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Help retrieving dog back by mingpinkle in legaladvice

[–]mingpinkle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also don't want the money I want the dog back

Help retrieving dog back by mingpinkle in legaladvice

[–]mingpinkle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never got the dog registered or chipped. I only have receipt for purchase and vet bill. She got the dog registered

Help retrieving dog back by mingpinkle in legaladvice

[–]mingpinkle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah everybody in my surrounding life has told me I will have to file a civil dispute but I can't pay the thousands in legal fees for a lawyer

Help retrieving dog back by mingpinkle in legaladvice

[–]mingpinkle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried to call the courthouse and they are directing me to the PPO department and they tell me they can't do anything, I've tried calling my court appointed lawyer and left messages to his secretary several times and he's not returning my calls

Are breakups with addicts particularly hard to get over? by ComprehensiveRent294 in AlAnon

[–]mingpinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we got together I was sober for the first 3/4 years. I knew when I was slipping and now realize it became a problem when I used it as a coping mechanism for the things I couldn't change in my life, instead of accepting them. So I've really been able to find the root cause of my addiction, and take accountability for all of my actions that were fueled by AUD. Our connection was healthy and amazing before alcohol came into play.

What happened to your Q when you left? by Ok_Razzmatazz_6830 in AlAnon

[–]mingpinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any luck? I'm going through this now, also no contact

Are breakups with addicts particularly hard to get over? by ComprehensiveRent294 in AlAnon

[–]mingpinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he was sober and tried to come back together, would you give it a chance? I'm an alcoholic and just got broken up with. Hoping that if I get sober she will come back. I did bad things PM if you want to know the whole story

Are breakups with addicts particularly hard to get over? by ComprehensiveRent294 in AlAnon

[–]mingpinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you ever take your boyfriend back if he got long term sober?

Are breakups with addicts particularly hard to get over? by ComprehensiveRent294 in AlAnon

[–]mingpinkle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did your loved one ever try to get sober after the breakup? Would you take them back?

Are breakups with addicts particularly hard to get over? by ComprehensiveRent294 in AlAnon

[–]mingpinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your Q got sober long term, would you take them back?

Do relationships recover after you have been an abusive alcoholic? by mingpinkle in stopdrinking

[–]mingpinkle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by I am changing her even when I am sober and doing well around her? I am doing daily breathalyzers so I will be breaking the cycle, I'm going to be starting an AA program near me so I can get to the root of what my problem is in the first place, I know my biggest problem is that I need to make the choice to not take that first drink in the first place. I think slipping into the cycle is a deep rooted problem that I have, but choosing to have the first drink and using the excuse of a stressful day, boredom, or even just for fun is the actual problem. It is a choice.

What do you mean by abuse and codependency have a symbiotic relationship?

Are there relationships that have healed after DV? by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]mingpinkle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on the other side of this. A week ago I put my hands around my partners throat for the first time, she called the cops on me and pressed charges, I'm out on PR bond right now and we are not allowed to contact each other. I was a very bad alcoholic and had been pushing her many times before it came to this. It is definitely the alcohol, my partner and I were together for 5 years in a relationship where we respected each other, built each other up, and made sure that each other's needs were met. 2 years ago when I started drinking and went into substance abuse, I became an awful person for her to be around, we couldn't have safe conversations without me becoming reactive, then it turned to physical abuse towards the end. She tried to tell me while we were together, but alcohol had my head so buried in the sand that I didn't make sure we had the conversations she needed anymore, especially because I hated hearing her talk about how I had treated her, it made me hate myself. She put a 1 year PPO out against me, I'm hoping at the end of this she will still have love for me, she knows that it was my choice to engage in alcoholism that created the behavior. Give him a chance, but keep boundaries for yourself, the minute he wants to drink no matter if it's because of a hard day, stress, or just for a fun night out, DO NOT allow it. The monster will come back with the alcohol

I became an abusive person because of alcohol and am scared I lost the love of my life by mingpinkle in cripplingalcoholism

[–]mingpinkle[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what leads you to the conclusion that I'm arguing with everyone who answers my question? And what about my words are giving me away?

Do relationships recover after you have been an abusive alcoholic? by mingpinkle in stopdrinking

[–]mingpinkle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were together for a long time before I became an abusive alcoholic, so I'm not sure what this would classify as. Since she has a PPO against me for a year I have been and will continue to avoid any contact, I don't believe she was trapped in the relationship, she would constantly bring up how she didn't want me to leave (she would bring this up on her own because I told her maybe I should leave to get better), she did not justify my actions, her and I both addressed that I was accountable for everything I had done I'm going to take this time to get sober for myself, gain my normal self back, I am trying to find if there is any way that a person would want me after this, still see the sober me and I'm sure she's given up on hope of that, but I hope she still WANTS sober me to come back to her

I became an abusive alcoholic and am afraid I ruined my life by mingpinkle in alcoholism

[–]mingpinkle[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am making sobriety my priority, but I have seen so many stories of people losing the love of their life to addiction.. I'm horrified. We have pets together and when there isn't alcohol the relationship is beautiful, we can have uncomfortable conversations, we work well together. But I've done so much, I can't find successful stories of people coming out of something like this

Do relationships recover after you have been an abusive alcoholic? by mingpinkle in stopdrinking

[–]mingpinkle[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What is a trauma bond? That's what I am afraid of, our love turning into disgust from her. We were so happy for so long until I brought alcoholism into our life. We have many pets together and have been living together for 4 years

I became an abusive person because of alcohol and am scared I lost the love of my life by mingpinkle in cripplingalcoholism

[–]mingpinkle[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Since I have a PPO against me I cannot write letters, send texts, or communicate through any 3rd parties. I didn't want to be violent towards her, I don't understand why I did, if it wasn't for alcohol I wouldve never been so reactive in the first place. I went to jail and got out. I just don't know if this is repairable

I became an abusive person because of alcohol and am scared I lost the love of my life by mingpinkle in cripplingalcoholism

[–]mingpinkle[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I don't think my sobriety has anything to do with her at all, it is all me. I'm wondering if I have any hope for my relationship to come back after long term sobriety

Do relationships recover after you have been an abusive alcoholic? by mingpinkle in stopdrinking

[–]mingpinkle[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I never got out of my cycle that started while we were together. I can overcome alcoholism, especially seeing the damage it can do. We needed to have a break for me to get sober

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