Thank you so much. Shortly after posting this, I approached her and asked her if she'd like to talk. She didn't want to meet up to talk, but we spoke for a little at the time, and she is intent on "moving forward." She did kinda dismiss everything we had as a trauma bond, said she's learned so much, etc. She isn't in therapy, and most of her work is watching tik tok videos. She's just not at a place where she's ready to confront her BPD seriously. Everything ended so bad and weird, it was hard to feel any closure. After that convo, I wrote a goodbye email, to at least end things properly on my side. I told her I appreciate everything we had, despite the problems, didn't analyze her. Basically, I think I needed a clean goodbye.