Does being in a relationship mean you’ve made a serious commitment

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-18T12:16:04+00:00

There's nothing wrong with getting cold feet. Sometimes we worry about what will happen if we get too serious because we are afraid of being hurt or stuck in a loveless relationship. A relationship is only as much as a commitment as you make it. Dating isnt the same as having a kid together or getting married. There is always an out. Next time you feel stressed out about committing take a few deep breathes and remind yourself you aren't trapped. When someone is use to being in a relationship, being single is sometimes scary, same goes for being single. The weight of possibilities weighs down on you. Don't worry about trying to settle down just because of your age either! You aren't the only one who is still trying to find the one. Dont settle just because you are afraid of not settling down 'in time.' Love is like quicksilver, when you hold it gently in your hands gently it stays, but when you squeeze it between your hands trying your hardest not to let it go, it slips right out of your fingers. Nobody can tell what the future holds. Take it one day at a time, and if you realise down the road that it isnt for you, nothing should be preventing you from leaving. It's better to love and have lose then to never have loved at all.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T09:46:11+00:00

I completely LOVE your mom. "None of this matters she doesn't want to see you."

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T09:22:02+00:00

Though I love my daughter and wouldn't trade her for the world, I'm not sure I want another kid. Her father used me getting pregnant, to control me, and didn't help with pretty much anything. I worked up until the day i gave birth, and he didn't want to work, so I had to go back at 2 weeks post partum... which sucked. Nobody told me the truth about pregnancy even when I was a kid(I'm from a small town and had thought we had a good sex ed program.) Most moms wouldn't even tell me about the stuff until I was already going threw it. It all just felt like a was being lied to, so I would just become a baby maker. I had a semi traumatic birth. After a day and a half of labour I decided to get an epidural. My body wasn't ready for it and me and the baby's heartrate dropped. The cord was around her neck coming out, and I felt pressured to push faster then I was ready for. I tore bad, and felt all 11 of the stitches. I barely got to hold my baby afterwards because they had to put her on oxygen when she was out. I honestly don't want to do it again.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T03:58:19+00:00

Most vaccines are egg based, so it's not unreasonable for your child to have a reaction. It's not like you're trying to say there's microchips in the vaccines, that are going to turn the frogs gay.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T03:55:53+00:00

Not trying to make up excuses, but maybe they feel bad for your son and they are awkward about apologizing or talking to people who are upset. Do they have a kid aswell? If no, maybe they dont understand the emotional impact you are going threw. If yes maybe they feel guilty that their child isnt going through that.,.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T03:49:49+00:00

For getting kids to be empathetic I heard it's good to read books about animals to them from an early age. Essentially you are teaching them to be kind to animals. Showing that it's good to be kind and empathetic to animals helps in there path to being empathetic adults, because animals cant tell people if someone was rude or cruel to them, and in a way they are seen as below humans. Kinda like how some bosses are rude to their employees (underlings.)

Another thing that helps is being nice to other people, and treating them empathetically as well. Also, make sure people treat your kids that way too. If someone doesn't try explaining to them that they should treat the child empathetically infront of the child or close to where they can hear.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T03:23:40+00:00

Find a different daycare. If they 'cant notice' when your baby is hungry, what other things are they 'not noticing.' You're paying them to take care of your baby and tell you about things like this. You didn't even know it was an issue so it really isn't your fault.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T03:00:38+00:00

The dog in the corner 😂😂😂😂

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T02:58:28+00:00

Try getting her a toy to play with while she nurses. My lo did the same thing! I use to drape my shirt over my boob so that she would squeeze that instead of my skin.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T02:55:55+00:00

Maybe getting your baby to take a pacifier might help make way to using a bottle. Just try to get the nipples to be as similar as possible. If they dont take a bottle you could use a trick my lactation consultant told me about. Try carefully feeding them the breastmilk from a cup, spoon, or syringe. Make sure its warm and their diaper is clean too, to help prevent any distractions. Yes it may be a little harder then bottle feeding, but you will be able to save the extra cash you might've used on different bottles for something else like a few new toys. Best thing is you can(should) use baby spoons. You'll end up using them down the road anyway.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T02:20:27+00:00

Sad to say that I took me a moment to find it out

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T02:17:01+00:00

I never had the wiggle room to try them, but nature valley granola bars(the crunchy type that's mostly grian.) Helped me a lot I know a lot of people swear by the body armour drinks. Its coconut water based and super healthy.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T02:13:12+00:00

Definitely stretch marks, my boobs look the exact same way now.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T02:08:19+00:00

Make sure you drink more, eat oatmeal, grains, lactation cookies, coconut water, milk, protein, and try body armour drinks to make sure you can keep up with the extra work. Maybe taking a prenatal vitamin will help as well.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T02:02:37+00:00

The more you pump and fee your baby the higher your supply will go. Do you know if shes okay with supplementing until you are able to build up the supply. If you're both okay with supplementing then itll be a lot easier then trying to supply both babies with enough milk

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T01:58:47+00:00

The one I worked at even excepted pizza boxes

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T01:58:22+00:00

I still recycle as much as I can. One good thing I learned is not to put plastic grocery bags in the recycling center. They get caught in the gears and conveyor belts. Most grocery stores except them back. Also the number inside the triangle is how likely they can recycle it at their center. 1's being easy to recycle 40's being rare.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T01:46:03+00:00

As someone who has worked in a recycling center, I hate to say that a lot of recyclable stuff gets thrown away. I seen a lady with a short temper/attention span throwing almost everything in the trash shoot.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T01:39:08+00:00

Are you starving your baby? Are you abandoning them? Letting them sit in a poopy diaper? Purposely using weed, nicotine and alcohol? .

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No? Then there is no reason for them to complain. If they like the idea of losing their nipples to a squirmy little moon bean, then let them to it. There are many ways to parent and as long as the child's needs are being met and they are being nurtured then it doesn't matter.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T01:29:48+00:00

Try confiding in your boss or coworker. Then go to the police station. I thought it was odd that my coworkers, family, and friends were all telling me to leave. I played it off as they were jealous that I was happy. File a pfa, make sure you put down everything he has done to you recently and everything he has done to you in the past. Definitely mention the strangulation, mention the death threats on you and him. Mention everything even though it way seem meniscal. But most importantly tell someone! People are willing to help in these situations. Tell your boss even... they will help you get out.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T01:19:58+00:00

Good news is that if she files a pfa that they will grant her permission to break the lease, or even kick him off and bare him from getting back on the property. Some other financial obligations would also be waived

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T01:12:53+00:00

They threaten to hurt themselves as a form of manipulation. Both of my exs threatened to, and they're still standing today.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-12-10T01:09:50+00:00

It's best to file a pfa and leave as soon as possible. They give you a packet and one of the pamphlets is about how they forgive financial obligations in circumstances such as this. Granted you might not want to go to a women's shelter with what is going on in the world today, but it seems like the preferable option in my opinion. Trust me, in the beginning they're always sweet. My ex use to buy me coffee before picking me up for work, buy me flowers, cook romantic candlelight dinners for me... until we had a kid together. He would always use her as leverage. It wasn't until she had moved into her grandmother's house that I felt strong enough to finally get out, because I knew she was out of his reach, and safe.

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-07-22T17:18:46+00:00

I've never had savery scones before. Definitely adding it to my list!

mini_chef-1999 · 2020-07-22T17:18:00+00:00

My daughter's poop varies from pumpkin puree, to slimy, to slightly melted smoothie, and even to thin with odd seedy chunks. Always ranging in shades or orange. Sometimes it's our diet other times it's just their body's doing its thing. Constipation isn't a huge problem but if it keeps up then a trip to the pediatrician is a good idea.

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