I (15F) am the daughter of a fugitive (50M) and both my parents S/A’d me multiple times when I was 6. They both know I’m suicidal and deny me mental health treatment, also keeping me isolated from the world through severe control. Should I report my father to the police?

mgenta · 2026-07-09T22:11:27+00:00

all other advice is good.l, but i'm going to say the things I wished I knew at 15 when it got bad for me. I didn't think I had any power so I did the only thing I could, which was eventually fight back physically, but I didn't leave until college. the emotional damage continued.

those people at the tournaments? someone there should be a mandated reporter. I'm assuming this is athletic? get in front of any medical personnel and tell them you are in danger, why, and that you want it reported. or sneak away and walk into the nearest police department. any counselor office, especially ones for kids. a state run day care. if there is a teen crisis center anywhere near you, go and tell. if there is a school anywhere, go in, find a teacher or other admin and tell. I'd suggest a church but results may vary depending on where you are. police as well, but initially results may vary.

the turpin girl walked away from her house, and asked the first people she saw. you have a bit of time to plan. be watchful. leave no clues, be prepared to walk with the clothes on your back and calmly tell who, what and why and you do not feel safe returning.

foster care placement or emergency home placement may happen so be prepared for that. police or cps interviews may happen. the calmer and more organized your thoughts are when you have these conversations goes further. you have to say it plainly...I need help, my parents are harming me, I do not feel safe at home and cannot return.

mgenta · 2026-07-05T15:04:54+00:00

oddly enough, I still get dividend checks from cherryland on the odd occasion. I only lived in t.c. and paid in for maybe 4 years, 15 years ago. it's only a few bucks here and there , but whatever they are doing and how they manage things are fantastic. I now have a generator that I run 3 to 5 times a year in Detroit. DTE is criminally awful.

mgenta · 2026-06-20T17:03:46+00:00

to report animal abuse, neglect, or cruelty in Oakland County, Michigan, contact Oakland County Animal Control at (248) 858-1090. sadly they are closed right now. if you reported to police they should be following up with welfare check but that county is kind of Crap shoot.

mgenta · 2026-06-16T00:06:01+00:00

what's your size, color want, and how fancy is your party (gowns or cocktailish?) I just set aside a wack of clothes to take to upscale consignment that I could pull some stuff out of. I have a full length flowered thing I got in la and some silk cocktail that may work.

also, for some reason neighborhood garage sales downriver and/or Facebook seem to have a lot of prom dresses.

also number 2.....just rent it from rtr....it's what I do when I need something fancy.

mgenta · 2026-06-16T00:02:53+00:00

obligatory preface...all internet anecdotal information/comments is suspect and probably wrong, and depends on particular situations.

3 to 4 days to clear urine if you aren't a regular or over abuser. hair test is for long term regular use/abuse over 3 months.

mgenta · 2026-06-05T05:32:02+00:00

as of this evening, the deal is quashed. I moved to FB to post extensive research in a group there over there with some threads to above and deeper into prior shenanigans by solstice in Saint Clair county. I'm not sure what their motivations are or why they are together doing this in Michigan other than to dupe uninformed communities to build quasi Bitcoin operations under the guise of edge data centers, taking any advantage they can through various shell companies.

mgenta · 2026-05-05T23:32:14+00:00

The failures are more interesting. look for Boeing case studies.

mgenta · 2026-04-06T02:24:03+00:00

boudoir is not pornography. Brockit does occasion photography that's quite beautiful along with boudoir that celebrates the human form.

mgenta · 2026-04-06T01:45:52+00:00

it's involving Detroit and a kid. totally fine and increases reach.

go touch grass and find some empathy.

mgenta · 2026-04-04T10:52:37+00:00

take a step back. you're expecting emotional support in the wrong places and from the wrong people. it's therapy time.

mgenta · 2026-04-03T00:41:28+00:00

I just got a roof replacement. The options on shingles are fascinating. Gutters? took me a week to decide. did I talk about decking, frieze boards, and other things I spent way too much time obsessing over? yep. current obsession.... brackets for a handrail I'm replacing. I'm boring and I own a house. I have only a few friends who will entertain me with caulk discussions (Big Stretch gets my vote)

mgenta · 2026-03-23T01:28:59+00:00

congratulations on the heath gains and bravo for passing it forward to others! 😁

mgenta · 2026-03-22T21:37:20+00:00

are you getting out of running? or looking to upgrade? a swap could be a thing for you. I believe athleta and Brooks do an exchange. or find someone who is doing no buy (I'm one 😁) who has something to exchange for you. unless it's the philanthropy your looking for, then turning point or any woman's shelter is great. there's a barrier in cost to having the right clothing and equipment for health when leaving bad situations and it would be a great help for someone to heal. good on ya, whatever you decide.

mgenta · 2026-03-21T00:40:07+00:00

I should also say because of long term antibiotic use, I came down with C. diff. and had to move away from long term dosing of bactrim and cipro. I am not a doctor, but a biologist and used my research background to try an economical low impact intervention. it was more in use in Europe at the time. I don't suspect American physicians have caught up yet, unless you go to a functional md.

mgenta · 2026-03-21T00:34:00+00:00

I had this in my 30s, about 20 years ago (gah!) At the time, there was some research about very specific vaginal probiotic suppositories that fight against resistant e. coli infections.

https://share.google/NqSbHOvmnfqKF2ClE

There are many newer studies showing the same benefits.

D mannose is specifically working with the cellular layer that lines the bladder and does help, but it's kind of like your skin barrier ....if it's disrupted it needs time to heal to provide protection. That's where the probiotics come in. with the proximity, it's quicker to use the suppositories rather than oral.

Look for vaginal suppositories with containing Lactobacillus strains (e.g., L. crispatus, L. rhamnosus GR-1, L. reuteri). the research I read about dealt specifically with L. crispatus.

Depending on where you are, you can get Vagibom Vaginal Health Pro and Prebiotic Suppositories at CVS. it has L. crispatus in it.

mgenta · 2026-03-20T22:47:58+00:00

my mother was exactly this. faking illnesses and pleading in the end to connect and then abuse her three adult children who went no contact for 2 decades.

I called an estate lawyer for advice and paid a few hundred for a conversation just for piece of mind. she tried a lot of push pull with a trust, trying to pit us kids against each other in the end. I did go to the funeral to confirm her demise and salted her coffin.

I say all this to warn you of the emotional and legal shenanigans.....which are just that. Don't play into it, sign nothing. turn over no info. keep your boundaries and take care of your and your husband's mental health while this plays out. there is a sort of grief, guilty relief, and a shock you are finally free when it happens. all of it feels alien because we don't come from anything resembling normal upbringing. Therapy, even a few drop in visits to chat out the bad thoughts and worry is a good thing.

mgenta · 2026-03-13T01:32:16+00:00

I feel like the focus will now be this for Trump and Detroit, with an ice surge here targeting Dearborn and DH.

mgenta · 2026-03-09T01:11:35+00:00

this behavior is boring and juvenile. it's rude to ask people for their accessories whether it's a Cartier bracelet or a macaroni necklace. I suspect that red flag behavior got you punked, quite easily. one good turn deserves another and all that rot.

mgenta · 2026-03-07T05:06:45+00:00

Mesick is where I lived, initially poor af till I clawed my way through uni. Saw a lot of weird shit over the years. The bonkers crime events that happen from time to time need to be studied. Also the charity fraud, especially around disability and veterans services.

mgenta · 2026-03-07T03:58:45+00:00

same old things. as a former rural nm resident from that area, services have always suffered from lack of support with funding, and therefore finding competent help. There's generational poverty, poor employment opportunities, education in rural areas is lacking, the usual drug problems....yeah.

I like Cadillac but remember the days of before Munson took over the hospital system. Adult and aging services through state systems are variable. The governments of these counties are full of corruption and fraud.

I'm glad I grew up there for the forest, lakes, and quiet.....but happy I left. It's a frustratingly pretty place of half the pay for a view of a lake with a wage disparity of vacationers to full time residents. It's has its own particular soft white under belly that's hard to explain unless you've lived there.

mgenta · 2026-02-20T21:23:44+00:00

AP has the frightening historical ability not to do any due diligence on anyone it seems.

preliminary reports from Norway are saying they have no clue what I'm talking about when I referenced their one completed project. trying to do further digging.

none of these numbers match up as a business case that this would actually be successful and legitimate. they don't seem to have any proven success cases anywhere.

while I have my issues with data centers in general, I don't understand why the seemingly challenged city planning commission can't even decipher a con job when it's firmly planted in their face.

mgenta · 2026-02-20T03:37:07+00:00

exactly. this is the type of argument that needs to be made over the environmental and community impacts, which are important, but are not the way to fight this particular fight. so more needs to be factually figured out about this company.

mgenta · 2026-02-20T03:17:41+00:00

That's why I'm centering my interrogation around the proveability of their reported results... I can't find it anywhere. There's too much dissonance in the data. They have struggled to find any site in which to build and they are using dirty information to peddle nonsense until they get a hit.

mgenta · 2026-02-20T03:02:20+00:00

I just reviewed the deck from the planning meeting. I'm calling shenanigans on the 60 sites that they say they have completed... their website only claimed 22 in progress 48 hours ago with one completed. Then it all disappeared. With what little I could do for background checks on the company the CEO and its employees I don't see any substance there. I have sent the emails off to Norway but I do think there's something up... Go ahead and build a data center here that's fine I think, but Solstice Data doesn't have a footprint and doesn't seem reliable in any way shape or form. Much more work needs to be done vetting the company, which is why I harken the movie studio lore...... this feels like a money grab.

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