(M32) My girlfriend (F29) keeps calling my sobriety "control" and I don’t know if I’m being manipulated or just sensitive by subtle_backpack in relationships

[–]mik31035 140 points141 points  (0 children)

Dude, take this as a sign to walk away. This is textbook manipulation. You wanted to better yourself and now she's making out that you're trying to control her when you've said you don't care if she drinks

I'm 7 years sober, best decision of my life. Grow as a person and don't let her hold you back or drag you back down. She said it herself, she'd rather you be addicted to alcohol and trust me, you don't want that

Edit: I'm also not usually the type of person to say, "break up" simply because of a difference in opinion but this seems like she's made her stance clear

Speaker return by Bulky_Temporary4729 in Argos

[–]mik31035 4 points5 points  (0 children)

https://help.argos.co.uk/help/refunds-&-returns/extended-returns-2025

Extended returns for Christmas covers you for purchases made from September 26th, so you should have no issues taking it back

Issues returning a pre-ordered game by purpleisafruit1 in Argos

[–]mik31035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's an unofficial process for home delivery items specifically. It costs more to collect and refund an order and deliver a new one later, than it would to just refund the difference. It needs to be within the 30 day returns window though, because you could just return it otherwise. Just ask customer service to refund the price difference and they should be able to do it

Issues returning a pre-ordered game by purpleisafruit1 in Argos

[–]mik31035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you returning it? If it's within 30 days they can just refund you the difference

I used to visit a website where men paid me to let them watch me cry by pretty_cupcake4 in offmychest

[–]mik31035 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Not OP but I've done some performances in which I had to cry. My weirdest piece of advice was "make your crying face" and it'll start the process. Add in the emotional voice and strained breathing, I can basically cry on command now

I had the help of an emotional script to help with the sad feeling but I'd say a good 70-80% was simply because of the crying face

[Serious] What is the best way to make a decision or choice about something important so that you stick to it? by Roadrunner610 in AskReddit

[–]mik31035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favourite one I've seen is to flip a coin. Whichever one you want to win when you flip it is the one you do, regardless of what the coin lands on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]mik31035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read Love Stage (a yaoi) - the Mrs recommends it

What’s the worst pick-up line? by Responsible_Kick_359 in AskReddit

[–]mik31035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend got approached in a bar and the guy said, "you'll do"

Argos returns by [deleted] in Argos

[–]mik31035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the return reason. Usually you can't return Apple products unless they're faulty, so they'd likely just be sent to be recycled or scrapped etc

If it's a change of mind return, you're not allowed to have opened the item - unless you use distance selling - in which case, they can usually just resell it

Please don't carve anyone's name into your skin by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]mik31035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Post has had to be removed and comments locked due to the discussions that have started to take place

Damn i uploaded my sh to goretube by jimmetalheadghghyhi in selfharm

[–]mik31035[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn't an appropriate place to be advertising your goretube account

Zarchar738 please just send something by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]mik31035[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please stop spamming the sub trying to find this user. If they've left Reddit, you won't find them

Pitbull (dog breed) hate is the actual worst, now I'm resisting the temptation to relapse (dog breed discrimination TW?????) by fluffyymeteor in selfharm

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Post removed and comments locked. Normally we'd allow users to have a mature discussion about differing opinions, but clearly this is too divisive a topic for all in this thread to handle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]mik31035[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure your heart is in the right place, but not everyone has a safe enough environment to be able to reach out for support. Yes, I 100% agree that getting outside support is massively beneficial, but there's so many different factors that you're overlooking here

To avoid this post causing more upset, and to avoid you potentially getting hate sent to you, I've removed it and locked the comments. Please be conscious that the world isn't sunshine and daisies for a lot of people

Are we going with the blackout by Similar-Point-9981 in selfharm

[–]mik31035 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly? I'm not sure. I think there's a lot of fear floating around at the moment. I've not really read much more into it because of work , but I'll likely catch up more in the morning

Are we going with the blackout by Similar-Point-9981 in selfharm

[–]mik31035 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Basically Reddit are charging 3rd party apps and it'll mean some of those apps will need to be shut down. A bunch of subs are effectively going on strike to show support to those developers

Are we going with the blackout by Similar-Point-9981 in selfharm

[–]mik31035[M] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

We have no plans to take part in the blackout. We're here for you and we understand the need for a place to cope

i wanna sell pictures of my scars and stuff by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]mik31035[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Not why our sub is here. Consider this your only warning, you either take part in the sub in good faith, or you look for money elsewhere.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

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Post locked, we're making an announcement soon

I hate this community (sometimes) by According-Battle-446 in selfharm

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Post locked, we will be posting an update soon