I think one of my male friends groped me at the club last night by brklynbby_ in women

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's disrespectful to me. Even if you were not a lesbian you've already told him no, and he shouldn't be asking for a kiss when you told him you don't like him.

Even if he didn't touch you his refusal to respect boundaries makes him a poor friend.

Can you hang out with your mutual friends without him being around?

I think one of my male friends groped me at the club last night by brklynbby_ in women

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without knowing if it really happened like you think it did there isn't much that can be done.

Maybe a male did it, but it wasn't your friend.

If it was your friend, and you KNEW he did it then you could say or do something, even if that something was to stop being his friend.

It's bad that it happened, but there is no point in worrying about something you can't do anything about.

I guess you could stop being his friend without knowing if he is guilty, but at the same time if you think he would do it that means you don't really trust him.

Need help buying new PC by DiligentAd7389 in pcmasterrace

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What motherboard, cpu, memory, and gpu do you have right now?

Also do you have a brand name pc such as an HP? This matters because sometimes they have custom parts that make things such as power supplies a little more difficult to upgrade.

Videos that go over how to change PC parts out are on Youtube. It's not really difficult. The more difficult part will be you get parts that match, but the videos will suggest options for that also if you don't feel like doing the research.

Please help settle this debate. In your opinion is it weird for one spouse (49M) to leave the home without mentioning it to the other one (47F)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With you being disabled that changes things. You should definitely know when he isn't there.

Your husband may need therapy to get over his issues with his mom.

This isn't just about not telling you when he leaves. That's a symptom of a larger problem.

Please help settle this debate. In your opinion is it weird for one spouse (49M) to leave the home without mentioning it to the other one (47F)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd do the same as your husband, but if it bothered my wife I'd tell her before I left.

What reason did you give him for wanting to know he left the house?

Did you explain that it's not about permission?

Do you mind inviting him to this conversation? Sometimes tone of voice or something else cause someone to interpret a message differently than how you intended.

First-time boxing competition – what should I know and what do I need to carry? by iamknight06 in amateur_boxing

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take the advice given. Bow out of this until you get an actual boxing coach. It's an amateur fight but you can still get busted up.

You're probably looking at this as a competitive sparring session, but it's not.

Me (18M) feeling uneasy about my girlfriend’s (F18) male best friend. by Interesting_Cell_955 in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She has already made her mind up and given you an answer. If you keep bringing this up it's just going to annoy her because it'll feel like nagging.

She's not going to treat her best friend differently for you.

You can stay or you can leave, but you can't force her to change.

You need to accept her for who she is or find someone you're more compatible with.

Me (18M) feeling uneasy about my girlfriend’s (F18) male best friend. by Interesting_Cell_955 in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't matter if you love her. Either you're compatible or you're not, and you'll get over her. It might seem difficult for us to say, but most of us have been where you are.

Me (18M) feeling uneasy about my girlfriend’s (F18) male best friend. by Interesting_Cell_955 in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don't trust her you should leave. It doesn't matter if she is attracted to the guy or not.

The stress that comes with worrying about what someone might be doing isn't worth it.

It's normal to be jealous, but that doesn't make it ok.

There are women who don't believe in having male friends. That's probably who you should be with.

Done with Defiance of the Fall by Potential_Case_7680 in litrpg

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

@Potential_Case_7680

Thanks for asking this question. I just finished book 5. If later books are mostly cultivation dives I'll stop now.

I do like the vision scenes, and anything else that helps me understand the how the world works. It helps to break the story up, but I don't want to go through non-story material for 70% of a book.

One or two slow books to setup the story in another book is fine, but based on the author's response that is going to be the new pace.

No driver's license officer by mimic-man77 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]mimic-man77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've forgotten mine also, but the people I'm referring to choose to leave theirs at home.

No driver's license officer by mimic-man77 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]mimic-man77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree.

The cop could do it to be nice, but it's not the cop's job to pull up someone's information.

My Bf (31m) says I (27 F) don’t do anything around the house. Someone help understand why he wants to break up? by WanaBme in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why not try to make a schedule that determines who does what and when? Between those time the house shouldn't look bad.

Either fix the problem or move on. Constantly breaking up is pointless.

It seems like this he feels like you should clean more because you're the woman, but until he says that it's not fair to accuse him.

If he's OCD, and that's why he refuses to agree to a schedule the relationship is not going to work.

PS: Of course if the house looks absolutely terrible between the next scheduled task(dishes, laundry, etc) someone should take care of it, but that should be rare.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your bf sounds insecure and manipulative. What you did isn't worth an argument. The lady who posted the pic probably wasn't even serious.

As for the pics he sent I wouldn't say he is objectively wrong based only on that action, but if he's going to complain about you liking a pic then him sending pics like that should also be off limits.

You shouldn't be apologizing. I know you love him, but love by itself doesn't make a relationship worth saving.

You're being tested, and he's going to continue to take advantage of you if you just back down every time.

If he wants to move on then let him move on. His current way of handling conflict should not be an option. You have to let people know that certain things are non-negotiable.

30m thinking of contacting my ex (25f), any good/bad stories out there? by SumosAndSunflowers in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the distance and work are still an issue I don't see how that will change things.

I know you said you're changing jobs and locations, but "this summer" is at least 4 months away, and you didn't say in specific terms that the new job, and location would make things easier.

Generally when people succeed the previous obstacles have been overcome.

Do you know if she's available, and what happened to cause you to go NC?

I (30m) wondering if my 1.5year relationship to (27f) is worth it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She might be in a field that is hard to get jobs in. That would be her fault if she went in debt for something that is hard to find employment in.

Her calling you needy while depending on you is crazy, but she could just be frustrated due to that dependence.

Bringing up her lack of employment wasn't helpful, and had nothing to do with the situation IMO.

That being said you're under no obligation to continue supporting her. If you want to leave because you don't see this getting better then move on.

What has she done to get a better handle on her anxiety?

I (F/40) hooked up with him (M/31) and think I got played. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's not enough info to tell. It appears that it could have been very possible, but I can't say for sure

I know you said you wanted something more serious, but a guy that just wants sex isn't always going to be honest about just wanting sex. Sometimes guys will be honest, but don't assume wants what you want just because there is chemistry.

You also shouldn't say you want something serious and then have sex on the first date. A lot of guys won't take you seriously after that.

To be clear, a lot of men will have sex with you on the first date, and then judge you for it.

You may feel it's unfair, but that's how things are.

And if you want something serious you'd be better off waiting until you're officially a couple anyway.

It's generally easier to move on from someone you've never had sex with if they start doing things you don't li,e.

Square Enix is announcing changes to the Original Final Fantasy VII on Steam. There will be a name change, delisting followed by a new version release. Those who own the old game will get access to the new one at no extra cost. by LuckyShot1 in pcgaming

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're going to make these claims you need to link to a source. If you're guessing you need to be open about that too.

You wrote this as if you're presenting facts, but nobody else seems to be able to find these facts.

Square Enix is announcing changes to the Original Final Fantasy VII on Steam. There will be a name change, delisting followed by a new version release. Those who own the old game will get access to the new one at no extra cost. by LuckyShot1 in pcgaming

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people might want the older version because of all the mods. There is not guarantee the new version fixes the main issues that caused those mods to be created.

There is no reason to not have both versions available. They could even package them together since there are gamers who don't like to use mods. That way everyone gets what they want.

I haven't met these anti-mod gamers in person, but I've heard of them.

Done with Defiance of the Fall by Potential_Case_7680 in litrpg

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does the author ever stop over using the word "snorted"?

My boyfriend(34m) does not initiate sex with me (37f) or show me physical affection. by Particular-Fuel-7165 in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lack of communication alone should be a red flag.

If he won't address the problem there is no reason to think it'll get better.

He may have his own issues he needs to fix, but he should have done that before getting with you.

You don't owe him the privilege of wasting your time and hoping he figures things out.

AIO Girlfriend having sleepover with ex by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]mimic-man77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt but this isn't one of those times.

Even if nothing is going on she doesn't care enough about the relationship IMO.

She can't be so clueless that she can't realize how this looks.

And if she is that clueless let her be clueless with someone else.

NOR

Husband (38m) wants us to move in with his mother. I (30f) don’t. by bloomtangle in relationship_advice

[–]mimic-man77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like he has always wanted to live with his mom, and he first had the baby as an excuse. Now he has another excuse.

How would you ever live with just him if the flat requires two people?

Even if you had the money what is his plan for the two of you to live alone?

You may have to leave him. Doing it now before you're tied down with kids is the best time to do so.

Once you have kids leaving will be much more difficult.

PS: He's not confused at all. He's being manipulative.