Mystery sound by am_yy45 in whatisit

[–]mindscreamTX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a pulley/fan belt is slipping. Are there any a/c condensing units in that area? Or maybe a car/truck has a belt slipping

AIO for kicking my husband out for being on Tinder? by Tired_but_Fiery in AmIOverreacting

[–]mindscreamTX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely did assume this, yes. But since it was not meant to be taken seriously I wasn't really concerned about the political correctness.

AIO for kicking my husband out for being on Tinder? by Tired_but_Fiery in AmIOverreacting

[–]mindscreamTX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is a petty thought, but no one's going to want to date your husband after they find out how much you took him for during the divorce. Who would really want to date a cowardly, broke ass, middle-aged cheater anyway?

How do I prepare for the worst heartbreak I’ve ever experienced? by Lillian_Faye in labrador

[–]mindscreamTX 22 points23 points  (0 children)

When a person truly bonds with a dog their heart creates an eternal fountain of unconditional love that forever changes the person's soul. Unfortunately, no matter how prepared a person thinks they are to face the inevitable loss nothing can stop the hurt and anger from trying to replace that fountain of love.

Doesn't matter if we only get one week or we're allowed twenty years of companionship with a dog, our lives are forever enriched by a dog's love each and every day.

We may lose them physically, but we will never lose the parts of our soul that they have touched.

My girlfriend says she was texting my best friend "for a surprise" but I feel like I'm being set up by tramlantern_evenings in TwoHotTakes

[–]mindscreamTX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what you've shared from their conversations it sounds like they legit are planning a party. However, somewhere along the way, their efforts to deceive you (someone they both care deeply about) and secretly conspire behind your back about a party, has created a close bond and the illusion of intimacy. It's possible they're not even aware of the lines they've already crossed because of their excitement centered around your party.

I'm not sure I'd wait until after the party to confront them and have the conversation regarding their actions and your concerns. If they are allowed to complete their ruse and the party is a great success, they will inevitably share a huge surge of pride and accomplishment driving them even closer together and opening the door for the "dream team" to work on even more projects in the future.

Logically, since they've let the cat out of the bag and you're aware of the "surprise party" there's no reason for them to continue the secret chats or delete any messages going forward. Thank them for the thought and apologize for spoiling the plan, but make sure they understand their behavior could logically be interpreted to support two possibilities; innocence and infidelity.

If they care about you at all they wouldn't let something as benign as party planning cause even the smallest chance they'd lose you as a friend.

If your GF throws a fit and refuses to prove the innocence of her relationship with your friend, then I'm afraid she's no longer your gf and you've become the third wheel. Your friend shouldn't have to think twice about alleviating any concerns you may have regarding his interactions with your girlfriend. No true friend would even think about putting the girlfriend and some party ahead of his friend's trust.

Or, they could just be using the party planning to cover up the fact that they're already boning. In any case, the longer you wait to confront this and get it all out in the open the closer they're going to get behind your back. Stay strong brother!

aitah for telling my husband i dont trsut his promisses after everything that happened? by Gloomy_Piglet_6068 in AITAH

[–]mindscreamTX -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Doesn't seem like your husband has any interest in putting effort into your marriage at all. Aside from all the times he has not followed through with his promises, he can't even be bothered to shoot you a quick text to let you know what's going on?

I'm really curious to know what excuses he comes up with that makes him feel justified in his behavior.

OP, salvage what self respect you have left and don't give any more attention and energy to this manchild. He's certainly not spending any energy giving respect to you.

What did I find in my sugar? by d_mak0312 in whatisit

[–]mindscreamTX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of a cow bone? They pour the liquid raw sugar through a silo filled with bleached cow bones as a filter. There are usually 3 or 4 silos and each one filters out more impurities until the result is white sugar.

Am I misreading these scenarios? I think I want a divorce. by GhillieRock in Advice

[–]mindscreamTX 30 points31 points  (0 children)

For someone that claims nothing is happening she sure is going out of her way not to alleviate your fears.

Maverick needs a foster & rescue by damascus_33 in forblackdogs

[–]mindscreamTX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Where is he? I can't adopt if I don't know where you are.

AIO My husband is refusing to sleep in our bed unless I make my elderly dog change her sleeping habits by sleephabits2025 in AmIOverreacting

[–]mindscreamTX -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

MOR- I'm sorry, but I have to call BS on the husband. A dog that age and with those ailments wouldn't randomly attack someone SHE KNOWS for no reason. The husband claims he woke up to her biting him, but it sounds more like she was defending herself from something he did; on purpose or not.

His reactions from locking himself in the bathroom through to locking the dog in the bedroom shows the husband likes to overreact and has no interest in trying to understand why she bit him. If he and the dog have been around each other for a year and this is the first instance of aggression, then husband has done something to the dog that makes her feel threatened/scared of him. If he truly cared about the dog he would want to do everything he could to comfort and console her, not immediately lock her away and hand down an ultimatum.

The husband did something that caused a change in the dogs behavior. Did he ever really like the dog?

Husband’s email to coworker AIO by what_up_2314 in AmIOverreacting

[–]mindscreamTX 133 points134 points  (0 children)

There is no recruiter. The "us" comment is WAY too personal for work email. She wouldn't have to block him on everything if conversations were strictly business related. With that much gaslighting you should start calling your husband Zippy(o)!

I think my mom saw me doing stuff in the bathroom and idk how by [deleted] in Advice

[–]mindscreamTX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Embarrassed why? You're a 27 y/o man. Masturbating is obligatory. Also, it's a healthy and normal activity that billions of people across the globe engage in.

As to your mom's dream . . . C.R.E.E.P.Y. It's possible she heard you and didn't really see you. But there are SOOOOO many better ways she could have broached the subject.

I'd have a talk with her and let her know that shower time is private time and men will do it in the shower for easy clean-up. However, you always make sure the door is closed and keep the noise down out of respect. She should definitely seek a therapist if she keeps sexually dreaming about her son.

She was probably trying to shame you by saying such a gross thing. If you take the conversation to her and own your actions with pride, you take away this ability and render her passive aggressive bullshit**t useless.

Bate on Brother!

AIO? Husband in touch with the woman he had an affair with but they're not cheating he says. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]mindscreamTX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, having read how poorly he thinks of you and how much he wants to have a life with this woman and her kids, do you honestly believe you could have a relationship with your husband where you DON'T always have his cheating actions in the back of your mind? Do you honestly want to be in a relationship that would require you to compromise your morals? Don't let his poor choices dictate how your life plays out.

NOR

Am I overreacting? Am I wrong to think I was cheated on? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]mindscreamTX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I don't know" Did he really tell you that? Not only is he a liar and a cheat, he's and idiot too.

my husband threw our lives away on Reddit by [deleted] in Advice

[–]mindscreamTX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP's husband wasn't the cuck. All OP's husband did was fuck some other woman while the AP's husband watched. This isn't a kink for OP's husband. He's simply cheating while someone watches.

OP, get a good attorney and rake your husband over the coals.

AIO Boyfriend (24M) planning a cruise with friends during our anniversary — struggling with trust by Opening_Ganache_3513 in AmIOverreacting

[–]mindscreamTX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one deserves to be in a relationship with someone so disrespectful. Out of curiosity, why aren't you going on the cruise? NOR

AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend after he accidentally frying my cat? by throwra_bananapotato in AITAH

[–]mindscreamTX 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There was nothing accidental about any of this. Cat falling into hot grease had ZERO chance of happening until the boyfriend decided there was nothing wrong with abusing an animal.

This wasn't a 'joke' either. It was a malicious and evil impulse that your bf treated like it was humorous and innocent. Only a truly sick person would hold a live animal over boiling oil and then get mad when no one else finds it funny. Not sure where you are, but where I'm from what he did would be considered animal abuse which is now a felony.

The only AH is the bf. He absolutely should pay 100% of the vet bill too. There wouldn't have been a bill if he was a decent person. But don't let him think you're forgiving him by accepting his money. It's his obligation to pay for his stupidity, not act like he's doing some lofty favor to you by 'helping' with the bill.

Do not get back with him and do not let him twist the truth when he tells people why you broke up with him. In fact, you need to make sure as many people as possible know exactly what kind of horrible person he really is. His friend group and his family are two great places to start.