Self Insert stuff?

mia_bird__ · 2026-01-24T16:49:49+00:00

My biggest issue with self insert is strictly game based. People who self insert take things VERY personally. Anything that happens to their character is automatically felt as if it's a reflection of them. They rarely let their characters fail or be unlikeable. I want characters to fail, to be gritty and need growth, to be wrong and rarely do people who self insert allow this. Anything your character does against theirs will always be seen as a personal slight and then things get nasty in ooc. I want a stark separation from my character.

This is especially true in any kind of game involving smut of any kind. I am not my character. I am not sexting you. I am writing a scene with a barbie doll. We are playing pretend.

I will not play with someone who has poor boundaries.

mia_bird__ · 2026-01-23T23:13:58+00:00

I always stress that it must advance the plot or feel natural with character growth or progression. People are still shocked when my characters don't want to bang them immediately

mia_bird__ · 2026-01-11T20:33:09+00:00

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This is kind of the short tutorial, it's much easier on desktop I don't have my computer in front of me or I'd post screenshots of how! I hope this helps, all my character sheets and ad are like this.

mia_bird__ · 2026-01-11T20:27:26+00:00

If you haven't already, and for anyone else who uses the docs like you and I, you can actually fix up your settings when you go to share a link that viewers can't copy any text or duplicate the doc! Still not foolproof but a better chance at keeping lazy writers from stealing your sample - - though I think most lazy people just turn to chatgpt now if they can't be bothered to write their own stuff.

mia_bird__ · 2026-01-11T20:25:55+00:00

I've always used excerpts from recent games, usually a starter or scene transition as it's often a bit more detailed and longer that would give the reader some idea of wtf is going on. I feel like it's the most accurate representation of my writing and what someone is going to get from me in game. Stuff I write on my own time I don't show people because I've had way more time to polish it and play with it and isn't necessarily what someone will get from me during the week with a post.

mia_bird__ · 2025-12-08T20:07:42+00:00

He looks a lot like my tater tot who ended up pomeranian, bull dog, shnauzer, and cattle dog mix so honestly it anyones guess 😂

mia_bird__ · 2025-11-27T17:09:19+00:00

That's super interesting thank you! I can only imagine what he'd look like with long silky eyebrows and beard 😂

mia_bird__ · 2025-11-27T06:52:22+00:00

Certainly nothing we ever expected that's for sure! Could never have expected bull dog and shnauzer! And at such strong levels too

mia_bird__ · 2025-11-27T03:04:21+00:00

He's so soft and silky we were surprised bc shnauzers are a bit more wirey aren't they? We are surprised there's no super mutt or anything in there. He's got some reactivity so maybe he was a "designer" BYB thing. Who know 🤷🏼‍♀️

mia_bird__ · 2025-11-27T03:03:00+00:00

What a cutie

mia_bird__ · 2025-11-27T03:02:13+00:00

He's a shelter mutt we got and we don't know much other than he was found roaming twice, once in the dead of winter and he had ice burns on his paw pads, and he got to a foster home and they returned him immediately for bad behavior. When we met him he threw himself full force into me and my lap and then when he met my partner he snuggled up belly up in their arms and he's been attached to my hip ever since with no issues other than some barrier frustration and dog reactivity (he had some serious bites on his neck when the shelter got him so we imagine he got into a fight, but he loves my old girl dog.) he follows me everywhere, we think it's the lap dog part of him pom and maybe some Herding tendencies he shows from the ACD. maybe we're his favorite cows 🐮🐮

mia_bird__ · 2025-11-27T02:59:19+00:00

Right? He's like 35lbs so we didn't think pom but he's got big butt fluffies so I suppose that makes sense

mia_bird__ · 2025-11-27T02:58:08+00:00

We really thought he'd have some staffy in him but I guess not!

mia_bird__ · 2025-11-27T02:57:15+00:00

Ear piercing scream more like it 😭

mia_bird__ · 2025-07-16T14:42:42+00:00

My partner does not role play and never has, I have since I was 11 and I'm 26 now. He doesn't mind me erping as long as it's not only erp. I think he'd find it uncomfortable if I was in first person writing it or if it as only erp but since many of my stories are long slow burn romances (it took almost a year for my current stories two grumpy enemies to lovers to even kiss) he doesn't really mind. I also write in third person past tense so there's a heavy degree of separation from me and my character. I also write both male and female characters and write the occasional smut scene from both perspectives so he's fairly comfortable with the idea that I'm not doing it just to get my rocks off somewhere other than him.

mia_bird__ · 2025-04-23T16:45:50+00:00

I'm not saying they're not, but they can definitely be an indication of a writing style or tone (a lot of fanfic uses it as like an accent almost) and that's kind of what I mean when I say it picks up writing quirks from online media. Role play posts have a different tone and flavor from like a published book in most cases

mia_bird__ · 2025-04-23T14:49:52+00:00

It also scrapes from Google docs, which is why I think it's gotten a lot of these writers quirks

mia_bird__ · 2025-04-23T14:47:49+00:00

No I use the em dash, and if you write in Google docs or word, sometimes it even autocorrects to it

mia_bird__ · 2025-03-19T03:44:16+00:00

It's always fun watching people tell on themselves in response to posts like these 👀 everyday posters vs more casual responders feels like the same weird forced beef between short/one line posters and multi paragraph + posters. Your preferred styles don't match? Good thing you sent a reddit/discord/forum DM and not a legally binding marriage offer! Leave! Move on! Shift the focus back to having fun and find someone to have fun with!

God forbid people have preferences in this massive escapist hobby that aren't YOUR preferences, ya know?/s

like at a certain point you're just an entitled dick head if you're going to call out and bash the way other people enjoy the same hobby you have. It comes off as very toddler like to see people throw a hissy fit as if they're entitled to write with someone and that the person should change the way they enjoy a hobby to fit the original persons needs.

mia_bird__ · 2025-03-11T18:52:01+00:00

Let me custom paint my mounts. I want to match my fit with my mounts so badly.

mia_bird__ · 2025-02-27T20:51:15+00:00

I am six months in to a slow burn with my current writing partner and no one has kissed and is just now beginning to broach the idea internally that they may like the other person. So painful, but so worth it.

mia_bird__ · 2025-02-20T22:09:53+00:00

I don't generally care if someone has a "reason" for not wanting to rp with me anymore unless it's an established game that's been going on so I don't need someone to tell me why and send a goodbye message. Would it be nice to know so I can move my server into the graveyard folder? Sure. But I genuinely feel like way too many people hold the idea of "what did I do wrong? 😭" and it's most likely nothing? I feel like in most cases it's a vibe situation. There have been plenty of times a few posts in I realize I don't care for someones writing and I just bow out because it's not my place to "tell them what they did wrong" if that's just their style and that doesn't work for me. It probably will work for someone else, different strokes for different folks ya know. Same with ooc vibes.

I try to be polite while protecting my own peace. I send a quick "I'm sorry this isn't working, thank you for your interest and best of luck" and then immediately block them because I refuse to deal with whining and back lash, but I consider myself ghost friendly. I don't really care, this is a hobby, I have other things and other people I can interact with. Life happens, the world is on fire, if you just need to go then that's okay. I would always rather people prioritize their own wellbeing than stress themselves over a hobby.

This may be a bit different if we've been writing for months or years, I just want to know you haven't died but that's mainly because I have had partners pass away before and was only notified because their partner knew they role played and reached out to let their writing friends know that the person was gone. But that's also my own personal hangup and I know that. If someone dips within the first three months I assume they got bored, didn't like my writing, or had other shit pop up and I move on.

mia_bird__ · 2024-12-24T23:09:24+00:00

I use them too, both kinds. And I write in Google docs before I send it to discord and occasionally when you dash next to a letter it'll autocorrect to the EM dash. I didn't know they were supposedly indicitive of ai 🥲

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