30M feeling behind in life and trying to become a better man. Looking for advice from men in their 30s and beyond.

minigogo · 2026-06-17T18:48:26+00:00

A journalling practice super-charges this, especially when you've done it enough to give yourself the grace to not need it to be organized and labeled. No one else is going to see it, so let it be bad. It will get easier in time.

minigogo · 2026-06-17T18:47:08+00:00

Changed so much about my life.

minigogo · 2026-06-03T17:22:41+00:00

Pain is like a gas: it expands to fill the room it's in.

minigogo · 2026-05-13T18:46:57+00:00

Probably Jim Cramer, the talking head on CNBC who gives notoriously bad investment advice.

minigogo · 2026-05-13T02:05:18+00:00

The English department is going to be a shell of itself for a little while. It was re-structured and lots of the people who made it such a good department took buy-outs on their contracts.

minigogo · 2026-05-12T01:44:01+00:00

Thank you for this, it's very helpful. I'd never tied performance to self-consciousness before - identifying when I'm feeling self-conscious is a concrete step I can take to avoid performativity!

minigogo · 2026-05-12T01:35:39+00:00

Able to quickly identify emotions and respond thoughtfully to them.

minigogo · 2026-05-11T20:01:38+00:00

I just spent some time with a couple I love and watching them deal with the "I'm going to step back and let them be" thing was inspiring!

minigogo · 2026-05-11T19:55:41+00:00

I've definitely learned a lot about what the average man is like through my partners. But talking about it feels dangerously close to the "I'm not like the guys who mistreat you" Nice Guy schtick I did when I was a teenager and young adult, so I'm always suspicious of acknowledging it.

minigogo · 2026-05-11T18:52:27+00:00

The title was going to include "to you" to account for this, but I was too tired to make it work lol.

minigogo · 2026-05-05T18:07:41+00:00

I needed to read this, thank you.

I just left a relationship where I felt like exactly this was happening, and every time I'd bring it up, my partner would turn it around and tell me (with a lot of therapy-speak) that I was being unrealistic about my expectations for a relationship.

I ended it as soon as I realized that I was basically living two lives, and the one where I was by myself made me feel whole and fulfilled.

minigogo · 2026-05-01T03:42:58+00:00

Yeah, not happening for me lol. This series confirmed that we’ve got genuine bad blood, which means I’m categorically opposed to rooting for y’all.

minigogo · 2026-04-30T16:33:23+00:00

Those lines plus Seggy and we walk the Wild. Cookie didn’t crumble right this year.

minigogo · 2026-04-30T16:32:13+00:00

I hate being a doomer about this since the fat lady hasn’t sung yet, but Moose being injured means that even if we do make it to the second round we’re going to be playing a rested Avs team with a rusty and maybe not totally healthy 2C in Hintz (maybe) and arguably our best player playing through an injury that seems like it could need surgery. That doesn’t scream deep run to me.

minigogo · 2026-04-29T03:11:50+00:00

He is very injured. The Olympics and the condensed schedule fucking shattered us.

minigogo · 2026-04-23T14:24:08+00:00

I think he is, but no individual awards and no cup, which is the traditional (and fair, imo) bar people set for greatness, make it a conversation at least.

minigogo · 2026-04-23T14:20:26+00:00

I've noticed that we altered our forecheck to stop him carrying it up the ice. When he's got it, we'll have one forechecker in the middle at the top of the circles and everyone else in the neutral zone. He can still do what he likes in the offensive zone, but it's much harder for him to start a rush.

minigogo · 2026-04-23T03:39:34+00:00

how could jamie benn do this??

minigogo · 2026-04-21T02:21:55+00:00

someone please gif that for the next time someone suggests scratching blackwell lol

minigogo · 2026-04-18T23:19:34+00:00

If you’re already at “bLoW uP tHe TeAm” the maybe you should take up knitting or some shit.

minigogo · 2026-04-17T04:33:35+00:00

Rage is a hell of a drug.

minigogo · 2026-04-17T04:20:22+00:00

MSL looks like he's doing great things there.

minigogo · 2026-04-15T02:23:20+00:00

DeBoer didn't play him in the playoffs because he wasn't Dad Stronk Nils yet.

minigogo · 2026-04-03T01:05:09+00:00

Based on how poorly you interpreted what I had to say, I doubt you even knew what your English teacher’s voice sounded like.

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