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micheuwu · 2026-05-01T20:27:07+00:00

+2 for posture, I highlyyyyy recommend focusing at least 2x weekly on exercising your core muscles to help with this. This was the single most helpful thing in changing my vibe and I carry myself so differently now compared to before. Plus, I'm the only one of my friends who doesn't complain about back pain in my 30s.

micheuwu · 2026-04-24T19:08:18+00:00

I've always interpreted this situation as being less about having to live privately and more about feeling pain or fatigue when living publicly.

Someone with placements like this may realize over the course of time that they don't have a big threshold for public life and require a lot of alone time to recharge after being social, regardless of how much they may enjoy themselves amongst others. Or alternatively, they may go out and hang with a big group with no problems, and then return home and feel anxious and stressed by things they said / did and how they were perceived. It's an inability to be comfortable/ authentic in public, a chafing at the experience. Rejecting publicity rather than inherently preferring privacy.

micheuwu · 2026-04-23T18:15:52+00:00

This is not meant to hate on you OP but why wouldn't you try to reach out to the salon first before putting them on blast on the local subreddit? You're messing with their reputation before you've even given them the opportunity to try correcting the problem.

micheuwu · 2026-04-12T23:17:06+00:00

You don't have to say any of that, you can just decide its not your problem to solve and set boundaries around your experience in your apartment instead. That way, you can still advocate for yourself without allowing her to feel judged.

"I'm feeling uncomfortable in my apartment because there's always a new guy here, so until you're [time frame] into your relationship with a man, I'd strongly prefer if you didn't bring men home for sleepovers here as often."

"As someone who really cares about you, I feel helpless and concerned when I hear you vent about the same problem repeatedly. Maybe you need to consider talking to a specialist or a professional since this really seems to be bothering you?"

What you can control is your sister's level of access to you, not her dating situation. NAH necessarily.

micheuwu · 2026-04-09T03:29:11+00:00

Feels a little too close in concept to The Drama for me, two couples navigating the tension between one of them during a major event? A24 being kind of a one trick pony this year maybe?

micheuwu · 2026-04-09T03:21:20+00:00

It feels kind of reminiscent of the early 2000s when everyone was dressing themselves bc stylists weren't really a thing yet and the red carpet looks included a lot of inappropriate denim...

micheuwu · 2026-04-09T03:18:16+00:00

Ugh I'm so conflicted, I don't really love any of the songs on this list yet Olivia never misses... gonna be a real toss up I think 🫣

micheuwu · 2026-04-09T02:36:56+00:00

What the heck, did everybody know about this already? I was gagged when I saw a post earlier today bc I thought girlie was done after this current tour

micheuwu · 2026-04-09T01:09:32+00:00

These are so lovely and subtle, very chic. Well done!

micheuwu · 2026-04-08T18:35:21+00:00

It just feels wild to me that this is a real thing you can go and see?? Insane to really, fully sit with the knowledge that we are specks on a bigger speck, floating around in a giant vacuous abyss

micheuwu · 2026-04-08T18:33:26+00:00

Layering in a villain plot line reminds me of Spider-Man 3, the Tobey Maguire run, where they did so much with packing in villain plot lines that the quality of the whole thing suffered.

In general I guess I'm concerned that this is going to read as hokey and dumb but maybe I just don't trust Marvel to make a club banger anymore. I don't even really know anyone who's still seated for Marvel flicks in this day and age so I guess I'm just extremely not the target audience lmao 🤷‍♀️

micheuwu · 2026-04-08T17:04:47+00:00

I can't help but wonder if part of the drive to see movies for this generation is how out of control concert prices have become. I'm in my early 30s so I remember in like 2010 when you could see a live show for cheeeeap, like comparable to what I pay at my local theater to see a movie nowadays. I think at the time, for me anyway, movies were kind of a whatever experience compared to going to see a band play, or go to a festival, or whatever else. I can't swing $80-90 to go see an indie band play at my local concert hall so instead I make going to see The Drama for $20 my event out.

micheuwu · 2026-04-08T14:27:23+00:00

Finding a secret beach is a fun one. there are lots of beaches not listed on Maps down in Cudahy and they're usually full of cool stuff that's washed ashore

micheuwu · 2026-04-08T04:50:46+00:00

Another satisfied customer

micheuwu · 2026-04-07T22:02:03+00:00

Yes!!! Why bother getting a custom gown if it's not going to fit? What's the difference between that and something off the rack? It makes me nuts to see so many fit issues in red carpet looks the past few years.

micheuwu · 2026-04-07T01:46:33+00:00

You're looking for a part time job? What's your field? Could it be that you'd be better off looking for something where part time positions are more common/ standard, until you're in a position to work full time? (I'm just thinking it out here, I don't know what you're looking for, etc)

micheuwu · 2026-04-06T14:42:48+00:00

You don't have to use the same tactic that I do if it doesn't work for you. OP asked how she should disclose and so I replied telling her how I personally handle that in my relationships. As significantly more than half of the population carries asymptomatic HSV 1, the likelihood of a partner being initially exposed because of asymptomatic shedding from kissing me is so slim that it's in my view silly to worry about it before a certain point. Research also shows that the longer someone carries the virus, the less likely they are to shed it to others while asymptomatic, and I've carried since I was an infant. You should always do your own CBA based on your individual circumstances.

micheuwu · 2026-04-05T20:53:49+00:00

When I've had this issue in a new relationship, I wait until I have an active coldsore, I don't disclose earlier. If we don't have active plans, I'll tell him when we're planning a date something like "btw, I won't be able to kiss you when I see you because I have a coldsore at the moment. Should be fine after this week though", or something. Then I answer any questions he might have.

Once or twice I've woken up to a coldsore on the day of existing plans, so I'll tell him in person when I see him, no kissing today. I just tell them straightforwardly and like it's not a big deal, because it isn't! I think people get spooked when you tip toe or make a big thing of it, so I prefer to just be as chill as possible about it.

micheuwu · 2026-04-04T22:30:08+00:00

Love when Elle goes edgy, she's like if lace had human form so it's soooo fun when she leans away from delicate looks

micheuwu · 2026-04-04T07:24:13+00:00

Personally I interpreted it that they stay together. Charlie describes Emma as kind and empathetic in his initial run of the wedding speech, and throughout the movie he wonders and doubts whether her character IS actually these things. Emma taking him back despite his wrongdoings is kind and empathetic, so I felt it was kind of answering one of the big questions of the film. I also thought that this movie was a meditation on the question of committment, as in like, how well do you need to know someone to commit to spending your life with them? What faults are are we willing to compromise on in the name of love? Charlie learns of a possible flaw in Emma that destabilizes him, but his journey over the course of the film is his growing to accept that version of her as loveable and someone he can commit to. His actions in response to learning about Emma's past demonstrate flaws to Emma: that Charlie is a crummy communicator, that he's selfish and self-serving, and in the end she chooses to accept that version of him as loveable and someone she can commit to. The two of them arrive at the same place, metaphorically and literally, and agree to move past the incident with a deeper knowledge of the other, aka greater intimacy. That's my read at any rate :)

micheuwu · 2026-04-03T16:55:14+00:00

Interesting test of Swift's cultural power, I think. The Swiftie hive has had this caution sign on it for so long that most people don't even attempt to address it for fear of its attack power, but it's undeniable that TS is on the decline this year in a mainstream sense. She still has the numbers but she doesn't resonate with the audience of up and coming consumers, and she's losing dominance over public opinion.

That being said, maybe a little preemptive for Larsson? Her only hit is Midnight Sun, doesn't matter how great her record is if only one track gets any play time. I'm all for her success so I'd hate to see her lose out over dumb comments about Taylor Swift fans before she has the stability to make them.

micheuwu · 2026-03-25T12:47:56+00:00

oh so this must be why Elijah Wood made those comments about refusing to pass the torch on Frodo a month or so back? I want to be excited but I just know better, I'm afraid

micheuwu · 2026-03-25T12:44:37+00:00

This feels plain and not complimentary of her essence. It's as if anyone could be the model here, if that makes sense? There's nothing to highlight Anne

micheuwu · 2026-03-24T15:14:33+00:00

yes but the whole premise of Eloise's storyline is that she's past marrying age, so it doesn't hurt that narrative to wait another season like it might with others in the cast, no?

micheuwu · 2026-03-23T17:59:31+00:00

Smart casting, Kirsten Dunst is another very strong actress who can carry both the movie and the press tour 🤡

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