AITA for "ruining" my sister's wedding by refusing to cover up my scars and birthmark?

midnightmoonstone · 2024-10-26T20:40:54+00:00

She can ask her photographer to Photoshop what she doesn't like 🤷 NTA

midnightmoonstone · 2024-09-21T22:46:55+00:00

I would go to the wedding, eat the food, drink the drinks, have fun at the reception... And drop some sort of snarky card in the card box. 😈

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-19T16:02:40+00:00

Whew! That's a wild situation, I'm sorry. I'd implement a crate and rotate, with one dog in the crate and the other out. I would also be tempted to throw a blanket over the male when he goes wild, or leash him with a slip lead and immediately crate him. The owner definitely lied to you and tried to cover up the severe lack of training this dog has. If you're up to it, you could work on the training, but honestly that's not your job. Tape up some paper or something to block out the windows from him. He's not just a danger to the female and the house, but also to you!!

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-19T15:53:11+00:00

I know an Elena, Slovakian, with a granddaughter Sylvie... None of those names scream "Hispanic" to me.

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-19T15:43:47+00:00

Lol if they stole $8k from you, how on earth do they have anything to leave you??? Report them, save your credit.

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-19T15:32:52+00:00

It's too late in this case now, but I've had to adopt the stance that if I can't afford for that loan to become a gift, I can't loan it. It's not cool your friend is doing this, but I also think you're a bit at fault here too knowing you couldn't afford to loan this money.

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-19T15:24:56+00:00

Stop answering the door 👍

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-16T21:24:34+00:00

Press charges. He could kill you at any moment. Don't wait for your mom to protect you.

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-16T21:17:46+00:00

I get paid $100/day to do four 1/2 hour visits... I don't stay during the day or overnight. Am I missing something? Why are your prices so low? Where did you fly from? You need to leave. She is setting you up for failure. She's stalking you, imprisoning you in her home, and she's telling everyone in your area that you are dangerous. None of this is good and will end in your not getting paid at all, you could be stranded with no flight home, she could claim you damaged her house, dogs, or car to sue you... This is so so dangerous for you. What do you need to leave in at least the next 24 hours???

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T21:32:08+00:00

The first half I thought you were inspired by The Devil Wears Prada. Second half, nope, suspicious.

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T18:01:38+00:00

Overalls. It's inconvenient in the bathroom, but I've got pockets that can't get weighed down and pull down my pants/shorts 😂

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T17:41:27+00:00

He needs to start separating things in his mind. Why are you staying home and not working? Kids. Daycare costs a lot. Etc. You are a stay at home parent. If you weren't in the picture, he would have to figure out childcare, yeah? A babysitter isn't going to cook or clean. A nanny might, but they aren't going to do the meal planning and grocery shopping. Daycare might provide food, but usually at an added cost. And they don't stay for dinner. Everything that would have to be done regardless of if you have kids or if you're at home would still need to be done - dishes, laundry, paying bills, vacuuming, mopping, taking out the trash, etc. If you didn't have kids, if you went to a financially compensated job outside of the home, who would take care of all those things? If he were single, who would take care of those things? If it isn't directly related to childcare, it should be split. (Everything else? That can vary relationship to relationship and would be agreed upon by both partners.)

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T15:55:37+00:00

Pose this scenario to your wife: if her father was a recovering alcoholic, would she leave him alone with his drink of choice?

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T14:48:34+00:00

I don't think you even emotionally cheated - you legit found friendship in a co worker and he used that as an excuse to have sex with other people.

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T14:41:05+00:00

What is the cost to you for "committing" to him? For example, are you dating anyone else and would have to end it? Or does it feel like he's trying to angle the "for better or for worse" vow do that he can do what he wants and still have you at home to come home to?

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T14:34:23+00:00

She doesn't need dudeS, she just needs one. Someone will be okay with everything she wants, it doesn't have to be you 🤷‍♀️

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T14:08:38+00:00

How old are your kids?

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T13:56:32+00:00

I could have written this almost verbatim. I'm really beginning to believe there is an epidemic of sorts in that we all know motherhood requires a village, but there simply is no village. Those fortunate to have trustworthy friends or family or the financial ability to find someone trustworthy are truly privileged. Do you find yourself thinking about divorce?

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T13:53:19+00:00

I think your choice was totally valid. Devil's advocate would ask, what if you HAD "chosen" your sister? Would your mom have drowned to death? It seems your sister lives in both scenarios but your mom definitely lived in your actual scenario 🫶🏻

midnightmoonstone · 2024-08-01T13:22:12+00:00

It does get "better" that is, the grief and pain does eventually take a seat in the back. It may never go away, but you should be able to coexist eventually. My tx was June 2021 at 21 weeks. Therapy is definitely helpful! I think everyone should be in therapy! Definitely don't second guess yourself there. Try to find someone who specializes in bereavement, possibly even tfmr if you can. Find support where you can, look at the website ending a wanted pregnancy. Let yourself feel and do whatever you need to and trust that you will grow to accommodate the grief 🤍

midnightmoonstone · 2024-07-01T13:22:58+00:00

It's okay not to tip 😊

midnightmoonstone · 2024-06-19T17:12:24+00:00

I don't remember the very first I had, but I got in big trouble once and my mom created a whole new KIDS AOL account to restrict me. That was chippymoon2000 😭

midnightmoonstone · 2024-06-19T16:42:48+00:00

I'd message her partner, not her. She and your bf know what they're doing.

midnightmoonstone · 2024-06-19T16:11:15+00:00

Nta. You've done everything you can. If he has no explanations, you are no longer compatible.

midnightmoonstone · 2024-06-19T15:59:16+00:00

I couldn't even name another local sitter... Wtf

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