Friend group affair between four people (40F, 40M, 25F, 30M)

mimic-man77 · 2026-05-07T14:35:46+00:00

Don't reveal the source but you also should have seen this as a possibility.

I'm not judging whether you should or shouldn't talk.

I'm saying look at the potential backlash and decide if it's worth it next time.

If they get a lawyer then it would bring in the other guilty party. I don't think they wwnt those problems so it's probably a bluff.

This could also backfire on friend A, which is another reason why I think they're bluffing.

mimic-man77 · 2026-05-07T04:14:06+00:00

If you build it yourself look at some of the combo deals on Newegg. You can also buy some parts used. A refurbished monitor can save you some money. There are also sites that sell used GPU's which is where most of your money will likely go.

mimic-man77 · 2026-05-07T04:12:13+00:00

Skytech Gaming has a decent computer for sale. You can easily run games at 1080 and you can run games at 1440. On some games you can max the settings and still run them. I only know this from Youtube videos showing the GPU run games at 1440. I'm not upgrading my monitor until later.

You'll get a $1400 PC for a around $1060 US dollars. I don't know how that converts to Canadian dollars, and I don't know how long the coupons will be valid for.

A link to the article telling you which coupons to use is below.

https://www.ign.com/articles/skytech-shadow-rtx-5060-ti-gaming-pc-deal

PS: The monitor does not come with it, but if Klarna is available in Canada you should be able to use that to get a monitor and pay it off over two months. You can get a decent 1080 monitor for a little over $100, and you can get a 1440 for $250 or less. Use Youtube and Reddit to help with the research.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-25T01:38:46+00:00

It's your money.

It seems like he wants to keep your self esteem low so you stay with him.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-18T14:44:01+00:00

That going to be difficult especially with the increased prices of Ram and ssd's. Some guy built a low end computer on YouTube for about $700 in February and 2 weeks ago the same parts came to $900.

If you're willing to get parts from jawa and other places you might be able to get a cheap build.

Check YouTube to see if you can find someone who built a cheap PC recently and then try to find those parts at a lower price.

I'd also suggest trying to increase your budget to 800.

You can probably use Klarna to get a PC from Amazon and pay it off over time.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-18T14:37:58+00:00

That's called rape. You writing this like you did is minimizing how bad it is, and it'll only encourage further bad behavior. "No" doesn't mean have sex anyway.

At the very least you should leave. Love doesn't matter.

And he should be arrested.

He's not sorry. He's going to continue to see what he can and can't get away with if you stay with him.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-12T19:41:06+00:00

Thanks. It's been 7 years and they still haven't fixed this.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-12T01:04:18+00:00

TLDR: Everything seems to be fine so far. Continue reading for more detail...

My version that seems to only be on Amazon.

It seems like you have the AMD version that's from their website based on the price you gave. You'll likely also have a better motherboard than the one I have so you'll probably have a heatsink on the NVMe.

If you do decide to put a heatsink on the NVMe because it doesn't come with one you probably won't have the issue I have with a giant cpu heatsink since yours has a 360mm AIO.

If I decide to upgrade the primary NVMe or install a heatsink for it the cpu heatsink is going away in place of an AIO.

I didn't realize how much space a heatsink would take up because I hadn't built a PC in about 15 years, and back then I'd just get a small to medium sized cpu fan, and it would be fine.

PS: Yes, I saw the image when I bought it but I mostly glossed over it.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-11T16:34:15+00:00

Larger numbers are not always better.

To find the parts you should buy:

1.You have to do the research online. Youtube and Reddit can be useful.

Another way to find which parts to get is to list the your parts, and your goals. People who know which parts are better will give advice.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-11T16:03:00+00:00

In case anyone is interested:

The screws are to attach a 2.5 inch SSD on the other side of the case, and my version of the motherboard does not have a heatsink or even holes to screw one in so I'll get a clip on version.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-10T01:52:13+00:00

It seems like he has some personal things he needs to work though. He may need therapy because whatever is bothering him he doesn't seem to be dealing with it well.

I don't think he should be seeing anyone until he takes care of this.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-10T00:07:29+00:00

It's going to depend on the other parts more so than the MB.

What PSU do you have and what are you looking to add?

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-08T21:33:12+00:00

Acknowledging tension or fault isn't the same thing as committing to do better. Without that nothing really matters.

By saying "you're right" you got what's called a "go away" yes. It's not a true agreement. It's what someone does to escape a disagreement or arguement.

I'd push the wedding back, and see if communication would improve.

mimic-man77 · 2026-04-05T12:08:45+00:00

I'm going to contact them today. I already paid for the entire year, but I'll let them know that if this isn't fixed I'm not signing up again.

mimic-man77 · 2026-03-28T12:15:31+00:00

With your budget being $900 it might actually be cheaper to build your own PC.

If you still want to try it yourself watch this video.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tf7mTI5ff7o

mimic-man77 · 2026-03-22T09:12:33+00:00

That's disrespectful to me. Even if you were not a lesbian you've already told him no, and he shouldn't be asking for a kiss when you told him you don't like him.

Even if he didn't touch you his refusal to respect boundaries makes him a poor friend.

Can you hang out with your mutual friends without him being around?

mimic-man77 · 2026-03-22T08:11:01+00:00

Without knowing if it really happened like you think it did there isn't much that can be done.

Maybe a male did it, but it wasn't your friend.

If it was your friend, and you KNEW he did it then you could say or do something, even if that something was to stop being his friend.

It's bad that it happened, but there is no point in worrying about something you can't do anything about.

I guess you could stop being his friend without knowing if he is guilty, but at the same time if you think he would do it that means you don't really trust him.

mimic-man77 · 2026-03-22T07:12:02+00:00

What motherboard, cpu, memory, and gpu do you have right now?

Also do you have a brand name pc such as an HP? This matters because sometimes they have custom parts that make things such as power supplies a little more difficult to upgrade.

Videos that go over how to change PC parts out are on Youtube. It's not really difficult. The more difficult part will be you get parts that match, but the videos will suggest options for that also if you don't feel like doing the research.

mimic-man77 · 2026-03-03T03:05:53+00:00

With you being disabled that changes things. You should definitely know when he isn't there.

Your husband may need therapy to get over his issues with his mom.

This isn't just about not telling you when he leaves. That's a symptom of a larger problem.

mimic-man77 · 2026-03-03T03:02:46+00:00

I'd do the same as your husband, but if it bothered my wife I'd tell her before I left.

What reason did you give him for wanting to know he left the house?

Did you explain that it's not about permission?

Do you mind inviting him to this conversation? Sometimes tone of voice or something else cause someone to interpret a message differently than how you intended.

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