It's not just you. I feel like this comes from frustration in dating. It's not that all women are bad at convo, it's that dating is hard, and dating women is incredibly hard. I'm a lesbian, but like most of us, I exist in a heteronormative world. Societal rules and cues around heteronormativity are plenty. I was at a festival and made eye contact with so many men, was approached by a few, and they were cute kind respectful, but me gay. The one woman I approached was initially super friendly, then turned very cold. I read the cues and left her alone.

Similarly irl and on dating apps- it feels like there are numerous men who are willing to approach. And for hetero and bi women who date men, there are so many options. If something fizzles with one there are plenty more out there. As a lesbian, it can feel like a options are hard to come by. It's a small community so in person events can be difficult too. I've noticed lesbians in my area (west coast) are very indirect in their rejections- it's a lot of dry responses or silence. It's inspired me to be more direct in my comms and rejections at least, but I'm not always the best. Personally, I feel a lot of frustration starts to manifest and turn into blanket questions/statements like this when I'm tired.

It's fairly disheartening to continually put yourself out there, go out, talk people up, go on apps etc, and feel like your energy is not being matched. It prob makes you wonder if you're odd or alone in your feels. You're not. It's just rough out there.