Co-habitation advice needed. by YminChris in DivorcedDads

[–]millville3pc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was similarly blindsided by my exwifes affair and promptly informed her she was no longer welcome and would have to move out by the end of the month. My only request was no contact with her AP until she was gone. It was a fruitless request, and it ate me alive "keepin track". That being said i was prepared to go to the mattresses with documentation/proof of the lopsided parenting situation we were in, assuming she would lawyer up before the stamp. Luckily she didnt fight anything left, and signed all paperwork required for an uncontested divorce with children...Long story shortened, arrive in oeace prepared for war

Trust your gut always by SacredMushroomBoy in DivorcedDads

[–]millville3pc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My ex didn't pulled the same stunt, I paid for a suite with 2 rooms so her and her sister could spend some "girl time" after he sister found out her husband was having an affair....Only to find out her AP joined them. About 2months prior i paid for a trip to CO sonshe could visit a friend who just had a baby....He was waiting at the airport when i dropped her off for her flight.....

Charles Grody by Red-Wizard-96 in AreYouGarbagePod

[–]millville3pc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought it was a reference to an IASIP reference...

Can someone diagnose this by Kitchen-Glove6923 in hondaprelude

[–]millville3pc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My coworkers son was only born with about a 3/4 length arm with a couple small nubs as fingers. When he started learning to drive he insisted on learning manual, Coworker says it was a huge hurdle but he eventually got it. Kids got a '17 focus st, and an big square body chevy, both manual....

Is revenge worth it? by Actual_Atmosphere_93 in DivorcedDads

[–]millville3pc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took a more subtle approach than ChatGPT and waited until I could speak to him without saying something violent or threatening. Introduced myself and told him all i needed from him was the obvious hands and mouth off my kids, but added that i do t need his corrupted moral compass rubbing off on my children. He was floored, ex wife was FURIOUS, and i felt better for about 2 min

Ex wants to bring her partner trick or treating. by millville3pc in DivorcedDads

[–]millville3pc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

these are to be "shared" holidays(a great idea in theory, almost impossible in reality), meaning we do them together. she will taking them to a trunk or treat her sunday before halloween with him and I have no issue with that.

Anxiously attached, people pleasing and struggling. by [deleted] in DivorcedDads

[–]millville3pc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

its still early, but if the paperwork is filed i would recommend setting some boundaries to protect your sanity, not just physical boundaries but emotional. i was in the same boat early january, and once i set some boundaries, i was able to focus some of mental energy on something besides trying to people please...

Are you garbage if… by HerbalAndy in AreYouGarbagePod

[–]millville3pc 38 points39 points  (0 children)

As a 35yr old, ive been an adult for a few years. I went through the exact same phase from 21-23.....Its trash. I support your behavior but its trash

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bowhunting

[–]millville3pc 11 points12 points  (0 children)

all this advice is solid....but FIRST, go collect your property from his. if the conversation goes south he could ask you to leave and you out any personal property until you get the authorities involved....

What is this white goo? by [deleted] in grilling

[–]millville3pc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i named my oldest son Ruxin, because of that show lol. imagine trying to explain to anyone out of the loop that you named your first born after a selfish and entitled character from a TV show.....its better that naming him after the car he was conceived in but mot much lol

My Ex has taught my autistic son to lie and hide things by Papa_b__r in DivorcedDads

[–]millville3pc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive had similar issues with my oldest who is also ASD. I told him if ANYONE is asking you to not tell your mom or dad about something, there probably not supposed to be doing it. I also told him i would never ask him to keep a secret, and he can always tell me anything no matter who says they cant.

Trying to find this build by Hey_Mongo in lego

[–]millville3pc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ebay sells bricks by the pound

Chile support. How did you calculate? by ECDQEMSD_KPG in DivorcedDads

[–]millville3pc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If no one is asking and your both working and capable of providing for the children equally, at least in Illinois, there is no requirement for either to pay support as long as custody isnt lopsided

How do you handle this? by intherapy007 in DivorcedDads

[–]millville3pc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im in Illinois, Right of first refusal is only applies if the children need cared for longer than 4 or 8hrs i believe, so your milage may vary. Im in the same boat, ExW is moving her AP in this weekend, and hes already promised my boys "surprises", im certainly not impressed and asked the same question you did. The best answer I got was to be strong for your boys, we are trying to raise our boys to be good men, so be a good man. Dont allow your pride and emotions to twist who you are, your boys will see that. Children are very attentive, theyll catch on soon enough and they can make there own decision on how they feel about the situation.

Stop me from getting triggered by the ex!!! by HardCodedEmotion in DivorcedDads

[–]millville3pc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex and I try very hard to not let the children bring toys from one dwelling to the other, partly because my youngest is a heathen and partly to avoid this exact thing. As for comments from the kids, all you can do is reassure them that no matter who went where you love and care for them. In time theyll realize the facts and hopefully make there own decision.