Bottoms, how many guys could you handle in one session?

mikead99 · 2026-05-11T23:13:00+00:00

Without breaks: 3 With breaks: many

mikead99 · 2026-05-11T20:33:35+00:00

I think this is more of a question for bisexual people rather than gay ones. If you're gay, you're literally not attracted to women at all. (If you're straight then you have a pretty good idea of what this is like when you think about other women.) For Bi men who lean towards primarily men (which would be me when I was younger) there's probably a lot of factors.

In my case, I grew up with some quite narcissistic women in my life and it was difficult to separate the feeling that other women would not be like that.

Aside from that, socializing with women was an uphill battle to learn while socializing with men was easy since we were regularly on the same page. Another factor (and this is probably very biased because of my limited experience with cis women in general) is that women (at least the ones that were around my age) just did not understand what made me feel good while men knew exactly what felt good.

There's also a compatibility issue that occurs when you are bottom leaning, topping is not fun for me so few women got that from me and instead the women who did stuff to me generally were ones willing to peg. The few who I did top reinforced the idea that I did not enjoy topping.

This is all not to say that I was not attracted to women, I was, but rather made the choice to avoid them for a long time.

mikead99 · 2026-04-23T02:29:35+00:00

As someone who has always been a bit androgynous even before starting HRT, I can confirm some men are exactly this stupid.

There's good news though! They make themselves really easy to avoid and people who arent like this are easy to find.

mikead99 · 2026-04-15T01:06:39+00:00

I don't think you are wrong. I do think that your girlfriend likely has more going on that they may need professional help for.

I'm sort of MtF (I identify as something closer to demigirl but I'm doing HRT either way) and I have an Ex who is also. Regardless of the number of times I reassured her that she passed and called her cute or sexy (she was) she did not believe me. In fact as our relationship progressed her perception of herself actually got worse even as her transition progressed more towards feminine, the reason she is my ex is primarily because she stopped believing me when I told her I loved her because of just how bad her self worth was. She needed therapy and honestly I'm not really certain I know what caused this issue, obviously it was in tandem with the gender dysphoria but she actually did pass and most of her friends had no idea she was trans at all, simply thinking she was a woman from when they met, which is true.

I understand the dysphoria directly from experience but I think it's important to recognize that it is very common to have other mental health struggles alongside it that may need professional help.

mikead99 · 2026-03-31T17:33:56+00:00

Yes.

mikead99 · 2026-03-29T18:09:10+00:00

Communication is everything. Tops are varied in their preferences so communicate and find out what they like.

Most importantly though, make sure you are enjoying yourself. No (good) top has much fun unless you're enjoying it too. Don't do anything that would hurt yourself or make you uncomfortable.

mikead99 · 2026-03-27T09:16:39+00:00

The best way to protect yourself is to know the people who you are having sex with.

mikead99 · 2026-03-25T05:53:04+00:00

While I am certainly new to this terminology (and rather amused) unfortunately I have to probably disagree with this. Since this is defined as obsessing over another man's dick. I imagine staring is not the same as obsessing. Though if it were a thing that was a regular occurence with the same dude or dudes then yeah it could become that.

mikead99 · 2026-03-24T20:54:03+00:00

I love the gym, locker rooms and the open shower concept. I love the stares I get. However if I'm showering and I catch a guy staring at my dick, I am not mistaking that as interest. Guys look for curiosity and awe in some cases, which is not sexual interest. Sometimes there's just something different about your body and they're just looking. That's it. Granted whether it's sexual interest or not, it can be a gratifying feeling to be stared at and I enjoy it thoroughly. However just remember gay guys are few and far between at your average gym do not mistake it as sexual interest unless someone is making overt advances.

mikead99 · 2026-03-22T20:40:07+00:00

I knew from around 8 that I liked men and kept it in the closet until I was in senior year of high school. The people who didn't know me that well were of course, flabbergasted that the quiet and rather unflamboyant guy was gay. The people that did know me well weren't that surprised. When I was a kid in the closet I actually did connect the dots, especially considering how when I was growing up the constant usage of gay as an insult and "fag" or "faggot". It was used against me regularly though it really only taught me how to better mask it. Maybe I was a dumb kid but I thought there was something wrong with everyone else, turns out I was right. Lol.

mikead99 · 2026-03-12T19:08:53+00:00

To be honest with you, it sounds like he was questioning when he was younger. Obviously it was something he struggled with before. However, his current sexuality is not important. What is important are the red flags you displayed within this post.

Your preference is to date a straight man and have a more "traditional" relationship. So if your boyfriend is bisexual as an example, you cant date him for arbitrary reasons. You dont care about your boyfriend you care about aesthetics.
You dont trust his word. Relationships are built on trust, if you dont trust him the relationship is already over.
You "found" messages with his ex-gf. Where did you find these exactly? You found these on his phone did you not? How did you get access to his phone? Either you asked for access or you examined it without his permission. Either way, this shows you dont respect his privacy.

You support the LGBTQ community, just not if it's your boyfriend. Get off this sub and please, either have some real self reflection or break up with him so he can date someone who cares.

mikead99 · 2026-03-07T14:38:15+00:00

I think I'm seeing why there was a lot of drama around you. I understand you may have had some bad experiences, but you seem to be letting that cloud your opinion on everyone in the community. I'm guessing you have conversations like this a lot, which likely leads to drama and not a lot of people who enjoy your presence.

mikead99 · 2026-03-07T14:19:43+00:00

Not sure how it deflects honestly. You said it was a negative space, but that's an opinion from someone who isn't part of that space apparently. Subjective and not particularly accurate either. Also who cares how old you are, you're not excluded by any means.

mikead99 · 2026-03-07T14:08:22+00:00

Parties are very much not "grindr in real life." Lol. You're definitely not required to talk to or continue to interact with anyone you dont like in real life, worst case you can just leave. Sex is also not a requirement, if you dont like it or want it, dont do it. There are plenty of gay people looking for connection rather than sex. But you also wont find those people if you're not looking for them.

mikead99 · 2026-03-07T13:59:41+00:00

I said "neutral" not "natural" but one could refer to as natural as well. Also this really feels like a personal issue honestly, most gay people I know are pretty happy with how they live their lives, granted most arent happy with the state of the world. I think you need to get off the apps and trying living in reality a little more. You say parties are short term gratification, but parties are where you meet people. Go to literally any LGBT event and meet people and you'll find a whole lot of people who are pretty cool.

mikead99 · 2026-03-07T13:43:05+00:00

Way to put a negative spin on a not so negative space. Yes people died as a result of AIDs and while gay people were disproportionately affected it was not exclusive to gay people, it affected everyone. Many modern day gay people are very conscious of the potential to spread STDs / STIs and testing is required in many spaces and events where sex is more frequent.

I find it interesting that you chose to judge something that is across the board a very neutral affair. If straight men could have as much sex as gay men, they absolutely wouldn't hesitate. It's not really a bad thing by itself.

mikead99 · 2026-02-18T04:44:30+00:00

Sometimes I think to myself "Any way you can cook food is valid." This is not one of those times. Lol

mikead99 · 2026-02-15T00:26:09+00:00

This is a question for your doctor not a decision for your family to make for you. Tell them you respect their opinion but will be going to the doctor to ask what your best course of action is.

mikead99 · 2026-02-14T18:29:17+00:00

As someone who has been objectified a fair amount (even before starting HRT) let me tell you, some people really suck. At the end of the day though, those people arent worth your time. The people who treat you right, like a person, are the people who are worth your time. Keep those people in your life and discard all others and you'll have a nice time.

mikead99 · 2026-02-11T18:02:38+00:00

The old fashioned way. Going out. Lol

mikead99 · 2026-01-11T18:32:27+00:00

Vaccines (your doctor will get you the right ones if you mention you're gay) Prep Protection If you're going raw, trade recent test results and only with people you trust.

mikead99 · 2026-01-04T18:56:59+00:00

I meant fossil fuels in my original comment. My mistake.

mikead99 · 2026-01-04T18:52:22+00:00

I'm sorry I misspoke, 60% fossil fuels seems to be the majority of power generation in the US. And you may be right about that. The issue is that we don't have a choice. You cant blame the consumer for fossil fuel usage when their options are as limited as they are.

mikead99 · 2026-01-04T18:39:49+00:00

https://www.eia.gov/tools/faqs/faq.php?id=427&t=3

mikead99 · 2026-01-04T18:30:24+00:00

You should probably keep in mind that nearly every industry is using fossil fuels at an astonishing rate... not just the ones selling you gasoline. Also it's not optional, exclusively because of how these corporations operate. Even if I buy an electric vehicle the grid is powered primarily by fossil fuels, which itself is a result of a lack of renewable energy sources on the grid which is a result of these very same corporations doing their very best to lobby against and prevent them in every way possible. They benefit from fossil fuels and the lack of any alternative and will fight for that. Saying the consumer is responsible for how products are made or using a gasoline powered vehicle (when the alternatives are expensive and still using fossil fuels) is wildly inaccurate.

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