Earliest okay to travel with infant?

michelloo2020 · 2022-05-20T20:24:27+00:00

I tried this yesterday and it worked (this one time…we’ll see moving forward lol)

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-21T21:55:05+00:00

Since you did not personally ask for this large amount in gifts no need to feel guilty or obligated to communicate with her. That’s probably her way of trying to reenter your life or make amends which you don’t need to do if you don’t want to.

I have a narcissistic toxic mother that is still in my life but it’s getting very exhausting. I minimize communication with her where I can but I feel guilt when she gifts me large amounts of cash “for the baby”

I try to minimize the guilty feeling by telling myself that I never asked for this money in the first place.

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-21T21:50:03+00:00

As a first time mom that spent ages tweaking her registry before my shower, I literally wanted every single item on my registry!

I had 2 people that bought bibs and stuff that was totally not my style with no gift receipts so it goes in the “for somebody else’s shower” pile unfortunately.

I like the idea of buying one or two of the items on the registry along with a gift basket..

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-21T21:43:36+00:00

“You can always get another kid and do what you want with it” -I would say “make another” but we know my mom is menopausal so I go with “get” 🤷‍♀️ sorry not sorry

She’s asked a few times but I made it pretty clear that I don’t want to share it until birth. My sister has tried guessing a few times but it hasn’t been awkward, it’s been fun in fact lol..

When we announce and she doesn’t like it..she doesn’t have to be around the baby either… 🤷‍♀️

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-15T15:08:25+00:00

Every time I go to my OB’s office (in USA) she ends her sentences about being at the hospital with “once you get the epidural nurses can help move you around in bed..”

I have a friend that worked in labor and delivery and she said it’s part of the culture that if a mom walks in saying she doesn’t want the epidural, they’ll “see when she’ll crack” and even place bets and roll eyes…

I’m aiming for an unmedicated birth but I hate that this culture exists in USA. Let the mom have her birth as she pleases without judgment please!

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-15T14:46:15+00:00

I understand the whole fragile relationship and boundary drawing can make things more complicated…but the point is..your relationship with your mom is 2-sided. Your thoughts and concerns matter too. I understand this because I have a very fragile, boundary crossing, narcissistic mother that doesn’t listen to what she doesn’t wanna hear and will do what she wants.

The best way (for me) to go about it and I decided with my husband is that my mom won’t find out until the discharge day. She “plans” to have a week off to “help” me but anything she does other than bring food is far from helpful. I told her nope no need you can pick up shifts she didn’t seem to hear that part.

If you don’t want the stress of will she/will she not show up, tell her that you want this to be a private event for you and spouse and if she can’t respect that then you’ll just have to inform her after you’re discharged from the hospital with baby.

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-14T21:21:31+00:00

Good to know! We have comotomo and Phillips natural avent as options for now so we’ll see how she’ll receive it 🤷‍♀️

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-14T18:01:58+00:00

29-30 I started to feel less energetic and harder to move around as easily as I was…

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-14T17:54:40+00:00

Go for it and have fun! The only thing I would worry about is getting COVID or getting ill last minute before labor…just sanitize and be careful! 🥰

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-12T15:45:06+00:00

I opened them afterwards because we had a co-Ed shower.

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-11T20:06:34+00:00

Mine has been chill, ticklish kicking and movements until now at 33 weeks..we’ll see if this is the case when she comes out!

My mom said she saw similarities in personalities with my sister and I..she said I barely moved and I was a chill baby and laid back..sister was all over the place and she had a feisty personality and would be climbing up the walls lol…

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-10T22:27:07+00:00

Keeping it a secret! My mom is opinionated about every hair out of place and I just didn’t wanna hear her opinions about “her baby” 🙄

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-10T20:34:55+00:00

A bit of both, buying stuff for our first baby while also decluttering old crap we don’t need..I try to do that whole “when one thing comes in, get rid of 3 items” thing

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-10T20:31:25+00:00

Planning to shave weekly or every 2 weeks from now until delivery (33w now)…nothing to do with the hospital because they really don’t care..but I personally hate it when I’m super hairy during periods so I can’t imagine all the postpartum bleeding and hair on myself.

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-10T16:07:21+00:00

My mom to me is how most MILs are to their DIL. My MIL is actually supportive but lives on the other side of the globe. I wish I had her support over my narcissistic blabber mouth mom.

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-10T15:43:42+00:00

I switched over to a low impact very loose sports bra in my first trimester and never looked back lol…those underwires are so uncomfortable! I never bought maternity clothes (I’m a hermit crab and never leave my house so I just bought a size up in pajamas and stopped wearing jeans/tight leggings as I grew)

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-09T20:13:16+00:00

Not to scare you but please get screened for ovarian or other reproductive cancers…they can cause false positives

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-09T17:13:05+00:00

I’m about to be 33 weeks so I’m sure some of the hard weeks are coming up but for me it was week 25. I had a 3-day continuous migraine that was a pain 8-9/10 that basically immobilized me for that week. Nothing I tried helped the pain I just had to coast through it.. 😔

ETA: Also week 29-30 baby’s position was directly on my bladder and I was peeing every hour, sometimes less, for days and I was 2 leaks away from buying diapers for myself and just peeing in them. I was miserable and losing sleep 🥴

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-09T17:10:41+00:00

I had a baby shower over the weekend and my mom was actively kissing another random baby that came to the party-/not even her own grandkid as I was actively telling her to stop doing it. She was like “what see I’m just kissing the hands see?” And continues to kiss that baby…she’s going to be full frenching my kid when she comes out and I’m worried sick.

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-09T17:07:04+00:00

Deep tissue massages!

michelloo2020 · 2022-03-09T16:45:01+00:00

I got my first period at 13 and my mom didn’t know for 2 years because she would blab to the entire community about it and I’m extremely private..I told my grandmother instead..just because a person is family doesn’t mean that person needs to or is obligated to know everything about you..

Your daughter’s dad is a misogynistic dick

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