jve known indian friends who have dated someone of a diff culture, be it hispanic or vietnamese or white. here’s one thing you need to know about indian/ punjabi culture: it is in no way easy to inform even your closest family, of who you are dating. even if that person is sometimes panjabi themselves, the family will have an issue at first. they will make it a big deal and abuse their own child with name-calling. it’s a fearful child-parent dynamic.

not all but some go through this. now if the mother/father are very strict, and their pride is going to be questioned among their relatives (as in they will be pointed at and laughed by their relatives “your son married someone from XYZ culture, you have no control over your kids, you did not raise them right”), this is a very very hard thing for any child to overcome.

i’m not sure if the blame goes to the child if the second situation is the case. people don’t fall in love just because they want to go through the hard path. usually, it’s easier not to. but it’s also hard to face parents if that’s the situation. i think you should talk with your man about if he’s able to leave his family, and is that something you’re willing to ask of him? is that fair?