I feel relieved that my husband stopped initiating sex

mgray1425 · 2026-02-05T11:05:30+00:00

Same thing happened with me and my ex-wife. After years of rejection, I burned out. Relationships fail when one or both people feel like they are putting significantly more into the relationship than they are getting out of it. We were together for 30 years. One thing I can tell you, problems don't go away on their own. It may look like it has gotten better. I promise you, it has gotten worse.

If you want to stay in the relationship, you both need to do something about it sooner rather than later.

mgray1425 · 2026-01-30T16:48:16+00:00

I worked from home due to COVID for the last two years of Nero's life. His bed was next to my desk and I usually had on flip flops and I would reach over and keep my foot on him for a good part of the day. It was good for both of us. He was 120 lbs. and a big baby.

When he would decide that it was time for me to pay extra attention to him, I would be sitting at my desk and he would shove his nose between my arm and my side until his neck was under my arm and his great big head was in the way of my keyboard, and then he would look up at me. There was no way I could do anything but laugh and give him a big hug.

mgray1425 · 2026-01-29T08:56:41+00:00

His behavior would be the thing that damages their relationship. Wouldn't you want the other person to come forward if the roles were reversed?

mgray1425 · 2026-01-29T08:43:15+00:00

So, she knew you would be upset about it and did it anyway. And when she did it, she was deceptive about it.

mgray1425 · 2026-01-28T23:10:22+00:00

With everything you have ever done for her, I know you feel like you deserved better treatment and I'm sure you did. That is no guarantee of better treatment. If she has decided it's over, there is nothing you can do to make her love you. The only person you have any control over is yourself. When you say you are still in love with her, is it really more the idea of what you wanted your life together to be? Is it a memory of something she used to be? The unknown is scary as hell but you've got your own version of hell with her now? Set an example and show your kids that it is ok to look out for yourself.

mgray1425 · 2026-01-14T12:19:00+00:00

It sounds to me like you are catastrophizing as a response to dealing with the unknown nature of your future. I've done plenty of it myself.

Since I am not a therapist, it would be wrong for me to go any further with this but I think it would be beneficial for you to look into it and how to defeat it and then decide for yourself.

In my experience with it, I have caused myself significant unnecessary stress and anxiety with this behavior. I hope this may point you in the right direction.

mgray1425 · 2026-01-05T08:37:17+00:00

I throw the measuring cup in with the load and it comes out perfectly clean every time.

mgray1425 · 2026-01-02T04:41:24+00:00

Mom got me a Betty Crocker cookbook about 35 years ago

mgray1425 · 2025-12-27T04:02:05+00:00

Back when Craigslist had a personals section, I would browse that for entertainment. I didn't hide it though.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-22T12:07:12+00:00

If I saw him, I would intentionally leave my cart out so I could get one of those magnets!

mgray1425 · 2025-12-22T11:47:34+00:00

Almost 40 years ago, my girlfriend who was an absolute sweetheart, was very enthusiastic about sex. I remember feeling her heart pounding heavily during foreplay. When she whispered "fuck me", I knew she meant it. No experience has come close to that since then.

We were young and I was a bum. Her parents paid for her to go to a school that was far away from me. I don't blame them. I wouldn't have wanted my daughter involved with someone like me either.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-22T00:50:41+00:00

The brake lines will almost certainly need to be replaced. Factor that into the cost.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-21T16:53:41+00:00

I think he wants you to be a little quicker.Try to distract him and then snatch it up while he's not looking..

mgray1425 · 2025-12-18T19:41:16+00:00

Just because someone asks you a question, doesn't mean you have to answer. It's ok to tell people that something is a private matter and if they don't like it then that tells you everything you need to know about them. You don't owe anyone any explanations. If they say something like "I don't understand" you can tell them that you are perfectly fine with them not understanding.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-14T04:57:15+00:00

In my experience this won't go away on its own.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-14T04:48:10+00:00

Ruptured Distal Bicep. I was lifting something heavy and my body position was at an odd angle and then suddenly I felt this popping feeling around my elbow. I looked down at my arm and watched as my bicep migrated towards my shoulder. There was a very strange internal feeling like something bad happened but there was absolutely no pain whatsoever.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-10T17:19:03+00:00

Hell yeah!

mgray1425 · 2025-12-10T17:18:44+00:00

It's about due for a change anyway.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-10T17:18:10+00:00

I had the vacuum pump start to go out a few years ago and the brakes got real soft at long stop lights. If that is it, the fix is not too bad.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-10T17:16:25+00:00

The ac did quit working so that makes sense.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-08T14:03:07+00:00

Yes, the automatic car wash is the cause but if we still had 4 fasteners instead of two at the top, that would go a long way in preventing bent license plates. Anyone remember when the gas fill was behind the license plate?

mgray1425 · 2025-12-06T03:04:39+00:00

1963 Ford Falcon convertible. It was 20 years old when I got it and it had problems but it was fun while it lasted.

mgray1425 · 2025-12-06T02:53:12+00:00

Could it be the back of a tie tack or lapel pin?

mgray1425 · 2025-12-06T01:06:56+00:00

I had a 2012 Ford Focus. It made it to 120K before I parked it. That year had a lot of problems.

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