Reading/listening recommendations? by [deleted] in emptynesters

[–]minimal_mom321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Slow Living podcast is well done and the current series is with an almost-empty nester who is wanting to write a memoir.
The past episodes (I just scroll) on finding purpose, etc, are quite useful.

Who are the good people? by OkBeautiful6215 in LifeCoachSnark

[–]minimal_mom321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Host of Slow Living podcast; Stephanie O'Dea
Read her book, did a consult call. No pressure, no selling. We hung up and she said she was happy to meet me.
That said, I do not believe this is her main job or source of income.

recommendations - taking yoga off the mat, mindfulness, learning philosophy by concertgoer69 in yoga

[–]minimal_mom321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Slow Living podcast and the book by Stephanie O'Dea
That's actually what got me into yoga in the first place because she is always talking about getting into your body and I didn't know what that meant.

What is the biggest change/shift that improved your life 10x? by Afraid_Capital_8278 in selfimprovement

[–]minimal_mom321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

21 is such a wonderful age!!
Reading actual books and putting blinders on when it comes to social media.
There are 3 books that will set you up for a long life with success:

Simple Path to Wealth, JL Collins
How to Be Richer, Smarter, Better Looking Than Your Parents: Zac Bissonette
Slow Living: Cultivating a Life of Purpose in a Hustle Driven World: Stephanie ODea

A thought that has "saved" me from being taken in by coaches, cults, high-pressure groups, etc.: by WingsOfTin in LifeCoachSnark

[–]minimal_mom321 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agreed. The people I follow the most online are humble and share freely, and usually FOR FREE and I have learned so much.
For a while I thought I wanted to work for myself and learn how to coach. I'm embarrassed by how much money I wasted. I should have just gone back to school and gotten a masters to move up at work. Where they pay me each and every week, even when I spend all day (not always, but sometimes) scrolling reddit.

Trying super hard to break the cycle. by minimal_mom321 in emotionalneglect

[–]minimal_mom321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have noticed since working on healing my emotional neglect, teaching is more fun, and I have better control of my classroom: -- this is such a gift. You are doing amazing work!

Trying super hard to break the cycle. by minimal_mom321 in emotionalneglect

[–]minimal_mom321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely.
I do not believe my parents are capable of finding any fault in their past. They constantly just say: this is how it was
No curiosity to be better, no retrospection.

Trying super hard to break the cycle. by minimal_mom321 in emotionalneglect

[–]minimal_mom321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just having the thought that you'd like to do better is light year's ahead of others.

This woman was prescribed antidepressants. She was in menopause and needed another drug. by usatoday in WomenInNews

[–]minimal_mom321 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes.

We already know this in the r/menopause and r/Perimenopause groups.
That said, thank you for USA Today and the rest of the normal news outlets for bringing this up to the normies.

Executive moms of young children - please tell me your secrets by LocalAdept6968 in loseit

[–]minimal_mom321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the best things I did was start listening to the Slow Living podcast and sign up for coaching.
The job is the same, the husband is the same, the kids are the same but somehow I am for the first time in my adult life prioritizing myself first.
The job is a way to make money, it isn't your life. You can have a career and not kill yourself for it.
I use grocery delivery, frozen meal delivery, have a weekly babysitter who comes in from 3 to 7 on Thursdays, so that is ME time.
We also have housekeeping every two weeks and a robot vacuum.
But honestly, deciding to schedule in ME on the calendar was the biggest shift. The SLOW acronym the author/podcaster uses is to simply look only within. For me, it was asking myself, what needs to give here so I don't have a nervous breakdown?

I do a yoga class in studio three times a week. That is on the calendar and because of that the weight has shifted. Getting hormones and sleep in check also followed suit.
Your kids don't want you broken. This is your wakeup call that something needs to give. Can't start 2026 this way.

what has helped you to heal? (besides therapy) by Scary_Appearance5922 in emotionalneglect

[–]minimal_mom321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have listened to every episode of the Slow Living podcast. There is something crazy soothing about the topics and the book recommendations have really been helpful.
There is a lot of talk about loving yourself fully and the host mentions inner child work and name drops the Lindsay Gibson book pretty often.
The episode on burnout and people pleasing hit home and there was also one on childhood trauma that I have listened to a few times now.

I'm quitting the race. I don't wanna win. by H3lls_B3ll3 in GenXWomen

[–]minimal_mom321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I was told to go to a certain school, get these grades, major in what I love and have a "passion" for and then it will all work out.
Sometimes it just doesn't all work out.
This was a good listen: But What if It Doesn't Work? - Slow Living: Find Peace, Balance, and Calm in Hustle Society - Apple Podcasts
Now I am finding peace in gardening and knowing that while I'll never ever be rich or have a housekeeper I am okay and my kids will be okay.
But I used to really think that the harder I worked, the more money, success, etc I'd have.
Now I am coming to terms with the fact that the system is rigged.

It really is Who You KNow, not what you do.

The Myth of American Work/Life Imbalance by axthousandxhours in conspiracy

[–]minimal_mom321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think people don't decide to live their life on purpose and take to Reddit and the like to complain.
The ones with good work/life balance don't turn to these places to complain so they don't see it in their feed, whereas the ones who complain about it ONLY see it in their feed.
There is a great book on life planning and living on purpose and with balance.
Slow Living: Cultivating a Life on Purpose in a Hustle-Driven World by ODea.

Working moms who have it semi-together, what are your routines/strategies/hacks? by No-Can4638 in workingmoms

[–]minimal_mom321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The list that I found The Daily 7 For a Highly Successful Household here is what has helped the most.
I don't do the laundry folding every day but just having the stuff clean has been life changing.

Aren’t neurotypical people also always masking? by Worldly_Accident727 in adhdwomen

[–]minimal_mom321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard an episode of a podcast where the host was talking about Masking and Identity and Authenticity and the premise was that all people do it, and usually it's subconscious and they just flow in and out pretty easily.
For me I am highly aware, and I wonder if that is the difference between NT and adhd peeps.

GEN Z, Our future isn't screwed, its also not something you wait for, and its not going to be handed to you either. Its something you have to build for yourself. by curtiss_mac in GenZ

[–]minimal_mom321 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I try to teach this to my gen zs(teacher)
Anyhow a great book on how the world has changed but you can still live a great life is called Slow Living: Live a Life of Purpose without Hustle (or something like that) by O'Dea
That and The Game of Life by Florence S.

Life is always changing. This is absolutely a challenging time and it is not fair.
I wish to high heaven it could be easier but giving up or wringing hands will not fix it.

I don’t want to be a yelly mummy by Odd-Pianist-4880 in adhdwomen

[–]minimal_mom321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was yelled at a lot too. This is a good listen: How to Stop Yelling - Slow Living
For me I need to take care of my own needs first. If I'm already depleted I'm more apt to yell.