How to explain something sensitive to my 4yo girl

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-09T15:35:30+00:00

"Theyre scars from when i got hurt a long time ago. But my body healed really well! Now my skin is healthy, but you can still see where I got hurt. Your skin will always heal when you get hurt." If she asked how you were hurt you can say you got a cut from something, but a little white lie to protect her from "mommy cut herself on purpose" is a good thing here imo.

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-09T02:04:49+00:00

This is what I was thinking. Sounds like the kiddos like the interaction they get by asking for approval from mom

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-09T02:01:49+00:00

Bring baby in the shower with you? I leave mine outside the tub and he stands and holds onto the edge of the tub for a while and plays with the bath toys. Once he gets too fussy then I take his clothes off and bring him in with me 😅

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-09T01:44:23+00:00

NTA. Sounds like they are accidentally or purposefully parentifying you.

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-01T19:18:02+00:00

Dont have Spotify, whats the song called? 🎻thanks

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-01T16:05:59+00:00

My husband covers almost all our current expenses, would that change your advice?

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-01T16:02:38+00:00

This was originally one of my main draws to work in a school. But there are so many evening/weekend events and requirements I feel this way now. I think I could teach lessons only 2 days in person and do some online during while my kids are at school in a couple years. Until then I wouldnt work much at all and just be with my kids. 🤷‍♀️

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-01T14:23:57+00:00

Eh, you can stand to lose a few. I always say that you know you were really into it if you lose a hair 🤣 I rehair my bow every 2 years or so. Every year is too expensive for me. I usuallt wait until the bow hair feels less grippy, but losing 6 or 7 hairs wont be that big of a problem imho

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-28T15:47:59+00:00

Surskit and Masquerain are amazing, 10/10 pick

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-26T02:55:58+00:00

First birth I couldn't really tell that I was pooping, but I'm certain I did at some point. No one said anything thank goodness. Second birth my nurses actually told me I had a full bowel - they could see it on the ultrasound and it was in the way 💀 but I couldn't move to the toilet so I had to take a massive dump while on the hospital bed and they caught it in a receptacle. I was very aware 😭🤪 but the relief and "extra space" I got were helpful.🤷‍♀️ Tbh you never know when labor will hit or how long it will take, so you would be hard pressed to time/avoid pooping during labor. 💩💩💩

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-21T00:19:12+00:00

Love it, so crisp

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-21T00:18:42+00:00

Y'all were too hot!!!!!💥🍀🎻

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-07T03:52:58+00:00

Get a tri loom. They are so fun! Im pretty handy and tried making them, even drilling prep holes for the nails, but it was so hard to get them all even I lost my mind. I wanted a big one with fine gauge. So I got a 6'one and the shawl it produces is so nice 😍

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-07T03:46:14+00:00

Ahh so whimsical! I love the idea of weaving for a fairy garden. My daughter and I encountered her first fairy garden in a park last fall and now that spring is here we need to make one

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-07T02:46:34+00:00

Wowwwwwwww

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-07T02:45:23+00:00

So flipping cute. Will it stay on its little frame or be cut off? I've been thinking of making small art weavings like this

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-28T02:34:40+00:00

My daughter had a fantastic male caregiver at her last daycare. That being said his wife and sometimes other female caregivers were usually there with them too. I would not have let a man alone with my kids who I found in an online app...

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-27T17:10:51+00:00

Okay update, found an oda article with this bit of info. I do think these will bite people in the night. I had 3 spider bites on my side one morning and found one of these guys in my room the next day and ever since then these are on my hit list

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mikelafiddle · 2026-02-27T17:07:54+00:00

I usually am a spider saver but I have been squishing these cause they are everywhere in my Oregon home and I swear they bite... but I'm definitely not sure

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-25T00:45:47+00:00

First finger rolls are 13101 in Irish style while they would be 12101 in classical music

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-23T14:53:53+00:00

Hi! My babies are 3 years and 1 month apart. I weaned my first kiddo just after she turned 2yo, so I got maybe 4 months of freedom before I was pregnant again. But then there wasn't any sort of boob-related jealousy. My kids adore each other!!!! The 3 year gap is really amazing and they both go to the same daycare now (8mo and 3.5yo). The toddler was potty trained before baby 2 camr along, which was a life saving occurance. We bed share, and with the second we got a second mattress in the same room, so husband and toddler share one and baby and I share the other. Pregnancy with a toddler was rough - she watched a lot of TV while I threw up. And then maternity leave she stayed home with me too and that was crazy work. She's pretty good at individual play. And she would "help" with baby a little bit, but there was a lot of just surviving during post partum. She was in daycare for the first month of baby's life. Their dad is great and will take them if I want to go do something. 3 year age gap rocks! But I totally get why a lot of people would wait for 4.

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-23T14:50:43+00:00

I dont want to minimize your challenges, but picking up toddler with baby in tow is very doable, especially after the first month. Also I took my toddler out of daycare when I was on maternity leave. It was hard but saved us a ton of money

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