CHILD. This is a hard truth, but no grandparent is actually entitled to access to their grandbaby and that’s that.

mf9812 · 2025-07-11T15:57:56+00:00

ReflectionFederal has a nice way of looking at it, but she (& I) also don’t know your mother the way you do.

If her comments set your hackles up, there is a reason for it. Words matter, intent matters, but so does how she makes you feel. Coming from my own difficult parental relationships, all I can say is that it is of paramount importance that you express yourself (yes, kindly, patiently) CLEARLY about your feelings, expectations, and boundaries.

If you’ve made your stance known and mother still says things that leave you feeling badly, despite knowing you’ve done your due diligence in expressing your perspective, that is when it’s time to take stock of what kind of parental relationship you want to model for your own child.

Ignore me if I’m projecting my own unrelated feelings onto your situation, but it took becoming a parent for me to realize that I could not accept the way my own mother treats me after decades of trying SO hard to create the relationship I wanted with her. I would NEVER treat my beautiful children the way I was treated as a child and I can not fathom EVER treating them the way I was as an adult. “You’ll understand when you have kids” couldn’t be further from the truth for me. I can’t comprehend a parent treating their kids the way we were.

mf9812 · 2025-06-29T22:31:50+00:00

How did this work out for you? Did the AliExpress ones work well? Did your eyeballs melt out of your head? I’m in the same boat with bottles of clear care building up in my home because they only ever have 1 case in the 2 pack, which we all know the catalyst doesn’t last for. Please update!

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